My girlfriend is self conscious and she says she's not sentimental. Her first boyfriend (and also the one before me) was controlling and an asshole. Truth is she's both beautiful and sexy, and I am sentinmental! I love the cheesy stuff (Think "You're Body Is A Wonderland" by John Mayer)! How can I make her believe in love again?
2006-06-20 08:19:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop trying so hard and just be nice and be there, once she learns to relax and be comfortable around you and realizes you are not going to hurt her she will respond.
2006-06-20 08:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you go out ask her what she would like to do give her the option let her take control on the date make her feel secure that no matter what you will be there for her and it is not just her looks and her body that you are after listen when she talks she maybe saying some thing important in a round about way to avoid being hurt with time she will come around.go sit on a hill top just the 2 of you and stare at the stars and hold each other no communication required.
2006-06-20 15:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by shelly f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and wait it out. ALways be supportive, patient, and understanding. As a survivor of domestic violence, I must warn you that most of us are a tough egg to crack due to the trauma of the experience. But once the trust is built up well enough, we too are very affectionate, sentimental and happy people inside. It sounds to me that your girlfriend is still badly in need of counselling, and it wouldnt hurt for you to join her in seperate couple counselling sessions. That kind of history is difficult to overcome and takes time, but it is worth it. Contact any local battered women's services in your area for more info on the subject. GL
2006-06-20 15:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by buckstopshere27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only way. Keep showing her stable love and affection. Sounds like you think highly of her. Just keep pumping her full of sunshine.
It is hard out there and lots of people wear love scars some are deeper than others.
2006-06-20 15:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Shebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes if you over do it, then it doesn't mean as much.
She needs to feel good from the inside before she can accept that she is beautiful on the outside. Don't mention her body or her sexiness. Her heart, her kindness, her smile, her laugh.
2006-06-20 15:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by ruletheworld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋