I am ready to step up and propose to the love of my life. Should I ask for her dad's blessing? I keep getting mixed signals. I want to, but we aren't that close. Should I just do it out of consideration for their family? She is the only daughter.
2006-06-20 04:49:22 · 10 answers · asked by Scott 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The tradition of the father giving away his daughter has its roots in the days of arranged marriages. Daughters in those times were considered their father's property. It was the father's right to give his child to the groom, usually for a price. Today a father giving away his daughter is a symbol of his blessing of the marriage.
http://www.infoplease.com/spot/weddinglore1.html
This means that typically you have to ask her dad for his blessing because this is traditional. And also, THEIR DAUGHTER'S WEDDING WILL BE THE ''EVENT OF THE YEAR'' FOR HER FAMILY! If I were you, I would go to her father! But the decision is all yours!!!
2006-06-20 05:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. My fiance did and it mattered more to me that he cared enough about where I came from to want to ask those people in my life to bless our future family together. I know it sounds so cheesy and when I write it down I'm like oh god I sound like an idiot. But really, it makes a difference knowing that you would take the time and thought to do that
2006-06-20 05:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by princessmeg64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a good idea. Even if you aren't close to her father he will respect you more if you talk to him about your intentions for his only daughter. If you don't feel comfortable "asking" him for his daughters hand in marriage try just talking to him about how much you love her and want to provide for her and that you wanted to let him know first that you are going to ask her to marry you. From her aspect it give a complete romantic aspect to the proposal. For her to know that you talked to her father and expressed your love for her to him will deepen the love she has for you knowing you would be willing to do that. It will be especially heartfelt for both sides if her and her father are close. Good luck and congratulations.
2006-06-20 05:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by vancie121 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I made sure my fiance knew to ask my dad. I'm daddy's little girl and while he'd only met my dad a few times, it was important to me. We however, had discussed the wedding and set a date before he actually proposed and that was partly because he was waiting to talk to my dad. He and my dad went to get donuts on Christmas morning and he asked. They had a nice talk about finances and things. But I think my dad respects him more for asking. My fiance was un-easy about it, and informed me he didnt ask his first wife's parents, but obviously that wasnt a good union anyway.
2006-06-20 05:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, its the manly, responsible thing to do. If nothing else he will gain respect for you after you do. I wouldn't just ask dad though, I would ask both of her parents. Times have changed a lot and the moms need that respect to. Hope this helps.
2006-06-20 05:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by ~tiki~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a nice thing to do-but if your special gal is a "liberated" woman she may feel as if you are treating her as chattel-she is her own woman and therefore doesn't need to have permission from her father.....but I am of the age that I feel it is a repectful gesture and still consider it a very sweet thing to do.
2006-06-20 05:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! I think it is a very respectful and upstanding thing to do. My husband knew I wouldn't even consider marrying him unless he did that.
2006-06-20 05:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her father (and the rest of her family) will appreciate that you showed concern for their feelings. Go for it, and good luck.
2006-06-20 04:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it! Since you said you aren't that close, it will probably bring you a little closer.
2006-06-20 09:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Joy22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her family (especially her dad) will respect you more if you do!
2006-06-20 05:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋