I'm 44, she's 42. We have a lot of similar interests, we get along great, she has a big heart and the sex is fabulous. Her 2 kids and mine get along reasonably well also. She also adores me and thinks I hung the moon. That's the positive part.
The negative part is that I still enjoy being single. I llook 10 years younger and still attract a lot of women who are more attractive than her. She also ooks older than me too and she has some idiosyncacies which really annoy me. My kids also tire of exchanging homes every weekend.
The problem is that SHE breaks-up with me periodically cuz she can sense I'm not really into her sometimes. Then she inevitably emails me wanting to hangout again. I end up getting back with her because truthfully I do miss her. I just don't know that I'll ever get over my committment issue.
Another thing is that only 5% of women over 40 ever remarry. Is it because we men are so superficial when it comes to looks? Why should I be any different?
2006-06-20 04:51:15 · 18 answers · asked by hardbodied_romantic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your just like every other man who thinks the grass is greener. So what you can get more attractive women ? Big deal. Its sad that men are this simple. Your just torturing this women. It has to be real hard for her to be in love with someone she knows doesn't care as much about her. Make up your mind and if you find you have this much trouble being committed then dont waste another women time. Be single and run around with as many women as you want. Eventually though you will find fault with all of them.
2006-06-20 04:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like to serious of a realationship, and if you are unsure the best thing to do is wait, and follow your heart. You do have feelings for her, but until you are mentally ready to settle down it's not going to go right. You have to really know that you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Another thing is are you going to be able to deal with things she does that you do not agree with, in a marriage you have to be willing to make sacrifices. That comes along with the package. If she doesn't understand the way you feel, you just have to put her on the backburner for the time being until she comes to reality about your true feelings. Talk to her and tell her the truth, don't run away from the problem, face it like a man
2006-06-20 12:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by diamonddazzle20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't because if you have enough doubts that you asked the question, you already know the answer. The fact that attracting other more attractive women is a factor here, says that you are not ready to commit to any one woman yet.
2006-06-20 12:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't commit because you have too many dilemmas. You don't mention the age of your children or if they share time with their other parents. If they do then you both have time on your own together sometimes and that's probably enough for you. Whats wrong with the relationship you have now? Its seems good for both of you and she probably needs the breaks from you more than you think..
2006-06-20 12:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical beauty fades as you get older. A loving, warm, caring heart doesn't. I hope that you don't wake up a few years from now and find that your lady has found someone else who will love her the way she deserves, whole hearted - without superficial reserve; while you find yourself old, sagging and alone without any prospects.
2006-06-20 11:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mamadog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, dump the girl. That's the only thing you can do to preserve your self respect. It's much easier for a man to find a woman than it is for a woman to find a man.
2006-06-20 11:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by glasseye22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an why not?you both like some of the same things right so go on commit to her life is to short so dont wait til its to late coz u never know someone elso might want her to ...u just think about it .....an good luck!
2006-06-20 11:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by Felecia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really..Why not?if you do love her Commit!!Think about the kids too..Behave as a grown up.Some things you say really reminds me a 20 year old!
2006-06-20 11:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think two years is a long time. Also there are children involved in both of your lives, you are also at that age for commitment. if you are not ready for that then i think you should let her go.
2006-06-20 11:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should commit to her, try something new...when u get bored of her go away for a while (NOT with other women) and then come back. itll feel like a vacation!
2006-06-20 11:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by vspinkloverlygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋