Me and my girlfriend have been together for about a month now. And you know she has facebook and xanga. And when I go to look at them, I notce she always has ALOT of guys commenting her telling her how beautiful she is and calling her sweetie and wanting to know when they can hang out sometime. Well, I would go to the guys sites, and see wat she says, like she would tell them she misses them too and can't wait to see them. And I have tried to talk to her about it, saying it makes me un-comfortable to see her saying that to other guys, and I dotn feel she should be doing that, then she gave me the lil "You need to trust me" speech, so I shut up, well, I have noticed she kept doing the same things, well I finally went to the guys sites n told them that I didnt appreciate them calling her sweetie and baby and that I dont want them planning to spend anytime with her, cause I would feel weird knowing my g/f is out supposedly "hanging out" with another guy.
2006-06-20 08:10:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she knew it bothered you and really cared about you, she would be doing something and you wouldn't have to. i would keep track of both her and the guys. it's not just a matter of trust, but respect as well.
2006-06-20 08:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by midnightrose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess you got the wrong gal is your girlfriend! I been in your situation and well she should have stopped since you told her that it makes you uncomfortable for your relationships sake but seems like she doesn't care it makes you feel. She giving you a lecturing on trusting is typical and tell her to not do anything that will make you lose the trust you have in her.... and ask her to put herself in your shoes and think for a moment that your writing those things to other girls how would she feel?
And if things does not seems to work its better to take your own separate way now. Its only been a month she should be more around you than on the net surfing..... i hope you guys didn't meet over the net!
Anyways good luck!
2006-06-20 08:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN.
MYSPACE, FACEBOOK, XANGA. ETC ETC ETC.
they are bullshit drama whore sites. if you own one, and GIVE A DAMN about what people have to say on them, you are an immature twit.
you need to tell her that if she hangs out with these guys, then she is betraying you, and that you KNOW that she would probably kill you if you ever hung out with another girl, even if it was innocent.
stop looking at her site, and dont talk to these guys, but keep your eyes and ears open, and if she EVER cheats on you, or hangs out with a guy with intentions to do more than just talk,
LEAVE HER, and dont give her the time of day, dont even acknowledge her when she calls, and ignore her, let her know that she hurt you, and that she doesn't deserve you
but DONT tell her that you dont trust her, because that means you think she would betray you, and a good relationship can not survive with these thoughts going on.
2006-06-20 08:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by sobrien 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your issue is really with your girlfriend, not the guys. She needs to respect the relationship when she's in your presence and when she is not. She's beyond flirtatious. She's giving these guys the impression that she's single and that possibly they have a chance with her. So you need to speak to her again. Her actions are disrespectful to you and the relationship. She needs to tell you that she will stop, not give you the 'trust me' speech. If she doesn't say she'll stop you should consider ending the relationship. Because who's to say that she hasn't already gone out with these guys if she's telling them that she misses them. Her behavior is not that of a person commited to her relationship.
2006-06-20 08:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your doing the right thing....altho you should trust her, even if it's a little bit. She has the right to talk to and hang out with other guys too. Just like you have the right to do that with other Ladies.
And if you feel weird if she hangs out with another guy see if it's OK if you go along. Just make sure nobody feels like the third wheel!
I hope this helps!
::.bee.::
2006-06-20 08:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a girlfriend and no one is commenting on her beauty then something is wrong. You are not the only one that will like/love her in this lifetime. Maybe she is just flirting with these guys, people flirt all the time on these friendship sites. I'm on hi5 and I flirt with others.
If you are uncomfortable then try speaking with her again and also try to exercise MORE trust.
2006-06-20 08:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by sassy_sexy_honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what your problem is. It's not trust, it's respect. It sounds like she doesn't respect you or your feelings enough to stop her actions. She may be doing some harmless flirting but she needs to consider the fact that it is bothering you. Ask her to put herself in your shoes. Ultimately, however, you are responsible for your own happiness. If she is not willing to compromise or resolve this issue, you have to come to terms with your heart and your head and ask yourself is she worth your happines.
2006-06-20 08:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by DEVILSCORNER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the guys fault. They are just doing what any guys would do. If you have been with her for a month now and she is doing this with your knowledge, you are wasting your time. Believe me now, or believe me later, but the end is near.
2006-06-20 08:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by tsmitha1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... you have a right to worry. Try telling her that you feel like she's cheating on you, and that no matter how much you trust her, seeing her constanly borderline-cheat on you with your own two eyes disturbs you.
2006-06-20 08:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this chick sounds kinda skanky..u sure u wanna be with a hoe? dump her if u can't trust her and ur not sure what she may be doin on the net.
2006-06-20 08:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♥HOOTERS GURL♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋