Is this saying true?

Question

once a cheater always a cheater or can a person change....?

Answer 1

If you can figure this out let me know. lol

I am in a similar situation with someone i care about and whether or not she technically "Cheated".

Here is what I currently believe. I understand why those say once a cheater always a cheater. There are a fair amount who probably don't change their ways.

On the other hand there are also success stories about how doing something stupid like cheating makes a person realize just what they had/have is special and they end up changing. Also sometimes people cheat to figure out things.

All in all what do I believe. I currently feel that people can change and probably always will but i can see it from both sides.

Answer 2

Once a cheater always a cheater. Also remember people do not change overnight it takes a long time for some one to change if they even do. Actions speak louder than words.

Answer 3

It's wrong. I hate to admit it, but I cheated on 2 boyfriends. Then, I met the guy I'm with now. I have never even THOUGHT about doing so, and it's been 2 1/2 years. The only reason I did before, was because I didn't love those people. I was bored with them, and tired of the same day-after-day life. Unfortunately, it took me cheating to realize that I had to break up with them, which I did. Don't judge people for mistakes that they've made in the past. Not everyone will make the same choices again. I haven't, and won't.

Answer 4

I believe that a person can only change if something dramatic happen in their life 2 make them change. Like a death of a close person or they come home 2 find their partner in bed having sex with someone else. Something that will give their heart a jolt. Otherwise nah.Once you are grown u are what u have become. Even when something dramatic happens,when the shock wears off you normally revert back 2 what u were before u made all those promises.

Answer 5

It's true. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater.

A leopard never changes its spots.

Answer 6

People can and do change. Just don't be too quick to trust a cheater.

Answer 7

Not everyone is the same . some people do change but there are a lot that don't , so I would say go on your instinct but the sad thing is that it mostly don't last cause the trust is gone and with that gone there is really no reason for getting back together again cause your only making more pain . That's my opinion but I wish you the best luck and take care

Answer 8

A person can change but not because of someone else. It is a change that must come from within due to maturity and knowledge. I speak from experience. It takes time but true change can come. For me it took the closest person to me cheating and then I realized what I have done to so many others.

Answer 9

before, i would have agreed with that statment, but i have been the cheater before! i cheated for 2 reason's........the first was because something was lacking in the relationship and i wanted to 'test' how much they loved and cared for me. the second was i knew deep down i didn't love or care for the guys as much a i thought and rather than fess up, i was a coward and wanted them to dump me!

sad but true...................................BUT.........believe it or not it has changed my whole perspective. i would never dream of cheating on ANYONE now because i don't like the fact that i have hurt some people. so, the long winded answer to yhour question is.............YES i believe people can change! PHEEWWW!!!

Answer 10

I guess that since you cheat once, it makes you a cheater always. While that doesn't guarantee or predict future behavior, it does tell you that there is a greater chance.