2006-06-20 05:03:33 · 15 answers · asked by GBPackergirl76 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Take him to court to set up a visitation schedule and child support.
2006-06-20 05:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by thecup420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is an addict or abusive or obsessive and he is coming over to see the kids then consider yourself lucky. Too many guys are dropping their seeds and not helping them grow. If he is coming over for the kids only, then you really should try to maintain a friendship with him, that doesn't mean that you have to be best friends with him though. But its good for the kids to see that even though you guys aren't together you can still maintain a friendly relationship; it will help the kids develop well balanced relationships in the future.
Now, if this is a case of him trying to get back together with you and thats why he keeps coming over, if he is being posessive, then you really need to tell him that this is not his place and he is not welcome in your house. If he wants to have the kids then he can very well pull up in his car and give you a buzz while he's in the driveway and you can bring the kids out to him, or have the kids meet him at the car if they are old enough.
If this an issue of abuse or addiction I suggest going to court. If he is the type that will get even angrier because of a restraining order or a court ordered visitiation (with supervision from a councelor if you are nervous about how he may act around the children) then I suggest going to a shelter for people in your position or if you have the money to contact an attorney for advice.
Its difficult to give advice without more information why you don't want him coming over. I hope I covered all the bases.
2006-06-20 05:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its going to be very difficult to stop him, as he is interested in his children.
You could go to court, and ask for support and then get a grant to let him see them only on the week ends, (but, if he is "that" involved, then I would encourage him to see his children as much as possible).
Kids need thier Fathers, as they grow up. Whether he is a good role model, or a bad one, is a different thing, but, still there should be some male role model in a childs life to give them some sense of values.
If the father isnt supporting his kids, then he has no rights to be over there. He should support those whom he fathered, as a good responsible adult. If not, then take him to court, and demand he pay child support.
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-06-20 05:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been right where you are except he's an exhusband. He would just show up whenever he felt like it, unannounced. I had to explain to him that we would have to set up visiting time, because I had a new life and so did our children. It worked for awhile but then he just stopped coming all together because I got a new boyfriend, and the ink was dry on the divorce papers.
2006-06-20 05:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by blessingsmith2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who he is coming over to see. If it is the kids, why would you want to stop him there are many fathers that don't want anything to do with their children. If he is coming over to try to get back with you tell him there is no chance and the only reason he should be coming over is to see the kids.
2006-06-26 20:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him to stop coming over? Communicating your feelings might be a good place to start. Opening the door is also optional.....OF course there's always a restraining order if you've tried all of the above!
2006-06-20 05:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by SR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you don't want him in your house and you will arrange a neutral place to meet for him to see his kids. If it's a matter of violence and you don't want him seeing the kids then you have to see a solicitor and get an injunction so that he CAN'T come to your house without being hauled to court for breaching his order.
2006-06-20 05:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
arrange a visitation schedule that you both agree to and tell him he cant just keep coming around as he pleases if this does not work take the bloke to court and ask for the orders that you want and forget what he thinks,wants or feels
2006-06-20 14:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt have to come to your house or even see you to visit with his kids. You can arrange to have someone you trust pick up the kids and take them to him. You two dont have to see each other but your kids need to see each of you.
2006-06-20 05:08:15 · answer #9 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COURT!!! if you don't want him at your house at all, restraining order, visitation rights signed in court, yes, make it LEGAL! THey are his children too, so the legal system is the only way. You can do it through your county courthouse yourself, but I advise a lawyer or legal aide.
2006-06-20 06:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋