Teen mothers? What do you think? Right or wrong?

Question

I am a teen mum and what to know what people think about it? is it wrong or right or just general opinions?

Answer 1

I don't think it's so much a question of right and wrong as it is whether or not the parent(s) can handle the situation. If you can handle raising a child, are happy with your situation, etc. then who is anybody to say that you are wrong? Besides, being older doesn't necessarally make a person a fit parent. It's just that many people need a few extra years to get to that place.

Answer 2

It depends. I'm 20 with a 1 year old and a 2 year old. Both my daughters were concieved on birth control. I'm still with their father and have been for the past 4 years. We have never gotten any asistance. It's always been him working or the both of us working. There are a lot of teen moms out there that make others look bad. I mean, some teens know there is no way possible to provide for a baby but they still choose to keep it rather than adopt it out. My fiance had a decent job when I got pregnant so we kept both of our children. I also graduated high school and am going to college next year to become a registered nurse. I think it totally depends on the circumstances if it's right or wrong to be a teen mom. There are also a lot that just continue to live with their parents once they have a child. Is it really fair for her parents to be raising her grandkids? I didn't think that was right so we got an aprtment the day I turned 18. That was 4 months before I gave birth. We have been on our own since then. My kids are very well taken care of and have everything they need. They have most of what they want too.

Answer 3

I really blame what our society promotes and Punk a** parents that don't try to rais ethier kids. Teenages think if they are having sex then life is good and I was a teenager in the 90's and I got some here and there. Nothing really regular becasue if my pops caught me hed kick my A**. I work for a hospital now and I schedule apointments for 12 13 14 year old girls to get their shot and they are proud to be like yea I need this shot so I can get some when ever I want and not have another kid. What happend to going out side and playing kick ball and stuff with your friends, riding the bike or swimming in the lake down the street. That just doesn't exist anymore.

Answer 4

I think its both really, I'm 16 and I'm raising my neices (2 and 1 years old) I love them to death. I believe its general opinions. Children are a great experience.... but if you think about it... you could wait and still have children later when you are able to provide for a child; emotionally, mentally, and physically. I love my neices and I would give them the world if I could. Their mother is a teen mother who dropped out of high school, is on drugs, isnt commited to my brother (their father) and is as immature as my 2 year old neice. Their father cant hold a job, drinking 24/7 and is providing and sharing the drugs. I wish my neices were fully in my custody... so they wouldn't know who their dead-beat parents were. I believe that having a child young is good but I also believe having a child too young is wrong due to the lack of education and responisbility. But, congradulations! and I wish you and the baby the best.

Answer 5

Not right, not wrong, just incredibly difficult. When you look back you will see that you were still a child yourself and such responsibility is a big burden on young shoulders. Having said that, you will still be young when your kids are independent. Also, if the father is young he is statistically less likely to live in the same home.

As for being a good mum, everyone's different. You have more temptations when all your mates are still out having fun. You need to try to be strong minded and mature.

Answer 6

I was 17 when i had my daughter, and she changed me for the better. it made me realize that i really had to do something in my life, that i want to make her proud. i got my ged right after she was born, and now i am going into nursing school. she is a wonderful child. i do not drink or smoke, all because i do not want to influence her to do these things. i know alot of people my age that have done absolutly nothing since they got out of school. so, i say, as long as the teen realizes the responsibilities that come with having a child, then it is not the end of the world. though, i do not think that people should just run out and get pregnant either. in my situation, it was a wonderful thing, and i wouldnt change it for the world.

Answer 7

Well its like this...why is it wrong?? if you get pregnant then thats how life is...they had the chance not to pregnant...what I think is wrong when a mom gets a child and has no love for it....and thats not just for teens...I would say its only right if they do the right thing and everyone knows what the right thing is.

Answer 8

I think it is wrong because i am 34 with 2 kids and it is hard enough for me to handle, A teen mother is too young. They need to have their life before the kids come along. there is plenty of time to have kids...live a little and have fun because once the kids come along, It is not about you anymore, it is all about them and only them!!! Plus finacially, teen mothers can not do it unless they have their parent's help with money, and that is not fair to your parents or the teen will have to go on welfare and why would you want to be on welfare?! I'd rather be proud to know i raised my kids without welfare.

Answer 9

personally it think that it all depends on the teen everyone is different and some do not need to have children but some are mature enought that they can have children i am not saying that they need to have children but if it just so happens that they do then it is not a big deal as long as you take care of your child and do not be afraid to ask for help when you need it i had my son when i was 19 and i would not change it for the world of course sometimes it would be nice to be able to go out and do things but i have a child to take care of and he comes first in my life i do not think that it is something to be ashamed of but it should not be condoned either

Answer 10

do what you can...im 19 and i have a 2 yr old son, but then again i was engaged and had plans on getting married before we got pregnant and my fiance was killed in iraq 2 weeks before our wedding but you have to have a LOT of willpower....i was already ahead in my schoolwork and took a lot of extra classes and now i have a DVM (doctorate in veterinary medicine) you just gotta do what you can do, you have to grow up quick and learn to not make excuses. You have someone else to live for, that is totally dependant on you, im working right now and have full parental rights on my younger brother sine some things happened with my mom, so i have a 2 yr old and a 14 yr old to take care of. if you got pregnant accidently, i definately do not agree with that, if you are not mature enough to be careful and know what you are doing, you arent mature enough to have a kid.