ive been dating a guy for over a yr but he doesnt want a serious relationship i know hes not with noone else b

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he spends all his free time w me he treats me good but theres a big age difference. this guys is educated, divorced for 2 yrs after a 22 year marriage, and treats me w respect. However, im 26 and hes 44. i want kids he doesnt, he doesnt want to ever remarry id love to get married. hes a lawyer and has an established lawfirm and im still in school. Recently i met a guy whos the complete opposite. he is 25, outgoing, obnoxious, wants to have children and get married someday and has a outgoing personality. he makes me feel young but is a bit inmature. i told the lawyer that i went on a date and he said nothing but overwhelmed me w sarcastic remarks. im not sure why hes wasting his time w me if he wants nothing serious. should i give up on him or hang on? In the past ive tried to end things but he comes back around. should i continue seeing the obnoxious 25 yr old or am i acting desperate. im so confused plz help

Answer 1

You're still young. He's been there, done that. It sounds like you're his secruity. He has someone to spend time with and all of the things that come with a relationship but not putting a title on it makes it easier to have other options if they come along without the hassel of cheating or breaking it off with you. You're both on different pages. If he's not willing to understand or compromise where you're coming from with the kids and marriage than why are you willing to stay with him if later on you're not going to be happy about not having either?