A girlfriend of six months had split from me when she had some personal things to deal with. She left me with the bills and an empty apartment. She showed me a lot of animosity over the next month and a half, but now I'm finding out that it was due to lies by her so-called friends about me. She says that she still loves me, but my trust has left. I do still love her, but I don't know if I can trust everything that she tells me now. One of the biggest things out of a relationship for me, is knowing the person still wants to be there next week. She is still living with these "friends", and I wouldn't be free to speak my mind. But, do I thank my lucky stars that she has come around, and act on it, or do I tell her to remain friends. I love her with my heart and soul. But, I don't think my heart will be able to take a beating like this again. Do I take the chance?
2006-06-19 23:50:59 · 3 answers · asked by Ragged Rabbit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it. I am breaking up with my 3 1/2 year girlfriend tomorrow, and I know it sucks. Different circumstances, but I still love her, and it still has to end. Your girlfriend will always have her friends in her ear, and you yourself said that you lost trust in her. Trust is one of the biggest parts of a relationship. It's gonna hurt like hell for a while, but don't be like me and waste more time on something you want to work out but know never will. Good luck, and there are plenty of women who will treat you better and believe in you, not in gossip or hearsay from other people.
2006-06-20 00:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Spillski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't get together so soon and just go out as friends and get to know each other better again. It's better not to get back into a serious relationship so soon because you might start to associate those bad things with her. Try not to quarrel, be nice to each other. I made the mistake of arguing with the one I love (and still love) one to many times, and I think it's hard for us to get back even though I really want to. Maybe we're just not right for each other even though I know we still have feelings for each other.
Things might have changed and you need to find out if she's still the right one for you. I say take your time and have fun learning more about each other. Find out if she really wants to be there for you. And when you find out you're right (or not right) for each other, don't drag things out and tell her what you want. Be friends with her but be careful not to over-commit unless both of you are really sure about each other otherwise it would hurt it things don't work out. It's just words from me and I know it's harder in reality, but I wish the best for both of you. =)
2006-06-20 00:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by Silver_Alkali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt go back to her, because she shoulve trusted you and not her stupid friends, what's to keep her from doing something like this again?
2006-06-20 00:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋