My grandmother sent us a gift in the mail. We wish not to keep the gift. Because she did not want to come to the reception. I'll feel if she didnt want to come to the reception, then i dont want her gift. I asked for her to be there, not the gift.
2006-06-20 07:31:35 · 18 answers · asked by ~desi~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She loves my fiance, thats not the reason. The reason she wont come is because my aunt is not coming, because she wants me to say sorry for something that i dont even know what for. Has to do with my cousion being arrested awhile back, she blames me. Even though i had nothing to do with him. Its already a fued, it has been. I just wanted my granny to see us on our big day
2006-06-20 08:22:47 · update #1
Ceremony is private, witness only ( woulndt have them if i could)
2006-06-20 08:23:56 · update #2
If you want to continue the feud, return the gift. Otherwise just keep it.
2006-06-21 13:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by daisy519 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes elderly people do not have the energy to attend events like receptions. When you get older your body starts hurting and you tire out more easily. She might be ailing and may not want to say anything to you so as not to ruin your big day. Please try to be compassionate and assume the best about this woman.
The only time it is acceptable to return a gift is if you call off the wedding.
You should thank her for the gift and let her know how much you missed her at the reception and find out how she is doing. She might not tell you if there is anything wrong or make light of her health problems to spare you.
Give grandma a break!
2006-06-20 07:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by Denise C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone gives you a gift (no matter who they are) then you can do whatever you want with it: keep it, sell it, exchange it, return it, or give it away. There must be some reason why your grandmother couldn't come to your wedding, if you don't know the reason ask her politely "I really missed you at my wedding. Was there something wrong?" and wait for her response. If you start having a cow before she even answers your question, then she'll end up getting defensive.
2006-06-20 07:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the gift. You will likely make the problem worse if you send it back to your grandmother. Send her a nice thank you note and say how much you missed/will miss having her at the reception.
2006-06-20 10:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's extremely rude. I think it's a stupid reason, too. Do you even know why she didn't come? Have you talked to her about it? Before you start jumping to harsh conclusion and try to spite your grandmother, call her and see what's up. Does she hate your new husband or was her back problem more than she could bare that day? I'm sure that if she was being hateful, she wouldn't have sent anything.
2006-06-20 07:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by kaiticometrue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. You've got the right to be upset at your grandmother, but sending the gift back really wouldn't do much except stir up more problems. If you really want to make a statement by sending it back, just talk to her personally (or write to her) and let her know how you feel.
2006-06-20 07:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please have a long talk with your grandmother first. Maybe there is a good reason she didn't come to your reception. (What about the ceremony?) Maybe she is physically unable. Listen to her response and forgive her for not attending. Accept the gift as token of your grandmother's love and move on.
2006-06-20 07:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by PrincessT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Desi, sometime we think that rejecting someone elses gift will ease the matter that they did not show up. Really the matter will only get worse and inside you, your anger will hurt you more than her. Just ask her why she didn't show up and let her know that she would of been the best gift if she would have been there. Don't return.
2006-06-20 07:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger person. Send a nice thank you note.
(Proverbs 26:20) Where there is no wood the fire goes out
(Proverbs 26:21) As charcoal for the embers and wood for the fire, so is a contentious man for causing a quarrel to glow.
2006-06-22 19:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never return a gift to the purchaser - it is always rude, tacky and very ungracious. Whatever your deal with your grandma, have the decency to accept her gift.
2006-06-21 00:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋