2006-06-19 21:50:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is nothing you can do to help to make him more mature - that is up to him. I would urge you not to marry him until he starts acting more maturely and responsibly. Just by the fact that he is acting childishly shows that he is not quite ready for marriage yet.
If you don't see him growing more mature soon, then you might want to mention this to him and the fact that you are considering moving on to find a guy who acts more maturely - that might or might not change his tune.
Good Luck!
2006-06-19 21:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry the man you want, not what you hope for him to be. People often make the mistake that they think they can change a person to be who they want them to be. It never works that way. The power to change comes from the individual, when they are motivated to do so. If the prospect of marrying you hasn't motivated him to mature, there is nothing you can do to change that. People can only give what their personalities and circumstances allow them to give.
You have two options: 1. accept his childishness and marry him knowing that you will be the adult in the relationship, 2. Present the ultimatum -- grow up or the wedding is off.
You can deeply love a person that isnt marriage material. You can be extremely attracted to someone whose childishness can be seen as charming to be around, but realize that a life partner they are not. The heart loves who it loves, but sometimes it doesn't end in marriage.
2006-06-20 10:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Denise C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men never mature and if and when they do it could be a long time.
My husband finally grew up at the age of 40. Even still he wants to run wild like a young man.
Being childish really isn't too bad. It will keep your marriage from getting boring. But make sure he is responsible enough to work, pay bills and help care for children before you do marry. Otherwise, you'll be on your own and it will be like having another child to raise.
2006-06-20 04:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by lovingfeathers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice for you: Break off the engagement. Yes, that make him more mature. That should do the trick! Are you sure you want him to BE more mature? If he were more mature, would you still love him? Or was it that child-like quality that done you in?
My advice for him: Break off the engagement! Your fiance already wants to change you, and you haven't even exchanged vows yet. YIKES!
My advice for both of you: Wait until you someone whom you love and accept, just the way they are, and they love and accept you just the way you are, then get engaged, . . . then get married, . . . . then make babies!
2006-06-20 05:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by sgissin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What changes do you plan after you are married? If you want to change him know, are you planning on changing him all through your marriage? I would think that you need to think about marriage. It is not just about the dress and presents you get in one day! If you are questioning his childishness now and you can't change him what is going to make it all better after you are married? Sounds like a maturity issue is going on in both of you.
2006-06-20 05:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are better than grown ups. they take life play way and have lesser enemies that grownups. Still sometimes they say words of wisdom that grownups forget.
so accept him as he is if u love him.
could be it was this child in him that have attracted u to him.
Marriage change a lot in our life ans it also gets responsibilities with itself.
soon u will regret his maturing up and want same old kiddish fun loving hubby back.
2006-06-20 06:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by Meeta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change someone......so either accept him for who he is or end things......he will mature in time, but that could take years....guys mature at a much slower rate than women.
2006-06-20 07:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't throw them back and get a mature finance unless your looking for a grown child then if thats the case go for it but remember as hard as you try you can not change anyone.
2006-06-20 04:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by mia t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engaged and wanting to change him already..... If you love him as you say you do then you would not want to change him. Besides it never works out anyway... They never change.
2006-06-20 04:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Lora D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he childish.. or he has a great degree of humour geting in his head wherever he goes... make a distinction... coz such people end up in being labelled as childish
2006-06-20 05:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by ni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋