Mentally Affected by parents' arguing, what to do?

Question

26male. Live at home, quiet type of person who has hobbies. don't have job now cause they fired me recently but searching. Anyways, my parents argue alot and i feel so bad , i feel like they are gonna come at me and get so mad. When they fight i feel so scared and guilty that instead of being happy and not caring and continuing doing my study, or computer projects or music., i become afraid and stop all my activities. Partly it has to do with the fact much of what they argue is about Money or business, and i don't have a job and i feel like i'm to be blamed cause i don't contribute or help with money. What to do? Should i care about their fighting or ignore it and be happy.

Answer 1

To be honest I think part of your guilt is justified. You are 26 and your family is struggling with money? It's time you moved out and did what's best for them, even if it's at your own expense.

You need to make sacrifices for them, and do what's best for everyone. Get a job, pay rent and then move out. Your lifestyle is at the least affecting their life, and at the worst could be destroying their marriage.

It's time to grow up and move out on your own. There's nothing more satisfying than working hard and paying your own way.

I'm 23, married, have a great job, worked all through college and even held 2 jobs (and went to school) so that I wouldn't be a burden to my parents. There's nothing more rewarding than being a man, the way you're supposed to be.

Answer 2

You can get a job anywhere. I think you should go get a job at a gas station or McDonald's or at the mall selling shoes, gorcery stores, whatever. Just go get a job. You are old enough that if you're going to live at home you need to contribute rent, grocery money and money towards the utilities. If your parents are fighting about money it is probably a huge financial strain for you to be living there. Go today and apply anywhere you think of. When you are looking for a job you should spend as many hours a week doing that as you would working. So you should be out pounding the pavement 40 HOURS A WEEK!!!!!!
When your parents see how hard you are trying it will mean alot to them. You could even sit down and talk to them and let them know that you know money is tight right now but you are going to work really hard to get a job and then you're going to contribute to the household budget.
Right now you don't have time for anything else such as hobbies, computers, etc. Go out and apply for jobs. Go! Right now! Get dressed and go!

Answer 3

you're already 26, i think you're old enough to step up and reprimand them. my parents argue sometimes also, when i get fed up with it, i tell them to keep quiet and bring their arguments some place else and not in front of me. it's harsh i know, but there are times when parents act like children, and the children become the adults in this situation. they argue over small things... just to spark an argument which is annoying.

Answer 4

Get one or 2 jobs.

It will help with their finances, your finances, help you to get your own place faster, and when you are working, you are not watching them fight. The problem is not their arguing.

Answer 5

get out and live your life talk to them and maybe u can help them to sort things out do not stay

Answer 6

you should care and go talk to them, tell them all there bickering is affecting you.

Answer 7

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