im wondering why people think long dis. relationships work out?? if your in one please tell me...im not in one...but im curious as all hell as to what makes you think they will work? what kind of a relationship is it when you cant hug, kiss cuddle with the person? you cant enjoy spur of the moment laughs, crys? you cant be there physically for them in their times of crisis? always having to wait for them to get online or pick up the phone...and then the stress of wondering if they are even being faithful....i mean come on...what are your thoughts? anyone agree...all are welcome to answer and if you are in a L.D.R. please....enlighten me....
2006-06-20 07:06:21 · 7 answers · asked by lastofodyinbreed 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey thanks all your input is great and all but the ones im really concentrating on are the L.D.R.'s that are like totally based on phone convos and email and all that...sounds like most of you have already met them and then went for the LDR....but thank you anyway...always curious..
2006-06-20 07:33:38 · update #1
sorry i didnt elaborate that earlier...but for the people who view this from now on...thanks..
2006-06-20 07:34:30 · update #2
ok, i am in a LDR and its working great!! so, background-we were best friends for two years before we started dating...we would talk for hours every night and had been there for each other through everything! so four months ago, we decided to start dating....now he is in college an hour away so its been kinda tough, just because we miss seeing each other more often....but we both trust each other in everything and b/c our relationship is based on trust and communication, getting to kno each other via phone, etc, it has really been working out.......we call each other for everything and have gotten so much closer....plus it makes the times we get to see each other more special!! =D so it depends on the trust factor really, otherwise there is no relationship.....well, hope this helps!!
2006-06-20 07:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have a close relationship and you're FORCED to go long-distance for a while (short-term job assignment, family emergency, etc) it can definitely work and that's a reason for doing it, provided you know that the LDR will eventually end with a NO distance relationship (NDR).
Committing to an LDR and knowing that there's no real chance of it becoming a NDR is another way of saying "I'd like some romance, excitement and support in my life with this particular person but I'm not going full-boat for it". Which is also totally cool, provided both people are totally honest about it and whether it will be an open or closed LDR.
IMO, seeing as half of current marriages end in divorce, a committed LDR might be a best option for a lot of people, as the physical distance can prevent some of the typical problems associated with dating close to home that LDRers don't want (like feeling distracted by the other person all the time, feeling "smothered", getting the "needy" vibe, etc).
2006-06-20 07:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Makakio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you have to have the right connection to make one work.
I am currently in one (but not for much longer). I met her at work where I live now and everything just fell into place so perfectly. She had already made plans to move 450 miles away before we even met.
She's been gone for 5 months now and I will join her in about 2 weeks.
What works for us really is communication. Before she left, we talked about rules and expectations. Such as: we will talk on the phone every day no matter what and if it is not possible, we will let each other know by text msg.
Like I said, I think you have to have the right connection beforehand.
I can honestly say our relationship is much stronger than it was when she left and that is because we've had to develop the non-physical aspects of our relationship to keep it going. Communication, understanding, goals, dreams... all the things that you wouldn't really develop in a relationship where you're too busy kissing, cuddling, having sex, etc.
2006-06-20 07:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LDRs can work out but you must remember, LDRs are built primarily on trust. And trust is something most people cannot truly fathom and something that many people take advantage of these days. If you can't be honest and trust each other, a LDR is doomed to never work out.
2006-06-20 07:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all based on honestly and communication. It is amazing how you can love somebody a thousand miles away, because love has no limitations. LDR are just basically loving somebody next to you.
2006-06-20 07:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...no not at all, friend it can but pushing it to another level definitely not
...but you'll never know what will future brings
2006-06-20 07:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST
2006-06-20 07:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋