How do I learn to trust them again? I've been hurt alot and played, and it is hard for me to believe anything a man says. I feel like they are all just running game.
2006-06-20 07:50:25 · 29 answers · asked by judyju2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not literally a dozen men , but quite a few. They always come at me. I done even go to bars. I just be walking home from work or at the grocery store.
2006-06-20 08:11:13 · update #1
Men are like predators just lookin for prey.
2006-06-20 08:12:27 · update #2
pray little mama!! Not all guys play games. like me for example, I don't. But you do need to be cautious there are alot of "no good-sap-suckers" out there that are just looking for a good girl to ruin. Once you realize your "perfect" self worth, you won't care how many sucker you dismiss because you 'll know in your heart you are getting rid of the for the right reasons. Alright? All you have to do are these three simple things I'm about to tell you and you'll win everytime. First, get a realization of who YOU are. The beautiful sweet woman you are. Two, decied WHAT you want in a man and stick to it. Third, don't ever sell yourself short..remember..NO FEAR!!!!!
2006-06-20 08:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 3⤋
Honestly, that is the million dollar question. The only way that you can learn to trust again would be to put yourself out there and hope for the best. Love gives no guarentees so your best bet would be to try to screen guys as much as you can before you completely commit. Go out a few times (like 10 times) before you get physical. Let your friends sniff Mr. Hottie out. If he does fishy stuff like never call you (you have to call him) or flirt with other girls in front of you, don't brush it off as you being paranoid. You're having these issues because men have proved that they can be jerks, and your instincts may seem too strong but they're there to protect you. It's about trying to find a balance between holding back and giving in. Don't throw yourself into something completely just because a guy seems trustworthy, let him have you in peices, a little bit at a time and if it goes well, it's because you took the time to trust him. If it doesn't go well, you didn't lose a lot.
2006-06-20 07:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOMEN...!!!!* *1 .** (Whatever)* Men: What should we have for dinner? Women: Whatever.. Men: Why dont we have Mexican? Women: No not Mexican, the last time i got pimples on my face Men: Alright, why dont we have Si Chuan cuisine Women: Yesterday we ate Si Chuan, today too? Men: Hmm..... I suggest we have seafood Women: Seafood is not good, I got diarrhoea Men: Then what do you suggest? Women : Whatever.. :-?* 2. (Anything)* Men: So what should we do now? Women: Anything Men: How about watching a movie? It's been a long time Women: Watching movie is no good, it's a waste of time Men: How about we go for bowling, or some exercises? Women: Exercise on such a hot day? Men: Then find a cafe' and have a drink Women: I am off caffeine Men: Then what do you suggest? Women: Anything :o* 3. (You decide)* Men: Then do we just go home? Women: You decide Men: Let's take the bus, I will accompany you Women: The Bus is dirty and crowded. Men: Ok we will take a cab Women: Not worth it... for such a short distance Men: All right, then we can walk. We can enjoy the weather Women: I am hungry, can't walk. Men: Then what do you suggest? Women: *You decide* Men: Let's have dinner first Women: *Whatever...* Men: Eat what? Women: *Anything...*
2016-03-15 12:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by Michele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're the one playing the field???? I mean, a dozen attractive men? weekly??? C'mon, maybe every man to you is attractive. Maybe you're always putting up a show and leading them on, you know, trying to seduce them? Intentional or not on your part, men pick up these signals quite well. That's not a good way to start a relationship, unless sex is what you're after.
2006-06-20 07:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by judge_d'red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a long hard road to travel and it goes both ways...it's not just men it's people period...so many of us only want for ourselves and never consider who gets hurt in the process...I've been where you are, as a matter of fact I'm there now...but I'll never give up and you shouldn't either...we all want love and happiness...we all want someone we can trust with our lives...but nothing will be given to us if we're not out there looking for it...you'll find what you want...and you'll be happy...but slow it down a lil...and don't give your all so fast...i wish you the best...and when you find out that i was right...just let me know i helped you stay just what you are...a strong young lady...
2006-06-20 08:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by bravo95165 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop going to bars to meet men. If you naturally meet someone in a place not designed to help people hook up you might have a little more luck. Guys go to bars to get drunk and hook up with a chick. Chicks go to bars to.... help me out here. Now if you arent going to bars or the like, then here's what you gotta do. Go out to eat somewhere like a foodcourt and if there is some guy sitting by himself, chances are he's harmless, independent, and has nobody to impress. If you try this and the guys dont come up to you, its because they are shy or married. So try that or a variation. Good luck
2006-06-20 07:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by alienorgy69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, we're all running game. You just have to gear up, put on ur Bob the builder pants and get a little optimism and mix it with awareness. Loosing ur trust for anything closes the door on that experience, just be aware. To be aware is to be alive. Play the game w/ a little strategy. Don't look for too much, don't expect too much, still invest like you want something better. There are ood guys, just like there are good girls, we all just have to find one another.
2006-06-20 08:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are good looking, you may not be wrong that they are trying to play you.
if so many men come to you it is because you look nice and that means that they are sexually attracted by you.
that is normal, and it is a good way to get someone interested, only that do not give them what they are looking for straight away and then you will find out if they are really interested in you as a person too.
if things still go wrong, carry on trying that is life but eventuall you know you will find the right person for you, so take it easy babes and good luck.
2006-06-20 07:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by que pasa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. Don't be in too much of a hurry to forgive and trust guys. Patience is a virtue.
2006-06-20 07:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, in order for a man to not play you..you have to act high class. dress nicely and not too open. maybe then, a guy would actually see pass your outside appearances. but about the question. i think most men tries too hard to win the game, they just don't get how annoying they are. i agree though, it is hard to trust them.
2006-06-20 07:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by 27stars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A dozen weekly? what bar do you go to, or corner you stand at? Men do not come by the dozen unless you are flashing your boobs, sorry. So, change your habbit or place of meeting these type of people.
2006-06-20 07:57:17 · answer #11 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋