I know that I spoil my child but he cries so much. Every time he cries I just give him what he wants. I need some help to stop giving him what he wants and help to make him stop crying so much.
2006-06-20 04:34:02 · 18 answers · asked by anw110784 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't give in. Be the parent. Tell him that crying will get him nothing. Every time he cries just ignore it, and if and when he stops then ask him what he wants.
2006-06-20 04:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he cries because he knows if he does you will give in.
Set the rules and be the parent.
You have to be consistent. No means no...NO MATTER WHAT.
In my house if I say no and you cry, throw a fit etc all that gets you is in trouble. It does not get you a yes EVER. My children know this so they do not usually even bother to try to cry or whine about something after I say no.
I know it is easier said than done but start now and keep working on it. Soon you will both be in the habit.
If it is something I am not sure about or if it could possibly turn into a yes at a later time it is a maybe.
We also do wish lists in my house. If they see something at a store today but I can not afford it or do not want to get it today then it goes on their wish list and they work their way up to getting it.
Oh and also my kids know they only get a response from me if they are talking to me properly. Meaning I do not listen to whining, screaming or demanding. I am the parent. I do not take orders I take requests.
2006-06-20 04:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by foolnomore2games 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop. Plain and simple make no mean no and deal with the tantrums. They will be horrible but should only last a week or two till he knows that you are not going to give in. Only give him stuff when he does not whine, cry or demand it. only when he asks nicely and has good behavior and you can afford it.
2006-06-20 04:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your child? could he possibly be teething or do you think he is just a spoiled brat? Stop giving him what he wants when you say no, let him no that means no!
2006-06-20 04:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. If you want to know how to stop the behavior, then stop your behavior. Let him cry. He wont suffer from it long term. Also try hylands calm forte just to safely chill him out. Its homeopathic so its safe for kids.
2006-06-20 05:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you answered your own question. YOU are the parent. What you say goes. He has to learn the meaning of the word NO. Put him in time out if he does this. I promise you, when he goes to school they aren't going to cater to his whims, so you need to stop this NOW. Good Luck.
2006-06-20 04:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 9 year previous needs to be waiting to make some alternatives with the intention to verify independence. truly of basically telling him what him what to do, supply him 2 alternatives. This works nicely with chores. as an occasion. "do you opt to fold laundry or wash dishes?" you additionally can use it with making judgements for dinner "do you like chicken or spaghetti this night?" i could concern in case you had him so beat down he had no self self belief left.
2016-10-31 04:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does it because he knows it how he gets what he wants to if he doesn't get what he wants when he cries he will learn and stop doing it
2006-06-20 04:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop spoiling him let him cry for hours on end if it takes that.
2006-06-20 04:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jack Kerouac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u ansered you own question,,, you spoil him, that is what the problem is,, if you don't teach the child right from wrong how is the child suppose to know.
2006-06-20 04:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋