I would just like to know what others feel we should do as parents I don't like showing him he can quit but I don't like seeing him so upset each Tues/Thurs crying uncontrollably. He never acts like that otherwise. I know lots of good things come out of structure but mentally I am not sure what to expect from this later if we force him to go. Help! Being a parent is harder than I ever thought! Oh by the way, this child is my one and only and he is loved more than I can express here in words so he does receive lots of love during and after all this is going on:)
2006-06-19 23:17:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Have you spoken to the teacher regarding your sons fear? Perhaps the teacher can sit and chat with him away from any other students.
It may be the yelling of instructions that he is scared of.
You need to discover what it is your boy is actually scared of before you can help him overcome the fear.
Your son may not feel confident enough to participate within a group, maybe some one to one lessons will help.
2006-06-19 23:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by legs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have a 30 day out on the contract, look and see. I teach 4 year olds karate. Ask him on a day that he isn't supposed to go, why he doesn't like it. I always tell parents if they don't it before class, but do like it after, everything is okay. If they don't like it before and after, we need to investigate the problem. It could be as simple as he doesn't like the uniform, but at that age, that is a big deal. He is still just a baby, I wouldn't encourage any of my parents to force their child if he is that very upset. If you feel a martial arts program is what you want, then wait a few months or a year and re-introduce him to it. Karate at this age should be gross motor skill development, following single to triple stage commands. Children should not be sitting still for longer than 60 seconds or having to stand still for more than 15 to 30 seconds.
Look into your contract, I bet there is a clause.
2006-06-25 19:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Minja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is scared it may be more traumatic for him that his parent is forcing him into a stressful situation. 4yrs is too young to start training. 6-7 yrs is better. talk to the instructor or owner about canceling the contract. if he gives you a hard time, ask him if he really wants a crying hysterical child disrupting his class. then stand in the waiting area so your son can see you. good luck
2006-06-23 11:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by stevej 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would talk to the karate teacher, about what the problem is, and see if there is a chance that my son, if not getting better, can see a different instructure... But of coarse I'd see if the teacher could talk to me and my son at the same time...
2006-06-19 23:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by bek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u cant just dismiss when a child screams when u take them to a school, or daycre or in your care karate. are you there when he in class? or is he alone with strangers? you should check if he is alone there make sure he doesnt have a reson to scream or fear the place. or maybe he just dont like being with out you it could be that simple and not something more freighting and serious. if u check it out and nothing wrong u can try convice him he like it but i wouldnt force it on him kids try alot of things b4 they find something they like
2006-06-19 23:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by Priceless 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well
u can tell u r son there is nothing to be affraid of Learning Karate.
i ve my self taken some training in Karate & my teacher was very carefull to take care that we did no hurt our selves in training...
but 4 Yrs is a bit young to learn Karate anyways.
what if he starts experimenting his karate skills on his friends & classamates???
2006-06-19 23:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by da_great_viper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check into it when the teacher or your son aren,t looking see whats really going on??? no your son shouldn,t have to go if he is scared of karate teacher. Theres something going on the teacher being mean abusive, etc.....
2006-06-20 07:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by lizardlover42000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him out of the class.
What's wrong with teaching him he can quit? Being able to quit is like being able to take a step back when you accidentally stepped into traffic. It is about being safe. At this age, it is very important.
When he is a tween or teen, you can teach him about sticking with things he's started. Now he needs to know that he has the power to escape from frightening things.
BTW: My 3-year-old daughter also developed an irrational fear of her gymboree teacher. Who knows what goes through kids' minds?
2006-06-19 23:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is that afraid, take him out of the class. Do not force him to go.
2006-06-19 23:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋