My girl wants to move into her appartment, but I think it would be better for her to come and live with me. I have my own ap and so she does, but I wouldn't like to live into a girl's ap.
What do you think...would it be a good idea to move into her ap?
2006-06-20 00:05:43 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you' re not ready to move in with anyone if you're nit-picking like this
2006-06-20 00:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by hotclaws 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it only matter which apartment is nicer and a better deal. Is one rent control and the other not? And so forth. When my husband and I were engaged, he moved in to the house that I owned prior to meeting him because it is in a better location than where he lived and a better deal for us. So, we completely redecorated and slowly but surely, the house became his too. He is a woodworker so he restored a lot of the wood detail on the house. That helped him feel like it was his too. My point is...don't have an ego about this. Just have a brain. If your girlfriend really wants to stay in her place and your only concern is moving into a "girl's ap", then get over it. You'll be better for it.
2006-06-20 00:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by -- 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long you've been together, for one. If you haven't been together for at least a year, don't move in together. Believe me- things change when you live together. If you two really want to, I would sugggest finding a two bedroom apartment in a new complex so you can both start fresh together. The extra room is nice so you will have room for both of your stuff and give each other a little breathing room. And by the way, if your under 25, you're crazy if you are even considering it.
2006-06-20 00:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by Spillski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both still want your independance, so neither of you are ready to share an apartment with each other.
However, if this choice comes up in the future, just compare the two apartments as if you were viewing them before either of you had moved into them. Forget the issue of his or her apartment. Just look at each apartment objectively - which one is bigger/in better location/more convenient for work/more affordable - whatever criteria you would use to decide between two apartments. OK, sometimes your opinions might differ - for example you might each work at opposite ends of town, so one apartment might not be as convenient for you both equally. But, discuss these things jointly and make a joint decision - and then share the rent and the costs!
2006-06-20 00:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by fallen angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u wnt her 2 move in with u, just ask her. if she still insists, im sure she'll b atleast considerate enough to let u alter the decore of her ap. 2 sumthing thats the best 4 both of u.
watever her answer maybe, it shudn't matter that much really. these r really petty problems 2 get in between of a serious relationship. anyways, if u cant make settlements 4 such small things, imagine LIVING with each other! if u cant b more vocal about ur prob. with each other, i dont think ur really ready 2 move in tog.
2006-07-02 00:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the difference? An appartment is an appartment. If your're that worried, why don't both look for a new place together. Both start fresh.
2006-06-28 20:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mummabear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the difference between the two places. Which is more practical for getting to work and size etc? Those are the things that matter. How can you tell its a girl's apartment? If it is just furnishings, can't you change some of them?
2006-06-20 02:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by lucyt20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should try thinking of her wants over yours since you both obviously want the same thing, she may think it is sweet and reward you somehow in the long run.[and you can bring it up in future arguments ;-) ] and it wont be a girls ap when you move in, you can macho it out after a few months.
2006-06-20 00:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider if your thinking about making a long term committment cause once you move in with someone everything change.
Being a man in a woman's apartment means maybe losing the guy deco just ask my wife.
2006-06-28 16:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you rent them - Move to a new one. If you own them, change them to a Buy to Let mortgage and rent them out, so you still have your own places, but move to a new place all together. That way there's no fights about who wants what where etc. Fresh start all round
Good luck
D*
2006-06-20 00:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when two people move in together they have to sacrifice alot of things. it sounds like you don't want to give up your place because you don't want to sacrifice at all. you should really think about what you really want. this is a very important step in your relationship and if you not ready to let go of your apt then that means you are not ready for this next step in your relationship. think it through. you will know what to do.
2006-06-29 16:15:00 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋