we live apart.......we communicate over d phone & thru mails..so he was supposed to call me & didn't cos he's very busy. so i sent him a txt saying am sure he's having an affair & doesnt want me anymore...besides i was only seeking for attention, i didnt mean wat i wrote cos i know he's too busy to have an affair besides he's in love with me......so he replied by saying my txt is rather unfortunate dat i dont trust him. he's not picking my calls & am so sad. have sent him mails & txt to ask for his forgiveness...wat should i do? i love him so much i dont want him to be angry with me anymore. pls advice me on wat to do. thanks
2006-06-19 21:39:42 · 14 answers · asked by slimpep 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well dear friend. Its obviously your fault. Bcause trust is the base of Love and friendship. And "WORDS ONCE SPOKEN CAN NEVER BE TAKEN BACK AND HEARTS ONCE BROKEN CAN NEVER BE FIXED". So do onething. Meet him personally anyhow even if he doesnt want to meet u. Ask him to just talk to u atleast once. He must be a good guy, and If he really loves u he will talk to u when u r in front of him. Make him understand that a person feels unsecured only when he/she loves his/her partner more than himself. And it was just ur Abstract Love which made u unsecured and write that message. Make him understand that U Love him bcause u trust him more than u trust urself. And then say sorry for hurting him, And commit him that u will never ever hurt him in life.
2006-06-19 22:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by in_searchof_truefriends 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all stop worrying.Next do not have any sort of communications with him for just 3-4 days.Wait and watch.If he really loves you he will get disturbed by your not calling or mailing and will himself talk to you.In case if he still doesn't responds then do ask him for a meet.Clarify the things for the last time.
Do not run after him.I did the same mistake again and again by running after the man who used to ignore me b'coz he was too busy.I also did the same what you did.I could win him but the things again went in the same.It happened 5-6 times then he started taking my immense love for granted.And in the end there was a break-up.and I was the loser.I spoiled my studies and even him.
2006-06-19 21:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Jones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason you wrote that message was because you wanted to see what would happen. So it was a silly move on your part because you were just prodding him for whatever reason.
That said, don't contact him anymore. Leave him be.
He'll come round to talk to you when he is good and ready. The more you push the worse it will become. Don't answer his calls or mail either. Well... that is if you still want to save this.
2006-06-20 01:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by Cain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me your boyfriend rather overreacted to what was just a jokey comment....
Are you sure he doesn't have time to have an affair? Sometimes a reaction like his could lead to suspicion. If I sent my bf a text like that, he'd send another light-hearted one back - something like "Why, are you?"...
I hope I'm wrong, so try sending him a text along the lines of "Honey, I was kidding, love you loads" - something short and sweet and see how he reacts to that.
Good luck xx
2006-06-19 21:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by Krissyinthesun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You %. your bags. What guy could decide to work out his female to be flirting with yet another guy for intercourse. No guy needs to be a looser of bringing up another guy teenagers. he's spending lots attempt on you and different men basically have intercourse with you for relaxing. even whether it truly is a humorous tale for you, for men is it like a humorous tale at them. i comprehend you attempt to create a contest on your guy, to make him jealous and 'savor you extra', yet women persons are stupid, you do no longer communicate approximately that kind of crap and it pushes him away. Now he would be searching for the thank you to end the relationship. i've got been there. the 2nd that took place, i replace into searching for the thank you to get far flung from relationship.
2016-10-31 04:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by treiber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jst communicate to him via txt msg or mail that if u love me give me a chance to explain myself
better reply within(set t time limit)if u love me coz i really luv u,else u kno
means i tried this trick wit my frend whos also t one whom i like n it always works
jst say that let bygones be bygones u forgot wat i said n i'll do t same. lets start over again
hope it works 4 u too
all t best
2006-06-19 21:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him everything frankly.and give him a lovely n beautiful msg for sorry.tell him dat u really love him and all the msg only b'coz of dis love.b'coz in love care and honest is must.so tell him honestly and truely everthing which u think.
2006-06-19 21:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by shal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beg for his forgiveness and try to explain and plea temporary insanity. Explain to him the truth, that you are very insecure and that you should get help. Then next time stop and think before you act.
2006-06-19 21:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Faith is the only thing that keeps world going. Telling damaging things only to get attention is like suiciding. Meet him and explain your mind.
If it works out, fine. Else, detrain.
2006-06-19 21:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by sures 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the thing; you might not have thought you meant it but you did your insecure with your present situation; what you need to do is chill out give him/her a couple of days and let them cool off then try to explain how you feel not by text by an actual conversation... tell him why you feel like this and then ask his opinion on the situation...learn to openly communicate with one another
2006-06-19 21:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋