Me and a male friend of mine have been talking for the past 6 months. We're not together, but we've been playing the role for some time now. I've fallen in love with him and he claims to have strong feelings for me, but I have a lot of insecurities in our friendship. We are currently on summer break in college, but he still lives in the city where we attend school. He begged me to come down and visit him the entire summer, so I finally went last Thursday and stayed until this past Sunday. We had a great time, until I checked his e-mail, which is something I've been doing for a while. Comes to find out, he's sending and getting a lot of messages from females that live in the same dorm as me. I was not at his house when I checked it, but when I did, I quickly called him and told him that I was on my way over there. When I got there, I cursed him out and told him that we could no longer be friends because I heard that he has a lot going on in his life that I wasn't dealing with.
2006-06-20 03:50:04 · 11 answers · asked by Charlies_Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You went through his personal stuff thinking you would find something and YOU DID! First off, going through his stuff is wrong and you are in the wrong for doing so; however, since you know whats up why do you want someone in you life like that? He's not going to be able to trust you and vice versa...it doenst get better from here even if you two agree to be with other, cause even though we forgive we never forget.
You two are just friends, right? So then you two are allowed to see other people, right? Technically, he is doing nothing wrong. If you want more with him then that shouldhave been stated. The rules needed to out laid down and I'm thinking they weren't, or were maybe unclear. All in all, why would you want to be with someone who wants to be with other people?
I know exactly what youre going through and honey, it wont get easier cause youll keep finding **** out. Since you had access to his e-mail, youll try to get access to other things, like his phone, voicemail, any other personal stuff...its not cool to go through his **** cause ultimately you know youre gonna find something. That voice inside, that feeling in your gut...it doesnt lie
2006-06-20 04:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
A lot of times, we fall into the trap of believing that we want certain things, especially those we cannot have. This is one of them. It's normal to feel like you want him back right now but trust me, it'll all wither away soon enough and you'll realise it was one big mistake anyway. Just give it some time :-)
Also it's obvious the guy's not right for you if he's still such a player and if you are unable to trust him nor feel secure about yourself. You want to be with someone you're comfortable with and never have to check on his emails even if you had the password to his account.
2006-06-20 04:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by c0v3rt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you shouldn't have checked his email as this is an invasion of his privacy. Secondly these females may just be mates and nothing more, men and women can be friends. Also it is obvious that he wants to take things on a higher level with you. Talk to him, that is the only way that you are going to get him back.
2006-06-20 03:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by babe_00001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the heck????
sounds like:
-you aren't together, so your jealousy isn't founded
-you shouldn't be checking someone else's email, even if you are together...that's an invasion of privacy and just plain rude.
-you need to get a grip and find someone that wants to be with you
-you need to learn how to be trusting and caring when you find that special someone to be with.
jealousy is very unbecoming. watch out for it, b/c it will strike at anytime.
take care.
2006-06-20 03:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by joey322 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Role play or not he wasn't yours to begin with what is there to be insecure about? And if you couldn't trust him then you didn't deserve him. I sure he is allowed to have friends other than you. Very selfish of you.
2006-06-20 04:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by ronce_1118 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Were the emails bad? You can't really get pissed at him because technically you are not dating. You need to apologize to him and talk to him. Let him know how you feel...you never know what might happen.
2006-06-20 03:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've made your bed, now you must lie in it....
Jealousy can ruin a relationship instantly....if you don't trust him, better you not be with him. If you think you overreacted, better you remember that next time.....
2006-06-20 03:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Obi-Wan Kenobi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lady! You are crazy and sick! Why on EARTH would you snoop like that! You had no right!
2006-06-20 03:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by CaseySokach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's the big deal if your just friends...isn't he allowed to have other friends as well?
2006-06-20 04:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by snicker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um.. next time.. dont check ur mans email!!! thats just CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-20 03:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by Matthew C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋