His parents told him since they helped pay for his sister's wedding they wanted to do the same for him. My parents will have some financial difficulty if they have to pay half the costs. We have a very large family and everyone is expecting to be invited. Was it right for my fiance to change his mind about this? I cannot afford to pay for the wedding either because I have pumped all my money into our future house which I have gutted and in the process of remodeling. My fiance has not contributed to any of the remodeling costs so I especially feel slighted since our future home is basically bought and paid for already with no help from my fiance. I bought the house, shouldn't he at least pay for the wedding and stop letting his parents interfere with his decision?
2006-06-20 04:27:53 · 15 answers · asked by Kimmy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Reason number 8,345 why big weddings are bad news and why you should get married on a beach.
2006-06-20 04:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by AreYouForReal? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think his sudden change of heart is insensitive of your feelings. You appear to have invested a rather large amount of money inot something that you will be able to enjoy for years after.
It is quite obvious that you are unable to pay for a wedding just now. So if there is no money going to materialise for a wedding then perhaps saving for one where you both contribute equally, or have an agreed saving plan which takes into account the money that you have put inot the house. If all your family expect to be invited then it makes sense to wait until you can afford a good wedding.
The most important thing is that you are going into a marrage that is meant to be equal and this includes money.
2006-06-20 05:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by scaryclairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your fiance needs to realize that it's about time you guys think in terms of "us". If you go into debt on the future home or wedding, both of you will be paying the debt back (assuming the marriage lasts). I didnt mean that to sound rude. Consider cost saving strategies and try to make it work. Discuss a budget with both sides and figure out what you have to spend. Stick to that, with 50 or 500 guests.
2006-06-20 05:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he offered to pay and he has the money himself he should definitely stick to his offer. If the offer was based upon the expectation of what his family would pay then it is something he can't control if they changed their mind. Ultimately you need to remember that the wedding is about you two and not everyone else. It doesn't matter who expects to be invited or what other people think. You make the wedding special for you and fit into what ever budget you need to and never feel guilty for your choices.
2006-06-20 04:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have a smaller wedding that you can afford? It is the brides family that's suppose to pay for the wedding, you no. You don't need a big wedding to have a happy marriage. Remember, the wedding is presentation for the marriage, not the other way around.
2006-06-20 04:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big party, big costs. You cannot plan your reception at other peoples expense that have NO financial responsability to do so. You cannot expect for them to throw a party for you and your 200 family members and gusts. Tghis is tacky and disrespectful of your part.
Make a small reception at your home with just a few friends and closests relatives, but don;t expect for anyone to feed and buy booze for peolple they don't even know,...
Get real
2006-06-20 05:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop the wedding now!
I know this sounds harsh but listen to me... your fiance should be paying at least half for the house and his financial contributions are none and HE WILL NOT CHANGE.... Please reconsider marrying him because you are being used and he will continue to use you. This is something you know deep down inside. You will be a fool to go ahead with this relationship.
2006-06-20 04:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all it seems like hes a tight *** if i were u i would get a prenup not sure how you spell it but i do know that if u don't get one hell be getting half of the house that u payed for hell also get all the other money that u mad while u were together but it could be that he as well if having trouble paying for the wedding hes probably embarrassed to tell u the truth
2006-06-20 04:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by HOTBABE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why it's his and hers money. If you're getting married, why not pool your income.....and you both can pay for the wedding if you choose. So his parent's want to help pay, what's the big deal? They can pay for half (or whatever they want) and you two can pay for the rest.
2006-06-20 05:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to have a discussion about this matter with your fiance. ONLY YOU AND HIM, NEITHER YOUR PARENTS NOR HIS PARENTS! You have to decide together about this financial matter. I'm sure that you will find a solution! THE ONLY THING YOU SHOULD AVOID IS TO HAVE A FIGHT!
2006-06-20 04:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just elope, go on a honeymoon, and when you come home have everyone over to the house for a cookout reception. Too much stress and what ifs will ruin your life.
2006-06-20 04:32:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋