Adopt or Abort?

Question

Adoption is great! I know a few people who were adopted and they have great step families, and love their life. So why can't woman put up their baby's for adoption, rather than abort them? Seriously, you can't say they may have a horrible time growing up, you never know, and many children are adopted my wonderful couples. I am so glad I wasn't aborted as a baby... aren't you?

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16 hours ago
To the people that say it is a woman's choice on what she wants to do with her bodies..

Where is the baby's choice, the unborn baby is voiceless, so does that mean it doesn't exist?

Also, technically the fetus is not part of the woman's body, just inside it. It has it's OWN DNA!

Answer 1

Hi. I am an adoptive mother. My daughter is the joy of my life. So of course I agree adoption is a wonderful thing.

What troubles me is that you say "I know a few people who were adopted and they have great STEP families, and love their life." When you adopt a child, your name goes on their birth certificate. Legally there is no distinction between your adopted child and a child you birthed. So why do you use the word STEP family? There is no STEP in an adopted family, legally or otherwise. "Step" happens when you divorce and then remarry the new spouse becomes the step parents and the child is their step child.

Answer 2

I had the experience of both and if I could choose it would be neither. I first had an abortion and didn't think twice. I then knew I couldn't go through it again and gave my son up for adoption. Now that everything is said and done adoption was the hardest decision I ever made and it bothers me everyday. Some people make others feel bad by saying adoption is the easy way out, but if I wanted my son to be around all of the problems that are in my life it would be much easier to of just kept him. Adoption is the hardest thing in the world to do and no matter how easy people think it is I wouldn't wish that on anyone. And I no longer believe in abortion (except under certain circumstances) because to me that is a cop out, but adoption is bettering your childs life and yours actually, but some people aren't able to handle that kind of loss. I know its hard for me so thats why people go with abortion instead of adoption. (sorry I gone off about some things you may not care about). but i think adoption is best, but abortion is easier.

Answer 3

It only takes a weak person to have an abortion. It takes a very strong person ot put their child up for adoption. I plan on adopting in a few years when I am financially stable. My fiance and I love our 2 daughters very much. I think it would be amazing to share that love with a child who wouldn't have had it elsewhere.

And...THANK YOU for asking about the baby's choice. I hear women always talk about their rights but the unborn child NEVER has a right...and for all the peoppe throwing out getting raped at a young age...My aunt was raped when she was 12. She gave birth to her son and kept him. He's 40 years old now and everyone in the family loves him just as we love each other. The other thing; women get a choice, they have a choice to have sex or abstain and also there is a choice of numerous types of birth control

Answer 4

I know many women who have had abortions and I know 1 woman who has given her baby up for adoption. Of all these women, the one that has encountered the most social criticism is the woman who gave her child up for adoption.

Any time someone realizes that is part of her past, she is barraged with questions like "What kind of person are you that you could give up your baby after carrying it for 9 full months?" It is shocking to me. It was so hard for her to carry that baby (amid major family upset) and then to give him up after the delivery - the human body and mind isn't well equipped to handle such loss. Here she has done what she understood to be the correct thing in society and in her religion and she is made to feel bad about the decision very often (along with her own self doubt and sadness of not being able to care for her kid that she has to live with every day).

The women who have had abortions don't seem to run into this kind of thing in society - maybe it's because they are more secretive about it. Of course, they very often have to deal with "what if" and "did I do the right thing" sometimes for years afterwards.

I think it is tragic - and I am afraid for her, for when her child gets to be an adult and then could come back and make her feel bad about her choice (a choice she made out of love for her baby).

I understand people think a fetus is a baby - I disagree. I think viruses are living organisms that we remove from the body. I think that a clump of cells in do not qualify as a child, just as tomato seeds don't qualify as a vegetable. There is a point when the cells become a baby and beyond that point we traditionally don't perform abortions.

Some say that abortions and miscarriages happen when the person coming to the planet has changed it's mind. For those who believe God has planned every part of our existence - wouldn't you think that god planned the abortions also? To teach the women something (often to be more careful in a dramatic and painful way) - to spare a soul from coming when other circumstances have changed and they would not be able to learn the lesson they want to - or some other reason.

I find it very confusing when people of faith say that god is in charge of everything here and then they assume that something that happens in this existence is a crime against god.

Answer 5

My mom was 14 when she got pregnant with me, her family wanted her to have an abortion, but my mom knew that I just wasn't a "choice", I was a human being. The "choice" should be which type of birth control to use if you don't want to get pregnant! My mom chose to keep me, and not give me up for adoption, but adoption is a MUCH better choice than destroying a helpless child's only chance at life. I know adoption is a hard decision, but it is for the best if you can't take care of and raise a baby. I'm for adoption all the way over abortion!

Answer 6

i'm totally with u except on the last part. It's not up to u to say it's wrong. The point is it's a choice i could never have an abortion and i could never give my child away. But that doesn't mean ur less human or care'n if u do either. It's a choice that we have and we should have. People are different so the make different decisions and feel different things. Different isn't wrong, and it's not up to us those on the outside who don't understand what they are feeling to judge. Anger + anger = more anger, but if u talk to the person maybe they'll be able to see that there are other ways than abortion. People usually have abortions because they are scared.

Answer 7

It IS the woman's choice. I'm not saying that abortion is something great, and I'm not saying that it is a good idea. But if there was a law which prevented all abortions, it would be a very bad thing. What would happen if a there was a woman who would be killed by going into labor? What about situations of rape or incest? Abortions may not be a great thing, but they're there for a reason. I don't, however, think that they should be used as birth control. THAT kind of abortion is wrong. But they should still be available to women who need them and those women should not be looked down upon for making that decision.

Answer 8

I will always say adopt, but I do feel that it is the womans right to decide what happens to her body and if she feels that she needs to abort then I and everyone else in the world do not have a right to say anything about it. Now to answer you on the why not put children up for adoption insted of aborting. The only reason I could think of in favor of abortion is if the woman became pregnant from a rape. Ask you self would you want to bring a child up in the world that was not created out of love? And ask your self will that child carry on the genetic error that makes someone rape.

Answer 9

Adoption is a safer and better way. Adoption give that baby a chance to experience life. Abortion is a sad way of erasing YOUR mistakes. It doesn't matter if rape was included... still, it's not that baby's fault. And "Where is the baby's choice, the unborn baby is voiceless, so does that mean it doesn't exist?, it does exist... its no one is giving it a chance to express its life. Yeah, I admit, some people aren't ready for a baby... but dont punish a baby because you laid down and spreaded your legs, KNOWING THE CONSEQUENCES, and became pregnant. This topic is very serious to me! I hate to think that a child is going to waste because there is another answer.

Answer 10

i agree with you, adoption means that that poor little human will have a chance at life that is so rightfully his/hers.Abortion is horrible, those stupid women already had a chance to decide whether they were ready for children, but once that poor little thing is inside them, i don't give a crap what they feel , they should have the baby!

i have actually thought about looking at adoption when i am old enough and am married, my mother has so too.

i hate seeing in the news of mothers who throw their babies in garbage can, it breaks my heart, why is that any easier than just leaving them at a church door, or at a hospital. I heard that those places will except babies from mothers and no questions will be asked(to supposedly make it easier for them)

ok, maybe those who are raped should get abortions, but that is it, and those abortion clinics should be very tightly controlled by the government only.
thanks for posting this question, i know now that not everyone is ok with abortion, though politicians are always flipfloping on the matter to get votes.