How do i get my mom to stop kicking me?

Question

Whenever she is angry or in a bad mood, she always takes out her angry my kicking my knees and stepping on my toes. My legs are covered in bruses and my feet are always in pain, so what can I do? I have tryed talking to her and i always get the usual "I'm sorry honey, i didn't mean to. I'm horrible i know. I swear i will never do it again...blah blah" and she never means it. So How do I make her stop? Kick her back? I would but my morals say that violence doesn't solve anything. Please Help.

I'm 15 years old by the way.

Answer 1

ONE DAY, FIND TIME, SIT HER DOWN. TALK TO HER NICELY, MAKE HER UNDERSTAND THAT BY KICKING YOU OR MAKING YOU HER BUNCHING BAG WON'T HEAL OR REMOVE HER FRUSTRATIONS/ANGER. SO SHE NEEDS TO FIND ANOTHER WAY OF DEALING WITH HER SHORT COMINGS. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 2

You are right to not strike her back. And she is behaving inappropriately. You can report her to your teacher, counselor, church leader, etc, but realize this is the REAL WORLD and if you do that you "could" be removed from your home and she could be punished. You do not say how old you are, but if you are a teenager you have to decide if you want to continue to put up with this and if the risk is worth the telling. You, under no circumstances, should be treated this way. Sometimes things get better when legal departments are involved and sometimes they do not. How does she treat you normally? How often does this occur? How old are you? Do you have siblings and how does she react to them when she is mad? Can you remove yourself from her presence when she is in a bad mood?

Is there an older family member rather than the authorities you can tell that would help you? You do not need to keep this a secret. What she is doing is wrong. Sometimes you DO need to call the Police or Child Services because you need to be concerned for your safety and the safety of other children.

Oh, yes...and do NOT kick her back no matter what these people say... she might become enraged and really hurt you. Some parents have snapped and killed their children when confronted in this manner. There is no way to know for sure how she will react.

Editted: You have added that you are 15. You are old enough to say "Do not kick me" and try to leave her presence. Stop whatever conversation is happening and go to your room, if she will not try to stop you. You are old enough to have a conversation with her LATER about this. Tell her that people are starting to wonder about your bruises. When she says "she is sorry", asked her what she thinks you should do the next time she starts to kick you.

If this continues, you are also old enough to tell someone - a teacher or school authority. They can report it and she would never know that you told. The school can just say they saw the bruises and contacted the authority as required by law.

Answer 3

I know that this kind of thing can be difficult, abuse in the home is an ugly thing to deal with. You feel guilty for thinking about turning the parent in question in. If you have talked to her about it, she feels bad temporarily but the next time she's mad she hurts you all over again. You should take an honest look at what you are doing that is provoking her, try to take steps to change your behavior if possible. If the things you are doing to upset her are totally unreasonable, or make no sense at all, (IE not doing the dishes, laundry, or something else mundane perfectly) I would strongly urge you to get help. Talk to a school counselor, take pictures of your feet and legs as evidence if she hits/kicks you infrequently, and if the councilor doesn't help talk to police about it. Please make sure you have proof... young people can easily be blamed for telling stories about abuse, or parents are great at explaining it away... if the bruises are as bad as you say pictures are your best defense. I hope everything works out, stay safe until then.

Answer 4

catch her on video.
call the cops.

if you dont want to do that fight back
or have someone else there secretly, so when your mom does it that person pops out of the closent and catches her in the act. this way your mom will be embarased and wont do it again.
or just put on some soccer shin pads. you can get them at wal-mart.
learn karate.
hire abody guard.
go to school and act the Italian kid your problem give him a 50 and have him do a little # for you. your mom will never know it was from you. you cant cick if you have a broken leg! hey, accidents happen. plus you'll be making a new friend at the same time.

Answer 5

Report her for abuse and live away this doesn't mean the end of your relationship even though yr mum probably will be pretty p****d at you no one deserves to be treated badly. Good luck be strong and take control now on how you are prepared to be treated

Answer 6

Next time you are going out in public with her, wear shorts and start pointing out the bruises to friends, strangers, or whomever and say, "look what my Mom does to me when she gets mad!" Not nice, but neither is kicking you. I bet she will stop.

Answer 7

Get a good sturdy pair of steel toed boots and then kick her back nice and hard. I swear she'll never do it again.

Answer 8

well, how old are you, because if your over 18yrs then enough is enough. now if your mom is doing this with intent to hurt you then i would say tell her no more before she can even raise that foot of hers! that you are not a punching bag and she needs to learn to control her temper and if she cant CPS can. then give her a hug and tell her you know she loves you, but love isn't suppose to hurt.

Answer 9

Call social services. They can intervene and hopefully get you out of the situation or force her into parenting classes and therapy.

Answer 10

there my be something wrong with your mom that makes her do things and not mean to,by the sounds of it this is not one of thoughs mom daughter fights, i would talk her in to going and getting checked out to see if there is something going on.i know how it feels when that happens,my mom and me use to fight when i was younger.maybe it has something to do with her body twiching and she can't stop it. i would go to the doctor's and tell them what is going on and ask for there help.

Answer 11

in all of these things... PLEASE state your age. There is a big difference on how you can handle this if you are 12 vs 19.

If she has anger management problems... she may need professional help...

Also, you may examine your behavior. Maybe there are thing you can do to minimize provoking her.