Say you are 30 years old and meet a guy who looks about 25, is relatively mature in his outlook, but you find out he is only 23 and has had no other relationships...what would you do?
This happened to me, and despite him being a great guy, I don't think I could actually date him, mainly, because of his age and no previous relationships. He has a good job but works nights and some week-ends...
I feel i need to be with someone who is closer to my age (a couple of years younger doesn't matter) and who offers me what I can offer him. That includes previous experience in relationships, mature attitude and time to spend together.
Thanks for your feedback!
2006-06-19 23:48:27 · 22 answers · asked by prettytallgirl30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please base your answers on a relationship as a whole, not just sex.
2006-06-19 23:53:12 · update #1
There seems to be a social double standard. It seems to be ok for men to go out with younger women but not the other way around. I would definately go out with someone up to 10 years older, but don't think I'd be comfortable with dating someone 10 years younger...
Funny that...
It's also about a similar upbringing and education, personality, etc...
2006-06-20 00:43:31 · update #2
if you're not comfortable thats all that metters. I doesn't matter what others like myself would or wouldn't do, if I felt like you do, I wouldn't date him. Good luck
2006-06-19 23:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it really matters, as long as he has had some, hopefully similar life experiences to u. I m nearly 30 and have frequently dated younger guys. some of these have been disasterous like time the 21 yr old still had teenage issues! but just have fun, go out with him and see what happens. i dont think u should ever go into a relationship thinking about long term future and "will he be a good father" etc.. just enjoy a fling and see if it has potential. also i dated much older guys than 23 who havent been in serious relationships, maybe he just hasnt met right woman yet! and it not that much of an age gap..
2006-06-19 23:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by micha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok im a man but can offer a bit of insight based on my experince and give you a view from the other side!!
i am 25 and have had realtionship with a women in her 30s
I dont think the age thing matters as much these day and i very much have the opinion of that if you really like someone age shouldnt make a big difference!
You say that it bothers you though! which could cause problems! maybe its that your more concerned what other peoples opinions are about you dating someone younger! or maybee you are insecure and are scared that in ten years he might leave you for someone younger!!
Also you say he is mature but yet he lied about his age! he might of thought he had to do this just to get his foot in the door so to speak, but it doesnt sound like a smart move to start a relationship!! (one of the first things he told you about himself is a lie!)
There are a lot of things you need to think about before you commit to a full on relationship but on the other hand whats the rush? if you like each other why not continue dating and spending time together and just play it by ear!! So what if its his first realtionship!! we all started somewhere!
Maturty doesnt always come with age! life experiences and how we deal with them plays a big part in our growth as a person! peope should never underestimate someone just beacuse they are young!! he could turn out to be the one and you gave him up because of his date of brth!!
Good luck hope it helps a bit!!
2006-06-20 00:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by jamescuckow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 38 now... when I was 33 I had a relationship with a guy 17 years older than me, the next one was 6 years older, the last one 7 years... I'm now done with older men and their outdated attitudes to women (despite their paying lip service to being otherwise)... so now I seek younger flesh!! I'm now flirting with a guy aged 25 with a view to possibly getting together with him and have no qualms about this whatsoever... so I'd say go for it. I'd have happily gone out with a 23 year old at 30. In fact, I'd happily go out with one now... if you don't want him, pass his number on to me!
2006-06-20 03:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years isn't that much.
If he acts older perhaps he is ready for an adult relationship, as for no previous relationships that shouldn't bother you. Everyone has to start somewhere. I don't think the age is that bad considering he looks and acts 25. I know of a couple that have 8 years between them and their relationship is rock solid. Besides you never know until you try do you? You don't want to wonder what if? for like ages do you.
Good luck and you never know!
2006-06-19 23:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as u like being with him and connect with him mentally,age doesnt matter.40% of men who asked me for date have been 5-6 years younger to me.it involves a lot of practical issues when it reaches the level of settling down otherwise i dont see any harm in dating a younger guy if u find him interesting.
2006-06-19 23:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by S S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years isn't that big a difference. My wife is 42 and i'm 31. The differences with us are attitudes towards somethings, such as social activities. I used to drink underage, but she would not have considered it.
2006-06-20 01:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by AdeyAde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man I love is ten years older then me and it is just fine. Age doesn't matter if you two love eachother you should be together.
2006-06-19 23:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by Music 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My stepmom and my dad are 9 years apart! And He needs to have some relationships! Why not he start with you?!
2006-06-19 23:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by bizhoneywell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You clearly made up you're decision.... , but I know some1 that's 48 and dates a 34... They're happy and she's not desperate or anything... They really are a perfect match
2006-06-19 23:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Much younger? Capital NO
2006-06-19 23:54:04 · answer #11 · answered by rarelybutalwaysme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋