My girlfriend told me all day the other day about how much she's been thinking about doing all kinds of sexual things with me (some of which she described in great detail) and even though we see each other a couple times a week, this time she couldn't wait. So I drove out to her job (which is 50 miles from where I live) so that we could do all these things (she babysits overnight so its sex at work is not a problem) and when I get there she apparently changed her mind and just wants me to hold her until she falls asleep. My reaction ranged from extreme disappointed* (*see mad as hell). When I talked to her about it the next day she's all like "Thats the only reason you came to see me? You can't just hold me? In that case, I'm glad I didn't do anything" which pissed me off even more. My question is, am I really wrong for feeling the way I did? Was her reaction justified?
2006-06-20 06:33:10 · 7 answers · asked by Chris D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're both wrong, She lead you on and and it's only natural for you to be dissappointed.. BUT THAT SHOULDN'T BE A REASON TO BE ANGRY AT HER, if you love her you'll understand that she CAN change her mind. This situation may be more your fault than hers because you led yourself to believe that she was going to relieve you. Why didnt you relieve yourself since you're soo full of sexual fustration... You should have communicated that to her....
You dont wanna push her or force her to do something like that with you because it wont be an enjoyable experience. I could understand you're fustration, but come on now... Put urself in her shoes, How do you think she see it... "my boyfreind only came over because he thought i was going to give him some.." That hurts. Guys are sterotypically only there for girls when it involves sex... Be patient, it sounds like she'll take care of you at a more opportune time.
2006-06-20 06:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by Abstract Expression 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are wrong. A woman can say no at any time.
However, she's not 100% right here either. She shouldn't have given you the impression that you were going to get a little somthin' somthin'.
2006-06-20 13:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was wrong, not you!!! did she particiapate in phone sex and get you all riled up just so that you would come over to her job? she sounds selfish and a little nuts. plus, it seems as though she is using sex as a weapon and that is nearly detestable. and sweetheart...she didn't "change her mind" when you got there. She had no intention of having sex with you, she just wanted the power.
2006-06-20 13:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by rebecca c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u was kinda right cause she throwing out hints so that meant that she really wanted to do the stuff yall was talking about but its not your fought u was just tryin to for full her needs so yea u was right for being mad but dont let her see u mad cause then its like u been waiting to do all those things with her thats it so dont show that your mad.
2006-06-20 13:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by sexy girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that a woman can chg her mind at any given time, however........ she led u on, u drove 50miles (100 round trip), and u tried to talk to her about it. There's something FISHY here.
2006-06-20 13:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by taz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you're disappointed, but don't be so angry.
The two of you should see a psychologist, or some sort of professional that can help you.
2006-06-20 13:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by Casimir Alexander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes testing you bro and girls will always be testing men.Why'd she change her mind like that?i dont know but i think you should ask forgiveness if you wanna get some
2006-06-20 13:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋