What do you do when your girlfriend wants space. She says I am smoothering her by asking too many questions.?

Question

I have been with this girl for six months and we have basically a good relationship. We have ben to Vegas among other places. Lately we have begun to argue alot and she has asked for space. I hate it but I am supporting her decision. What gives? I thought women wanted guys to be into them.

Answer 1

Women love for men to be into us, but sometimes relationships can be a little overwhelming for us, too (not just men). As someone who's been in this situation quite a few times, I can say that the best thing you can do is back off a bit and give her the space she's asking for - if you don't, she'll more than likely take that as a sign that her needs and feelings aren't important to you. Don't pressure her - needing space isn't necessarily about you at all, but about things mentally or otherwise she's trying to deal with. Also, do little things on occasion to show her you're still into her and thinking about her, like arranging, in advance, an actual date with her, or writing her a sweet email that you know she'll read first thing in the morning - these are just ideas, you've known her for a bit, so go with what you know she'll like. Lastly be honest - tell her exactly what you just wrote, about not digging the whole space thing, but that you'll do it for her. Just watch what happens.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

Girlfriend Wants Space

Answer 3

This is a red flag.!

You have to honestly ask yourself why she wants some space :
Am I too controlling?
Are my questions too invasive?
Am I insecure?
Am I jealous?

Make adjustments in your behavior if needed, then giver her SPACE.

Change the way you view your time away from her. Look at it as a way to add new dimensions to your life (which will make you more interesting)! Go to the gym, take up running/jogging, take an on-line course in a subject that interests you or will further your career, take a night class, join a business group, take ballroom dancing lessons, volunteer in your community, become a mountain-biker, attend church and help with their charitable activities, join Toastmasters, get a make-over (new hairstyle, new clothes, manicure, pedicure, etc.) or read great literature. You get the idea.

She'll wonder what you're up to (absence makes the heart grow fonder) and you'll be doing something great for yourself as well as meeting new people in the process.

Don't let her right to request some space invalidate the feelings you have about yourself. You deserve to do things that positively affect your self-esteem and enhance your life, with or without her!

P.S. Resist the urge to call her all the time - give her the gift of waiting to hear from you.

Answer 4

Yes but I am telling you if you back off and don't call as much and act not so interested she will come running. Act as though you going on with your life and she is not such a big part of it anymore and she will come around. Take my advice I am a woman and seen more times than one. We all want something we can't have. So give her some space and you take some space too. Let her see how it is without you in it.

Answer 5

Texting is private and intimate. Texting is the
perfect way to create a private and intimate world between you and
the man or woman in your life. For women in particular, texting
can end up being a fun “game” where they can do or say anything
(even things they would never do in the “real” world).
Texting is non confrontational. Odds are your relationship
ended on a heated note. I don’t know why you and your ex broke
up, but there was probably at least one (if not a few dozen) big
fights. Done properly (the way I’m going to teach you), texting is
simple and subtle. You can slowly feed your ex tested and proven
messages and ideas without the risk of either one of you flying
off the handle, falling back into old and destructive patterns, and
throwing plates at each other.


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Answer 6

She doesn't want to be around you for some reason. Move on. Women are like cats... either up on you or running away from you. This question of trying to understand a women has never been answered since beginning of time. Women don't even understand themselves. You just got to go with the flow(that's the answer to anything dealing with women).

Answer 7

Maybe she is right. Listen to what she is saying about smothering her. Don;t get your feelings hurt, hear what she has to say or before long she will be gone. Being into someone...means caring and knowing what they need. Obviously you didn't that is why she asked for the space. Support her with this and give her the time to be alone.

Answer 8

Give her space or you'll lose her fast. In a weeks time give her one call, if she doesn't answer, perfect, leave a message saying that you would like to see her again and miss her. DON'T CALL AFTER THAT. If she calls you back go slow by giving her small gifts (3 small gifts in a week, etc.: flowers, a shirt, offering to pay for little stuff like lunch or where ever ya'll are at). If she doesn't call you back than sorry, that means it's over.

Answer 9

give her a very straight forward agreement with these terms;you will give her all space within the parameters to do as she wants no questions asked but make sure the things you decide are ok for her are things you want to be able to do without her knowing about your activities or having to inform her that you're going to do them.If she want agree to your terms you need to start looking quickly for someone else in your life.

Answer 10

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They might realize they need you and come crawling back!

If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.