My son has abused me in the recent past, stolen money from me, stolen my car with a gang member and totalled it, cursed me out beyond belief, and now he is either home sleeping or off with his friends all hours of the night and morning. He's 17 years old and will be 18 in October. The law does not help at all. I've called officers to my home when he would threaten me and/or get so angry that I was feeling afraid, and they would tell me that they could not do anything and that I needed to stop calling them because they weren't family counselors. I called the Dept of Children and Families and they said that they aren't there for parents, only children and that he could not be removed from my home because of his violent criminal past. (I had him arrested when he picked me up and threw me through my closet doors. It is listed under domestic violence and therefore, only a misdemeanor.)
2006-06-20 03:52:59 · 14 answers · asked by Shrimp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why is there no recourse for parents being abused?!?! Especially in this day and age!? Is anyone else out there fed up with this?
2006-06-20 03:56:33 · update #1
Did go to jail for stealing my car. Judge told me that if I kicked him out before his 18th birthday, they would arrest me and charge me with neglect. If I leave, they will put out a warrant for my arrest for abandonment. He told me that I am responsible for him until he turns 18 no matter what he does.
2006-06-20 03:58:09 · update #2
The police should have done something about the theft of money and the theft of your car, but you didn't say you called them then, only when he threatens. If he does steal anything from you, call the cops, press charges and have him locked up. When he's 18 tell him he's on his own til he can straighten up. Though you may want to check your state's law regarding the age of concent. In some states it's 17 and you can throw him out now. If he assaults you again, talk to a lawyer about an order of protection and removing him to a juvenile facility.
2006-06-20 04:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by erin7 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there really is no help 4 parents who r abused by there children,seriously though keep calling the police if he touches u,call a damn talk show n get see if u can get on.n whatever u do remember u r the parent, he is the child get some damn balls.Call in family member's whatever u have 2 do n gain control over ur household.I have 6 kids and I will be damned if I would put up with that.one of my boys tried 2 get violent with me ONCE, he is bigger n stronger than I am both my sons r,but if u raise ur hands 2 me I treat u like anyone threatening my life.he tried calling the police but I made sure he understood that I would much rather be in jail 4 murder than child abuse,he desided against it.
that was 3 years ago and I now have 6 wonderful loving,happy young adults who r thriving and we r all very close.
do what u have 2 do n gain control. U R THE PARENT! and it is ur job 2 raise a young man not a punk like he is now.
good luck
2006-06-20 11:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look honey.. when he turns 18.. he is legal..
Therefore you can go downtown and take legal actions against him for abuse, threating, assult. What ever he has done to you.
And there is something that the police can do about it... they just choose not to. I suggest that you call JCYC (jefferson county youth center) maybe a different name where you live. BUT is is a jail for children, that are disrespectful, run-a-ways, and uncontrolables...
If all else falls.. take a fukkin baseball bat to his ***... wait until he is 18 though... and let him get a couple of licks in.. that way you can claim it as self defense.
2006-06-20 11:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine_Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a male relative who can take your side in this matter? Teenage boys have superhormones and no respect for mothers when there is no male around. Sounds like he might be on drugs also. There HAS to be someone to help you out!! This kid might kill you! I would put all of his stuff in a bag and set it outside the door. Don't let him come in. Help should be available to you with social services. Tell them or the police you fear for you life. If you find drugs in your home, report him immediately or have him detained in a youth home. Don't be afraid of your own son. He needs a firm hand...the one you didn't give him growing up. Be prepared to visit him in prison.
2006-06-20 11:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being misguided. All child juvenile detention centers have guidelines in keeping youth from fifteen to eighteen. One of the reasons they are put there is because the youth is out of control and could physically hurt a parent. Have you filed any reports against him. When he took the car did you call the police?
You need to have records so that juvenile centers can place him in lock down and begin to help counseling him.
2006-06-20 11:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard, but in order for you to live a healthy life, you need to get your son out of your house. Because of the things you described, telling him to leave may lead to more abusive behavior, so maybe just up and leaving without him knowing would be better. or you can do like in some talk shows where a drill sergeant comes to your house and whips your boy's butt!
2006-06-20 11:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by Gucci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is getting too old for you to do anything now,but if you want to help him make him go to prison.If he goes he will be scared to death and stop the era of his ways.If he turns 18 and is still abusive,call 911 and he'll learn his that his attitude is completely and utterly wrong.
2006-06-20 11:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh... throw his *** out on the street and let him deal with life then.
If you can't...get a male to do it..also get a restraining order so the next time he comes near you..he will be thrown in jail. .He will either learn to deal with it, end up in prison and hopefully change his ways or end up dead.
2006-06-20 10:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you the mom? Well, I would find some way to get rid of the damn thing!! Just make living there with you next to impossible, get your thinking cap on and i'm sure you can do this!
2006-06-20 10:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by frustrated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey! You need him out of your life for a bit. I know thats hard to hear, but you need to think about yourself, because it's obvious thats all your son thinks about! You deserve better
2006-06-20 10:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by CaseySokach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋