my parents r against this relation jst coz he is not good looking i dont want to leave him 4 this stupid reason pls help me what shoud i do
2006-06-20 07:46:53 · 29 answers · asked by hot chilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are an adult and old enough to make your own choices who cares what you parents think. They are being shallow and you have to do what makes you happy. If he makes you happy then be with him. Don't let other people steal your joy
2006-06-20 07:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by mZgRoW*N*sExY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's so unusual for grown adults to reject someone on such shallow basis I can't help but wonder if there's not more to it. You sound really young, and I wonder if they're trying to avoid offending you in a way that will push you into running off and eloping. They may just want you to mature more before you consider marriage. Why not give the relationship some time before any sort of legal commitment? Meanwhile, spend lots of time with you guy and discuss life goals, religion of your children, who's going to bring home the bacon, plans to purchase a home, child discipline preferrances, relationship expectations, career goals, savings ideas, location to live, and other important decisions you must make before marriage can be considered. Good luck.
2006-06-20 07:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by maynerdswife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a good person and treats you well and you are in love, then marry him. Looks aren't everything ya know. A
great looking guy could be the devil to live with and treat you awful.
Talk to your parents and make sure that looks are the only think they are concerned about and tell them you are not a shallow person and looks are not all that matters.
If they cannot understand than then they will just have to get over it, it is your life to live as you choose. Best of luck to both of you.
2006-06-20 07:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by patticakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you love him and are attracted to him, then nothing else matters. Just because your parents don't think he is good looking, doesn't mean that he isn't. Who's marrying the guy, you or your parents? The only thing that your parents should be concerned about is that he loves you, takes care of you, and treats you right.
2006-06-20 07:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by sami_d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hopefully I can help. I am basically in the same situation. My family is constantly telling me I can do better than the guy Im with now because he isnt all that hot. But I have to tell you, he treats me better than any other 'hot' guy Ive ever dated. So, Im gonna tell you what I wish my family would tell me. As long as YOU are happy and he treats you like a queen and you love him, you stay with him. You are the one who will spend the rest of your life with him, not your parents and Im assuming, since youre talking about marriage, you are an adult....so act like one and take your life into your own hands!
2006-06-20 07:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by breeokc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you? If you are an adult, and this man makes you happy, can provide for you, yadda, yadda...then to *ell with your parents! Unless your parents are just completely unreasonable, then there must be some other reason for their disapproval. You should have a sit down, heart-to-heart with them, and tell them all the reasons why you love this man! If you are a teenager who thinks you're in love, then (sorry to say it), your parents probably have more than a few good reasons for disapproval....and you should listen to them.good luck!
2006-06-20 07:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to judge a person by his/her look while looking for a life partner is probably the biggest mistake people do and regret all their life. The physical attraction dies down in a couple of months.
if i can imagine that iam 60 and can still enjoy my spouse comapny even if we are left for weeks together by ourself -thats the kind of person i would get married to. Parents usually have good in their heart for their children but it is not neccessary that it is good for thier child. Give them time and be persuasive and they will come around. convince that how this person can provid e for u financially and emotionally. love conquers all
2006-06-20 07:55:31 · answer #7 · answered by SURAJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a stupid reason. Don't listen to your parents. If you're old enough, you can marry whomever you wish.
You could find a good looking guy and he'll wind up being a jerk.
Nice guys are hard to find.
2006-06-20 07:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm quite sure... the problem ISN'T looks.
I'm quite sure that they have conserns about YOUR and HIS maturity.
Look at your phrasing of the question!
It looks like it was done by a 14 year old.
Seriously... sit with your parents and get the REAL reasons... You'll see. Parents are SELDOM wrong about these things.
2006-06-20 07:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you are old and need someone to be there for you your parents will probably not be around. When you marry someone they become your family. Do what makes you happy it's your life. Good Luck!!
2006-06-20 07:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by squashpatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents they should be proud of you for not being a shallow person. They should be happy you found someone you care about and treats you right. Ask them wold they rather you have a good looking guy who treats you like crap?
2006-06-20 07:52:26 · answer #11 · answered by sookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋