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Howdy,

Oh drag! So I have this really cool girlfriend, we have been together for about 4 months.

When we started our relationship we were both at 10 (on a scale of 1-10) and it was amazing. During this time she truely captured my heart and I couldn't imagine life without her. I turned my end up to 12 (on a scale of 1-10) and have been doing everything I can think of to make her happy, I have even spend nearly $1000 and climbed mountains and everything. But she has turned down to 5! Ouch! She starves me of affection and won't say romantic things to me, even if I ask. I get a "baby" and an "I love you" but that is all.

So now all I can do is try not think of her, try not to miss the 10 that we once shared, she is happy to continue at 5 but to me it is so unfullfilling. She tells me that in the beginning "love is blind" or some crap and now she is not so "mad crazy" about me, but does not want to break up, just wants to continue on. In my opinion like "luke warm"

What do y'all think?

2006-06-20 08:18:24 · 11 answers · asked by spystyle 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

11 answers

I think that she's taking you for granted since you seem to spoil her rotten. You need to ease up off her and not give her so much attention. Give her the chance to miss you. Then she will start to appreciate you more.

2006-06-20 08:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 1 0

Well many people get comfortable in a relationship and it cools down, its a bit early for yours to cool though, usually its after 25 years of marriage or something. If you are not happy in the relationship tell her and break up, just remember, the grass is not always greener on the other side. The next relationship might not be as 'high' to start with and you might regret leaving this girl, you still think she is cool, and she is faithful and treats you well so what is the problem? Millions of us guys out here don't even have half of what you have, you know that old saying ' a bird in the hand etc etc'

2006-06-20 08:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Pete 5 · 0 0

It sounds kind of like my marriage. Its been 19 years together. The question is always the same one. Is the relationship good enough most of the time to keep it going for you. She has to figure out her answer to that question also. Also, you both need to define what you will tolerate and what you won't. The deal breakers. Then , if luke warm is god enough then its good enough. We can still remember or imagine other sparks still. Just can't live them anymore.

2006-06-20 08:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0 0

If your happy with luke warm continue on. You can't make someone feel what they don't. I have found we woman want what we don't have. Step out of the picture explaining you want more out of a relationship that lukewarm. Get on with your life most of the time if it is meant to be it won't take more than a month or so before we realize you meant more to us than we realized. Don't give her everything she wants we like a challenge, so challenge her mind and her heart who knows you might win and if not you have not lost anything to begin with you can't loose what you don't possess. In the meantime Ms. Right might be getting away.

2006-06-20 08:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by joejo 2 · 0 0

Sometimes we as women get tired of the same old thing in a relationship! The things that you are doing for her, she probably expects it from you because you do them all the time!! Spice things up a little do something different! Also she's probably thinking about marriage but doesnt want to push you but, angry at the same time because its what she wants.

2006-06-20 08:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by Aprilshowers 1 · 0 0

Ok I have to be honest, I have been wiht my bf for three years today and at first that is how it was...he def. loved me way too much that it is almost scary...I bet you if you stopped beig so affectionate and lovey dovey she is going to want it so give her a taste of what it is liek without it and she will want you more that way. You have to spice things up for her to want to be affectionate..dont involve money..do things from the heart not the pocket! Good luck!

2006-06-20 08:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by 21Nights 3 · 0 0

.... u being greedy for wat u have enjoy now...after love is not about who love who more, u can not measure it...if u think u love her more and she do not love u as much as she love u then dump her after all the honeymoon period has already ended. all relationship has a honeymoon period, some end early some end later...if u wish the feeling to remain at 10 then find new gf....there is nothing call everlasting love remember...my opinion u better prepare for the worst...

2006-06-20 08:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You have to look at it this way. Do you want to remain in a relationship in which you are unhappy. If she realizes that this is really bothering you, the issue will be addressed

It is better to be alone that unhappy

2006-06-20 08:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by ♥--->{Shauntee}<---♥ 4 · 0 0

She's not into you anymore. Let her go. Stop spending money on her. The more you pressure her, the more she'll resist. Good luck!

2006-06-20 08:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0 0

Wish I knew, mine has been a year and a half.

2006-06-20 08:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by Duke 2 · 0 0

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