Is kissing another person or sleeping with another person worse? Is kissing considered cheating? Is sex just sex with another person other than your partner as long as they don't have your heart? What are your thoughts?
2006-06-20 03:55:19 · 13 answers · asked by Lezzz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IF YOU KISS OR HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER PERSON WHILE YOU ARE DATING SOMEONE YES ITS CHEATING......IF YOU DO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE AND YOU TREAT IT AS SEX AND NOTHING ELSE THEN THAT IS ALL IT WILL BE.........
2006-06-20 04:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kissing is not cheating but very well could piss off the partner as if it were.
I've kissed 2 other women (tongue and all, lol) since I've been married (12 years), but so far have not had the will to take it beyond the kissing.
Kissing can lead to greater temptation of course, so be careful how you navigate THAT course!!!!
Sex is just sex? Nah, I don't buy that. Sex is cheating, loving another is cheating. Loving and the sex with someone else at the same time is Cheating Squared.
2006-06-20 11:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by scott_v1963 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a question only you can answer for yourself.
Personally though, I find a huge difference between sex and love. I only get involved with open relationships, because for me love and sex are two distinctly different things. I've observed that monogamy does more harm than good.
Monogamy is a social construct, not a human characteristic. If it were a genetic trait, then all people would be monogamous, and the concept of "cheating" would be alien to us. In order to cheat, there must be a rule, so if there is a rule, then monogamy is just a game.
In the west, we equate sex with love, and follow the idea that the less people you love, the more you can love. I find that the opposite is true. The more people you love, the more capable of love you are.
When it comes to sex, we are basically talking about body parts, and the things we can do with them. If sex, or kissing is considered cheating in a moment of passion between two people, then why isn't it considered cheating to hug someone as a greeting, or to touch them as a way of getting their attention?
Consider the practical side. A man and woman are married for, lets say, 5 years. They have a home, 2 cars, a dog, and generally speaking, a good life. They have social outlets, a retirement fund, take vacations together, and enjoy life to the fullest their budget allows them to. Lets call them soul mates. One day, one of them says to the other, "Honey, I have a confession, I slept with so-and-so the other day."
According to the social construct and the rules of monogamy, they must now give up the wonderful life they have shared together over a fleeting moment of passion. This is stupid and wasteful, and shows the low value people actually place on love. Indeed, the longer the marriage lasts, the less acceptable this sort of logic is. If someone has dedicated their life to another for 20 years and divorces over extra-marital sex, it is even more idiotic
Now they have to fight over who gets the home, who is paying for the 2 cars, who gets the dog.The friends have to decide who they will remain loyal to, both need to find newsocial outlets, split up the retirement fund, and the budgets for them individually get severly diminished. Their individual futures are potentually disasterous.
On the other hand, there is forgiveness. The bitter road to recovery. I won't even go there because it is equally idiotic. I believe it is better to love without restriction, without rules, without expectations, and without demanding that an unnatural social construct be more important than the person I choose to share my life with.
As far as I'm concerned, the only response to "Honey, I have a confession, I slept with so-and-so the other day." should be "Did you have a good time and did you use a condom?"
-SD-
2006-06-20 12:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. Most people would consider kissing cheating if it was THEIR partner doing it. Sex is just sex with another person, but it's still cheating, and still a violation of your partner's trust.
2006-06-20 10:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a cheater or someone who wants to do things with another person as long as you don't have to feel guilty. Kissing is cheating. kissing leads to spooning leading to forking and that hurts. Just break it off
2006-06-20 10:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by stiffmissionary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess kissing should not be considered cheating
2006-06-20 10:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by robo86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do either with someone else if I was in a relationship. When you love your partner, you don't go looking for satisfaction from someone else, period!
2006-06-20 10:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by TanneDelight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's a draw, its all some type of intimacy. Sex is just sex if that is all your feeling.
2006-06-20 10:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you only think about it is still Cheating, but Hey what you dont know dont hurts.
2006-06-20 10:58:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as kind of breaking the law. Speeding ticket-breaking the law,murder-breaking the law. see where I'm going with this?
2006-06-20 11:02:12 · answer #10 · answered by "THE BEAST" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋