I do beleive in God. But I am struggling with one thing. If I were to divorce due to emotional and verbal abuse and lets say remarry the man that I would remarry would be committing adultry. IS there anything that say otherwise or is there any other answers to this. I belive deep down in my heart I have found my soul mate who can love me like there is no tomorrow. The problem is he said that he would be commiting adultry if he were to marry me and I am trying to find if there even is anything that says that he would be forgiven.
2006-06-20 03:51:52 · 20 answers · asked by firecrackertx 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I beleive he is my soulmate for several reasons, we connect on a whole other level that I have never been with anyone before in my life, I think of him all the time, I miss him while I am away from him, i miss him when he is gone, the way we hug eachother, the way we trust eachother, care for eachother, the way he has showed me how to feel happy to the point when I think about it I cry, and NO we have not had sex with eachother.
2006-06-20 04:13:51 · update #1
I am not very good on navaigating in the bible can some one tell me where it says that he would be commiting adultry and where it would be forgiven?
2006-06-20 04:14:55 · update #2
he has never been married.
2006-06-20 04:15:40 · update #3
Don't listen to that dumb guy's comment up there... I'm a christian, too, and my mom is also.. She got a divorce from my stepdad and is now dating. People don't realize that in the new testament, God said His blood washes away your sins and you are forgiven.. You got married to a man that wasn't for you, then you became a christian and asked him for forgiveness I hope, so now you can correct the mistake you made by having a divorce from someone who is from your old life, know what I mean?? You shouldn't take abuse from your husband and it's time to begin your new life now. Talk to the guy you love and let him know this... Bless you and good luck..
2006-06-20 03:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are divorced for abusive reasons, it is OK. You only are committing adultery if you are still married. You are not going to be punished for marrying two people. The first one was a mistake, we all make them. Do not punish yourself for finding love. There are many Christians who for one reason or another had to get divorced, and then found love again. As long as God is first in your life and you don't put him above God, you are OK. Sounds to me he is either using it as an excuse, or really needs help understanding things. Talk to your pastor or someone in your church. You will fell better if you do.
Good Luck.
I went back and re-read your question. If you are not divorced yet, you are committing adultery in Gods eyes by being in love with someone other than your husband. That is a sin and a major no-no. If you were already divorced, it would be a different matter entirely. I suggest you stay away from this other guy until you know what is going on with your husband and then after if you still get a divorce, wait awhile before getting into a relationship. It is an emotional affair and that is wrong.
2006-06-20 11:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes. If we were perfect, we wouldn't need Jesus.
If your man is also divorced, I see no reason why the two of you should not be happy. No, God is not happy when people divorce, but He is a loving and an understanding God. Jesus did say He came to give us a more abundant life, and I believe that would include the love of a good husband/wife.
If your man is still married to another woman, then the only advice I can give you is:
TURN AROUND AND RUN LIKE HELL!!
2006-06-20 10:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you deal with one relationship at a time. First, deal with your marriage. If you can't fix it you can then choose to accept it or leave it. Care of self is not an evil thing.
If you choose to end this marriage, then you can move on to other relationships. You will be thinking and knowing much more clearly. In an abusive situation another pasture always looks greener.
And, by the way, I know who you are. You are a child of God. You look just like your parent! God must be very proud to have you as a daughter!!
2006-06-20 10:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only scriptural grounds for divorce is adultery.The innocent party being allowed to divorce and remarry if they so chose.(Matt.19:9;Heb.13:4)
However, if there is physical,emotional abuse,or your life is threatened or your spirituality is threatened these can be grounds for separation,with the prospect of reconciliation down the track.
Marriage is a sacred arrangement in God's eyes and those who enter it should not take lightly the vow they have made.
Who is to say whether Jehovah will forgive ones transgressions or not.He is our Judge.Only He can see what is in our heart.However,knowing that what we are going to do is a sin in God's eyes should cause us to rethink our course of action.
2006-06-20 11:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by lillie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who's Catholic. I remember when she told me she had been married before (at the time she was engaged). I guess it was a bad relationship similar to what you're describing. She filed for divorce. She also happened to be the director of the folk group that sang at one of the masses. She had the same concerns that you did. Also, she thought that she'd have to step down as director of the folk group. So she talked to one of the priests about her concerns. He had one question for her, "Do you feel you can be a better Christian by ending this marriage or by staying in it?" Her answer was that she could be a better Christian by ending the marriage. The priest's response was, "That's good enough for me." If you have any concerns, talk to the priest/pastor/minister at your church. They should be able to advise you on how ending your marriage will affect you spiritually.
2006-06-20 11:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone put you on a guilt trip.
Does God or anyone like divorce, no.
But it is sometimes necessary.
God divorced Israel and then Judah.
Isa 54:5 For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.
Jer 3:8 And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.
2006-06-20 11:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The death of Jesus Christ on the cross eliminated the law as established in old testament writing. By accepting Jesus Christ as the son of God, all sins are forgiven and you choose to live with Christ under the new covenant that was the salvation of mankind by the sacrifice of God's son. Your marriage would be safe, be sure this guy is legitimate and sincere in his love for you and not trying to use you.
2006-06-20 10:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by jegreencreek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends how long you've been married. If you were married under the Catholic church, you're going to need to get an annulment from your current husband so the church doesn't kick you out for getting a divorce.
If you can't get an annulment, you'll have to get a divorce and once it's final....than adultery is no longer in the picture however, you will no longer be accepted into the Catholic faith.
2006-06-20 10:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by Shep 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
almost sounds to me like he's using this adultery think as an excuse not to marry you....your sure this is your soul-mate ? and how can you commit adultery with your spouse if you are only having sex w/ your spouse? if you too have already had sex while you are married to someone else that you both have already committed the sin......either way you seem to have more important things to worry about right now....like getting a good divorce attorney
2006-06-20 11:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by krnsspott 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋