Ok, I am 26 and divorced. I have two little girls. I have been dating a 29 year old for the last 4 months and I think I am in love with him. The other night when he was out with his friends, he called me drunk and said he didnt love me and he didnt want to hurt me. I ran into him the next night and told him I want to date him and he said the ball is in my court. He works 45 minutes away and goes to school an hour away. When we are together I get the impression that we are ment to be together. Their is a spark!! Am I wasting my time with a guy who said that to me when he was drunk? Should I wait and see what could come of this??? Please help me!
2006-06-20 04:41:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you are wasting your time. I know that hurts to read but when a guy is drunk he says more often than not what he really feels. Plus I don't hear you saying he apologized the next day or anything. You deserve to be with a guy who will love you and wants to be with you and that isn't going to happen till you end this relationship and move on with your life.
2006-06-20 04:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl dump him! He doesnt need you especially when he told you that when he was drunk. You know what they say about drunk people...they speak the truth, really. Also, if he says that the ball is in your court, come on now....you know that you are wasting your time. Usually guys dont say that to a girl, hes not interested, deal with fact and move on to another guy that loves your children and you.
2006-06-20 04:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes you are wasting your time..I was always told a drunk always reveals there true feelings..but if you say you love him and you feel sparks then go for it..just remember you have 2 kids to think about and you need to know if this guy is really the one..I think you should sit down and talk to him let him know how you feel and how it hurt you what he said on the phone..You will never know unless you talk to him..Good Luck
2006-06-20 04:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just end it now- People say alot of things when their drunk, and sadly they turn out to be true, He's probaly been wanting to break up with you. And by saying the balls' in your court is just a hope that'll you'll break up with him- If he wanted to save the relationship he wouldn't have said that and he would try to make ammends- I'm sorry but it's the cold truth. Save your self the pain, anguish and time- Just go find youself a stong guy that you deserve- that include one that doesn't waste himself on odd nights (that's not good daddy material) Just end this relationgship now, B4 revels his true feelings to you and you look like a fool :(
Sorry- My sympathies :( :)
2006-06-20 04:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, YOU ARE JUST LONELY!!!!
get some time alone, do some serious soul searching and then begin to date, i mean seriously girl 26, 2 kids and already divorced?
you are just looking for acceptance, and don't think cause ya'll have good sex it is meant for ya'll to be together, it just means that you guys have good sex, so learn the difference!!!
and honestly, if while drunk he was able to CALL you the odds that he was TELLING YOU THE TRUTH!!!! are like 110%
he did know what he was doing, and he did it while drunk to not hurt you as much.
DUMP HIM!!!
2006-06-20 04:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by half insane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only been 4 months I'd say you really do not want to rush things. Give him a break if he wants you then let him come to you. You do not need to be following him around asking for dates or whatever. For your girls do you want a guy that goes out and gets drunk with his friends then calls you up and threatens things. Let him take the initiative here and you can be coy (just don't forget to honest). With your daughters you want a guy who is reliable. Remember if he breaks your heart then he is probably gonna break theirs. You sound like a nice person if you want to marry I am sure there is somebody that is right for you. He is not the only guy out there....test the waters a bit...date other guys......Good things come to those who wait.
2006-06-20 05:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by rainsparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, people tell the truth when they're drunk. He can't tell you that he likes you and say something else later; no matter what the situation is. You can always give this relationship a try. However, do not be surprised if things don't happen the way that you've wanted.
2006-06-20 04:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle for second best, you've been through a divorce that tells me your a strong women and you have a good head on your shoulders especially with 2 kids that shows ur responsibility level.
You have 2 children, you don't need another one to analize.
If hes telling you that he doesn't love you, the ball is in ur court, loose him for a couple of weeks just so he sees how much of a good person you are and that you don't settle for nonsense, you don't need games and thats what it sounds like hes doing, set him straight. I'm divorced with 2 children and I know exactly what ur going through. Just think about my advice, it worked for me.
2006-06-20 08:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by jodi E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. 99.9% of people tell the complete truth when they are drunk so............it is just easier to say those hard things when you are drinking. You deserve better - for yourself and your kids. I know it is hard to hear and do - but do it now before you get anymore attached it is easier to get over a 4 month relationship than a 4 year one (believe me). There is a man out there that will treat you and your kids right and you deserve better. And the only thing you will hear from him when he is drinking is how much he loves you and wants to be with you. Good luck.
2006-06-20 04:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by SingleHotMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely wait to see what comes of this. You should wait until then to fall in love with him. You don't want to fall in love with somebody who cant express there feelings unless there drunk. Your soul mate should be able to talk to you about anything at any time. But, I'm sure he has a hard time expressing his feelings, but are you when it comes to him. My opinion would be to take things slow and see if he comes around. You want your lover worshiping the ground you walk on, not running away from it.
2006-06-20 04:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Meggan D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋