A guy pal of mine told me he had participated in group sex of many varieties that included sex with a wife while the husband was present. He also told me that he had actively sought membership in a spouse swapping group.
I always thought I was pretty open minded sexually. I have got to admit though, I am floored. I never personally knew anyone who had these experiences or actively sought them. I am not a prude by any stretch, however, I think what shocks me the most is that a husband would be happy for his wife to be touching another man...in front of him none the less.
I want to know honestly from guys and gals...what do you think about this type of activity and about a person who said they had participated?
2006-06-20 06:50:35 · 22 answers · asked by Shebaby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some men "get off" watching their wife having sex with another man. I personally think that's sick myself. I don't want some man all over the woman I live with(if I was married, that is). As for the guy that took part in that ,he was just doing what some guys do, and that is, having fun...not saying I would do it. I don't want some other man's wife myself.
2006-06-20 06:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 15⤊ 3⤋
I have participated in several group sessions. I have never went looking for it as a life style. To each couple is there own. What mat work for some couples does not work for others. I KNOW my women loves me. To see her have sex with another man does not bother me. She would never do it behind my back. In our eyes that would be cheating. Sounds contradicting, but its not. She would never do it without my permission or I hers. We can differentiate between love and sex. But it has been over 12 years now since we have done any of those things with anyone else. We were young and in our early twenties then. I guess you could say we experimented alittle. We have been together now for 17 years. Never married. And just recently she has brought it up again. More of a fantasy of hers. But this time she would like to try a 3some with another women. But don't knock something til you try it. A friend of mine whom is a girl told me last month at a party she got a little more open minded after a few drinks. She ended up having a 3some with these 2 guys and said it was the best sex she had ever had. I think it is something that you should try at least once in your life. Life is 2 short to have any regrets. Live it to the fullest.
2006-06-20 07:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by JACK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can never understand why men or women would enjoy such a strange fetish as this one. The best way I can even think of how this could work is the same reasons men and women are adult film actors. They tend to find the camera and someone watching exciting and an aphrodisiac. So having group sex is part of their sex lives. I guess these types of people have found each other and in a very strange and twisted way have found happiness in each others sexual acts with strangers. But how they find this hot, is anyone guess!?
2006-06-20 07:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I are very open with each other. We have been together a lil over a year and we have had sexual incounters with other couples. We would never do it without each other. As long as we both are ok with it and we both know that we love each other. He is the only one i want to be with. But its always fun to be sexual crazy sometimes!! U should check out some of the dating site and the sex site that are online, u'd be even way more suprised at the things people do and say!!! U only live once so live it!!!!
2006-06-20 07:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by fudgema2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess to each his own. It's not my cup of tea and I don't know that I would want to be with anybody that's been with groups of people, especially with the STD's that are around and even more so with AIDS.
I wouldn't condem him for this however, I wouldn't be sleeping with him either (if I was a woman/you). People like many different things sexually.... whether it's a threesome... bi-sex.... older or younger people.... even animals... and groups of people. I suppose it's their choice and, as long as they don't try to force others into their sexual behaviour or physically hurt other people, whatever they want to do is their business.. not mine.
If he's a good friend... and your friendship is important to you.. keep the friendship but keep the friendship at the current level it's at.. keep sex out of it. If that's not good enough for him.. then the friendship doesn't exist and move on.
2006-06-20 06:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really is not about it being reliable or undesirable. Having sex so youthful doesnt make you undesirable or reliable. the in reality situation with that's that it promises a difficulty that you dont desire at the same time as your hormones are going loopy, your mind isn't yet chemically balanced, and the aspects of the mind that help you're making judgements are not any more totally enhanced. So at the same time as issues bypass incorrect ( and they just about continuously do, ultimately, in relationships) you're a lot less in a position to administration ( with out wanting to kill your self), than in case you're older and performance better adventure. all of us choose love, that's a quest that wont end no matter if you're ninety. yet make effective you seem out for your self first on your adventure. guard your thoughts, guard your body and thoughts.
2016-10-14 08:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion. . . cuz you asked for it. . .is sex is a very intimate (as intimate as it gets) special, wonderful thing to be shared only by one man and one woman who are married. Period. Anything outside of that is misuse, abuse, degrading, and just plain wrong. I know from people in my life that swapping and messing around is extremely detrimental to a person's emtional and mental well being. Most people who do so end up divorced, depressed, on drugs and miserable. Bottom line. . .sin kills.
2006-06-20 06:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that its not for me, but some people really get off on this type of behavior. I am a pretty jealous person, therefore I couldnt let this happen. If you are ok with it and so is your partner, well then, to each his own i guess.
2006-06-20 06:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband took me to places like this, and I too wondered how a man who supposedly loved me could want me to participate. I didn't! It's only one of the reasons he is my ex. I believe that only one of a couple really wants to do this and the other just goes along to be loved. I think that the men who want to do this might be gay, and are secretly indulging in fantasy while their partner does the other guy.
2006-06-20 06:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by amazingpag 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not a big deal to swap, trade, as long as everyone knows the rules, and everyone is comfortable with it. If your not, then tell him, and he will have to respect that, or hit the road. On the other hand, try it once, you might like it.
2006-06-20 06:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋