What can you say to console someone who has been called fat - when they really are?

Answer 1

i dont think the outside matters but to some dumb asses it does but just ignore it

Answer 2

I'm sure the person who's been offended already knows that they are overweight. I'm sure they've been called "fat" before, either behind their back or to their face.

Here's what I'd do in that situation:
I'd point out all the things "wrong" about the other person; such as "That guy's one to talk...looks like he hasn't missed a meal in his life"
or
"Wow, it's not everyday that you see a female member of the Hair Club for Men".

Mean people that point out others shortcomings need to be taken down a notch or two.

Answer 3

Just be there for them and offer to take them to go get a box of doughnuts!!!! LOL Just kidding!!!!

Seriously..... Be there for them! Help point out their great qualities, offer REAL help so that it changes or is minimized. If you care about the person, friend, relative etc.... It should be a concern for you almost as much as it is to them! That sort of thing happens! It always has, always will. Sad but true. Simple encouragement and real solutions is what will help, most likely over time.

Answer 4

Believe me, the person knows he/she is fat--that's why the remark hurts so much. Just point out that anyone who would say that to someone is the one who's got the problem. It's cruel and insensitive. Do NOT suggest that this person lose some weight. Just be a supportive, understanding friend.

Answer 5

It depends if it is obvious or not. Was she called fat when she weighs 350 or 115 pounds? The best you can do is tell her to ignore it. Chances are if she is over weight, then she knows it. Tell her to forget what other people think about her and be comfortable with herself.

Answer 6

I tell them that the person who did the name calling is the one with the problem. Comments always say more about the person being rude than the one they were rude to. And if they seem aware of the problem I tell them that it's their business if they want to lose weight. If and when they're ready, I know they can- and I'll support them.

Answer 7

This is a sticky situation, I've been there, I think the best way is to sit them down and 1.) explain to them why the person said it (self conscious themselves, compensating) 2.) then compliment them on all the things you like about them, tell them you wish you could be more_______ like them. 3.) Then if they are really put down offer to help them shed off some of the extra pounds.

Answer 8

If the person is grossly overweight as oppposed to a few vanity pounds, it's an opportunity to TACTFULLY discuss the health issues related to being grossly obese. Diabetes, heart attacks, etc. Tell them it hurts to have to talk about this with her/him, but you love them too much to not be concerned about this.

Answer 9

you dont you try to help them fix the problem consoling them is basically the sane as lyign to them the person who called her fat was horrible , but if you are her friend you could help her lead by example

Answer 10

If the person really is fat, there is a high possibility she knows it too. Best to do is just make her feel appreciated and make sure you let her know that her personality is what matters. If people are not reassured about these things, low self-esteem sets in.

Answer 11

Try mentioning to them to go to the gym and offer to go with them. Ppl like to feel like they are apart of something so if u mention things about urself u wanna work on maybe that will motivate them