My struggle?

Question

So if I beleive that Jesus died on the cross for all of my sins. And I understand that marriage is very scarid. But if you are abused or if there has been adultry commited it is okay for divorce. The struggle that I am having is if I were to remarry that person would be commiting adultry, why? If we are happy with eachother and make eachother happy is that not enough for God to forgive and understand that the other person makes the spouse feel so special and treats her right. Is that not enough?

no divorcing and taking a new life partner.

Answer 1

Marry who you want. God will forgive. I promise.

Jesus

Answer 2

I hope that I understand your question correctly, are you asking about divorcing and remarrying the same person?

The Bible is clear on this point.

Deu 24:1-4
(1) When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give [it] in her hand, and send her out of his house.
(2) And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's [wife].
(3) And [if] the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth [it] in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her [to be] his wife;
(4) Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that [is] abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee [for] an inheritance.

Remarriage is forbidden if the other person had remaried and divorced a second time. However if there had not been a second marriage to another person it is better for the two to be reconciled and remarried between the two of them.

I have a question, if you divorced the person once, why would you want to marry that person again?

Anyway, my personal opinion is that it is better to get married than to live in sin.

Answer 3

Jesus was not instituting a "new law of Moses". Unfortunately, many legalistically interpret His words in that light. As with all the teachings of Jesus, the issue was the attitude of our hearts. Its not about finding "legal grounds" to determine whether divorce is acceptable in a given situation. God intends for marriage to be a blessing (and it will be if both man and wife are committed to God and each other).

The point of "not marrying a person who is divorced" wasn't that the person should forever remain single. Rather, it was about the attitude of the heart of the people involved in the divorce. If someone divorces their spouse simply because of a selfish desire to "sleep around", "be free", etc...then that person is not a worthy choice for a Christian mate.

I know this is brief and probably insufficient....wish I could write more as it is a very deep topic! Suffice it to say that we should look to the Lord for guidance, and not legalistic "church rules".

Answer 4

Well, I'm Catholic so I'll tell you the Catholic Church's view on this. If a spouse is abused or the other spouse has committed adultery, once an individual is divorced they can request that the church declare their first marriage null so they can remarry. You're technically not committing adultery until you two have sex. But this really depends on your denomination because some Christian churches don't require such a formal process. Check with your priest, pastor, or spiritual leader for more information.

Answer 5

divorce is OK if the vows have been broken by adultery, you are right about that. you are free from the bonds of marriage at that point. many have to understand what the Bible was talking about when it says that re-marrying is adultery. back then (in Biblical times) men would get rid of a wife because she was old, or they just didn't like her anymore, then they would re-marry another woman, Moses, then later Paul was telling us that this is adultery. Paul also says that re-marrying the SAME person over again is worse than committing adultery. personally, I think if you didn't break the bonds of your vows, you are free. the one who broke the bonds is the one who committed adultery. not the one re-marrying after being cheated on. I could be wrong. I think God would understand since he knows the situation.

Answer 6

Many people find Atheism very liberating for those very reasons. Being an atheist, doesn't mean throwing moral values out the window. Rather it means freeing yourself from religious dogma and adhering to those moral values which make sense.

It makes sense to leave a spouse who is abusive. It makes sense to find a new spouse and live happily ever after. Empower yourself to choose for yourself what is moral and what is not. Take responsibility for your own life choices, and stop depending on some higher power to choose for you.

There is merit in being a good person, in and of itself.

Answer 7

Divorce was given for the hardness of your hearts, Jesus said. I would not remain in an abusive relationship, obviously. But God's plan is one man, one woman forever. If you truly believe it is sacred, you must ask yourself why it is so. It is, first of all, because God instituted it. You cannot use a failed relationship because of someone else's actions to justify going against His plan now. God's plan is always reconciliation. He wants everyone everywhere to repent. This is why in the Old Testament He gave us an example of this when he "put away" Israel, and then promised a plan for them to be reconciled (which will be accomplished in the Tribulation and the second coming). This may be hard to accept, but you cannot truly regard marriage as sacred and go against God's boundaries for marriage.

Answer 8

my sturggle is the translation of mien kampf

divorcing and remarrying is mans laws. remeber God did not write the bible man did making it flawed from the get go.

Answer 9

What God has brought together let man not separate