Is it just me or does anyone eles purposely say really hurtful things to people they care about when they have annoyed you? I seem to keep doing it, at the time i really want to cause hurt but after when i am calm i feel bad and see that i am in the wrong, does anyone know why?
2006-06-20 01:32:20 · 17 answers · asked by Emmie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
many things cause this and 89% are medical based - sounds like bipolar to me they have medication to help. Talk to your family doctor and do not allow this to go on because it will only get worse and become violent and you could begin hurting those you love physically.
2006-06-20 01:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
One of the reasons you hurt the feelings of people that are closes to you is because they are the only ones that will put up with it. A staranger or an aquatice would never take that from you. I think we all say hurtful things to people who are close to us because they are the ones who you are around the most so they get most of the bottled up emotions lashed out at them.
2006-06-20 01:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In fact we don't want to hurt them , we just want do prove the other that he is wrong he is annoying us, and we usually say hurtful things because we are not calm and we cant think about it...it happens to me too...and to everybody at least once in a lifetime.
2006-06-20 01:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger, Danger. See the relationship here? When we allow others to make us angry we give up our power to that person. A truly powerful person does not let himself become angry due to the actions of another. Selfishness is at the root of anger. Because someone else did not do or say what we want. So we lash out. To overcome anger you must examine yourself inside for the true reason. You cannot force another to do or say or behave the way you want every single time. Everyone is free to choose how they will behave. A person becomes angry because he/she CHOOSES to become angry. When we choose NOT to become angry then we are making real progress with SELF-MASTERY of our emotions. When we realize we cannot control another only ourselves we are making progress.
2006-06-20 01:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by myjamsandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I like your question!
I believe that we "hurt" the people because we care about them. If it was for another person who e.g. we see him casually we probably won't do anything.
Another possibility is that cause we propably see these people a lot we want not to hurt us again so, we over react in order "to give a lesson" and we know that they'll forgive us ;-).
2006-06-20 01:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by Louis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because we know that the people that truly care about us will be there when it's over. You would never think to say mean hurtful things to someone you just met, they would probably never talk to you again.
2006-06-20 01:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by mhcraftsman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the heat of an argument we sometimes never think about what we say and just say the first thing that comes to mind without thinking.as soon as we say it were always thinking holy **** where the hell did that come from. we don't try to hurt anyone or anything its just the adrenaline flowing and just say stuff that we really don't mean. it sucks but it just happens that way.
2006-06-20 01:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its because we know it is only those who love us for good or bad that can put up with our evil side and will still care for us no matter what we do or say,
but you must learn that no matter how much some one loves you if you go OTT ( over the top ) then you could end up losing their respect if not there love for you
2006-06-20 01:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by tone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens with everybody i think....probably we get annoyed that the person is not understanding...
But it may have an adverse effect also.....if the person understands you and every time you create a fuss..then he may not support you.....u might lose his confidence..
Its not good for cordial love based relations....
Dont do it...
2006-06-20 01:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by sunil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's because you trust them. you truxt that no matter what you say to them, you will love them and they will love you and love brings out all kinds of emotion, especially rage when that person makes you angry... maybe you're just testing your love and their love, still hurtful things can not be taken back once you've sauid them, so try your best not to do it
2006-06-20 01:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by plastik_persephone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋