My daughter just turned 2 lst week and I wanted to get pregnant again i dont care if it will be a boy or a girl. I just want to have another one because I cant wait for another years and do it all over again.I want to give my daughter a playmate but my husband dont want me to get pregnant. Can you pls give me advice on how can I make my husband convince that this is the right time for us to have another baby. ....Your ideas and tips will be appreciated..thanks.
2006-06-20 00:17:18 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Was your husband an only child? Maybe he feels your family finances will not be in order for a while. I know it is hard to wait. I am struggling right now with ordering my finances. I am 2 1/2 months pregnant, and I have a 13 month old. I'm working full time, in school full time, and we are in the middle of construction on our home. I am certain we will make it financially, but those are things that maybe you should consider or bring up in a discussion with your husband. When the time is right, you will both know. Also remind him that the bills will always be there, and if he is worried about money suggest taking some aside right now...before you get pregnant again....and investing it. Sometimes I feel it is only economical to have one child. But, I want my son to have someone (I was a middle child, and I loved having sisters to play with). Good luck to you!
2006-06-20 03:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by geminiparody4 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sit down and talk to him about it calmly. Tell him your reasons for wanting another one, too big a gap can be stressful as you will find that you will have one at primary school and one at high school at very different times and you will not have much free time to do other things when you are diversifying yourself with a large age gap. Also it is better to have another now as otherwise you will find the other child will have difficulty coping with this intrusion in there life when they have had you all to themselves for so long You certainly don't want only child syndrome.
Unfortunately men are like children too and they might love the child but they don't like the fact that you no longer pay as much attention to them. If I was you I would just go ahead and have another (call it an accident if you like) and if he loves you he will get used to the idea. Good Luck
2006-06-20 00:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by lyndell v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Similar situation I also had few years back. Before answering your question, I just want to know some information about your family.
1) What is your age? What is your husband's age?
2) What is husband doing? in-service opr in business
3) What is the financial status of your family? annual income 2 lakh plus, 3 lakh plus etc. If you have confidence in me. I will deifnitely give you perfect guidance. and give me the information asked.
2006-06-20 00:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by chappani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't come to an agreement, try going to some marriage counseling to help hash out the important issues in a safe environment. Also, if I were you, I wouldn't come at the problem as though you're trying to change your husband's opinion on the matter, because if that's his strategy as well, you'll both never get anywhere but frustrated.
2006-06-20 00:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by ampotratz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ...Show him were the money will come from to support 1 more mouth to feed.
..your living place will not cost more but pampers and such, medical? ...all the costs new momma. Find a way to make it work for him.
..He has got to know a daughter wants a brother or sister.
Be calm, see it in your minds eye, and pray for love to win.
Good Luck
2006-06-20 00:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by awaken_now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well OBVIOUS... no one can convince anyone of anything.
I would explain to him what you explained to us.
You might "sweeten" the pot. Men are little boys... in that they crave attention... and that diminishes when the child arrives. Perhaps, leverage that.
I agree... this is the age to have a Sib... it actually would be better
to have started sooner.
Finally DON'T TRICK HIM... or be dishonest. That's a sure-fire formula for relationship disaster.
2006-06-20 00:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not introduce her into a daycare where she can play with other children her age. She doesn't have to go for a whole day, she can go for half, morning or afternoon. Maybe your husband has his reasons for not wanting another child. Ask him, but don't attack him or his answer or he may not tell you in the future.
2006-06-20 00:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Stacy R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should be convinced already, or u tell him u will get help to have a baby from outside, LOL, i think u need wait cause the baby 2 years still young and need more care, he is right.
2006-06-20 01:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be ravishing, Don't have that boared sex. Heat him up. Feel like 16 & make him feel 18. Sure he will have sex with you a few times daily ... remember the first time. Make him feel handsome and very sexy and you will not have a problem. make sure you perform well on bed. Put up an act if he's not doing it well.
2006-06-20 00:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by Shaan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Ilove you and I want to have another baby with you." "I don't want our daughter to grow up an only child" "we can do it, we can make it work" Well, just some things you might say.....What are his reasons for not wanting another child. That needs to be addressed so you two can work it out. Good luck.
2006-06-20 00:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋