Should a transvestite be allowed to go to church? (Christians)?

Question

I know this guy who is a christian, he was happily married with two kids, when suddenly he reveals he is a transvestite and leaves his wife and kids, he is now undergoing all sorts of treatments to become a woman, hormones and breast implants etc.

He still goes to his church every sunday but Dressed up as a lady!

Personally I find this a difficult situation to deal with....If homosexuality is a sin, and he's walking around with his dragqueen gear in church isn't he in a way mocking God or the church?

Just to add, The church is accepting him and he still feels at ease to worship there...I just wanted to get some personal clarity on the matter

Answer 1

Yes. Who are we to judge? Jesus told us not to judge others.

Jesus said nothing about homosexuality either. Nothing. If you are referring to the passage in Leviticus, then you should follow all the laws in Leviticus (including animal sacrifice, stoning and killing others for sins) and not just the one that justifies your own hatred. Jesus is supposed to represent the new covenant, which replaced the old covenant.

How is he/she mocking god if god made them that way?

Answer 2

Just because he is a transvestite doesn't mean he is a homosexual. He probably believes deep down that he is a woman and thus is undergoing all of these painful and mind you expensive things to become what he has always believed he should be. He is actually a transsexual to be exact- a transvestite is "straight" just enjoys wearing women's clothing, a transsexual believes that they are born the wrong sex and dress as that sex, often undergoing physical changes (hormones, implants, etc...). Although it makes you and probably many others uncomfortable, imagine how he must feel. I am sure that he is putting a lot of faith in God to help him through what must be such a hard time for him. The fact that he feels comfortable enough to show up in the Lord's house as "himself" shows that he is dedicated to his faith. Although you may not be ready to accept him with open arms, realize that he is not mocking God or your church, he is just trying to get through this time in his life and is keeping his faith as a high priority. Many transsexuals say that their faith is the only thing that they could depend on when every other human in their life rejected them and disowned them.

Answer 3

It's the soul that matters not the shell it comes in. He is still a Christian and has every right to come to church. He is not homosexual (and who cares if he is. This is the way he was born and god had some say in that so he must be o.k with it and remember God forgives so if you are a believer in the theory that people choose this lifestyle he is also covered) he is transgender. So be a good Christian....accept him for who he is and support him in his decision. Do you realise how hard it must be to continue coming to church knowing there are people like you there? Churches need to be more accepting of people if they wish to grow. Do you really believe God would want to lose this person from His fold and is it up to you to decide Gods will

Answer 4

Did Jesus not sit with sinners? The lord came here for the sinners, just because your a sinner does not mean you are not welcomed in the presence of God. If your not a sinner then great, he's already got you and he's not worried. He's here to work with your brothers and sisters who aren't quite there yet. After all if he only allowed people who are perfect into his home, what kind of lord would that make him? would anyone have followed him in the beginning?
Was it not Jesus who defended the prostutite mary? Was it not Jesus who laid his hands on the lepers and the cripples...who before then where not allowed near the achient church?
The transvestite is welcomed into the chruch to recieve Gods message and to be better by it just as the rest of us who are not sinning it the same manner as him.

Answer 5

Well first thing's first: A transvestite is not necessarily a homosexual. It sounds like this person has gender dysphoria (you may want to search the term to completely understand.)

I speak as a practicing and faithful Christian: Gender dysphoria is not a sin. In fact, this man/woman may feel like they're finally answering to their true selves, being exactly who God created them internally instead of externally. Each person with gender dysphoria have different reasons for their processes. This person has his/her own that is unknown to you and to me.

Just as an example: There are cases where a child was born a hermaphrodite (with male and female genitals), and during infancy they had surgeries to remove one of them. But while growing up, even though their body parts say "boy," they feel and act and play like girls. Is a doctor's error of removing the "wrong" body part a sin?

None of us know what's going on in a person's life to produce gender dysphoria. From what I can tell, I really truly do not believe this person is doing it just to shock people or "mock God" as you fear. He/She may be doing it to prove that even the "freaks" love God and deserve to be welcomed into the body of Christ.

And by the way, all of us sin -- so why should sinners even show up at church? Aren't we all then making a mockery of God?

Answer 6

I have to agree wtih reichman2007. If they are the REAL church, they will accept the guy you know as he is and not condem him for what he is doing to his body. I also agree wtih MatthewC as we are all sinners and on one is sinless except Jesus. The Bible teaches that "All have sinned and come short of the glory of God." Does that mean the person you know should go to hell? Well, according to the Bible, if we ask to be forgiven of our sins, we will have a place in paradise (aka Heaven). I do not think he is mocking the church or God because God knows our hearts and knows our futures. I think it was wrong of him to leave his wife and kids because of this. I also think it is wrong of him to get the surgeries he is getting. I DO think that if he gets spiritual counseling and guidance from a pastor or minister, he will get his life back on track.

Answer 7

I think you people as Christians need to find something new to ***** and complain about every week. So what hes wearing womens clothing, so what he wants to be a woman. He has every right to be in the house of god and give his thanks and praise just like you. What are you damn people so affraid of? and you tell me the exact passage that it says anywhere that Homosexuality is a sin? And for the record being a trans doesnt make him automatically gay it means he likes to dress in womens clothing.

Christians piss me off thinking that if its not straight and simple is not God-like or a sin. Its like all you homophobes are sooo affraid of the same sex marriages. WHY? what the hell does that have to do with you? you wanna say marriage is a symbolism of a connection by only a man and a woman? STFW. I mean if two people love each other, why should the govt be able to say they cant? Cuz you christian scared morons are affraid that some other peoples happiness might make OUR country all the sudden completely gay. Hell you christians with straight marriages give the word a bad name more so then gays.

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Any way I went way off topic. Bottom line I think you should worry about yourself. Too often people want to stick their nose into things that dont concern them. I mean be amazed you ever talked to that person they really could be someone REALLy amazing to know. I know plenty of different sexual based people, and I have no problem with them. So if church all the sudden is going to be chosing who should or should not be allowed in their house of supposed worship.. well i am glad a long time ago I started questioning religion, because your all just affraid to come to realize, as the world turns life is changing, and gays and same sex marriages and what not are things we need to just accept. Get over it. You wont be turned gay or all the sudden feel the need to please the person next to you of the same sex. God. Maybe some of you people really need to remember .. I dont like stating religious quotes, but god said he loved EVERY person the same, reguardless of anything. So dont think your special, and are not part of that..

Christians make me sick anymore.. and gee wasnt I lucky to be raised one.

Answer 8

We are all sinners. The church is a hospital for sinners. When you need spiritual healing, guidance etc. Amen...happy to see him/her in church...but going to church will not save him/her. A personal relationship with Christ can. He/she may be guided to the right path through the church. He/she is very lost and I pray that he/she will get help.

Here is a poem defining Christianity.

When I Say..."I Am A Christian"


When I say..."I am a Christian"
I'm not shouting "I am saved!"
I'm whispering "I get lost!"
That is why I chose this way.

When I say... "I am a Christian"
I don't speak of this with pride.
I'm confessing that I stumble
and need someone to be my guide.

When I say..."I am a Christian"
I'm not trying to be strong.
I'm professing that I am weak
and pray for strength to carry on.

When I say..."I am a Christian"
I'm not bragging of success.
I'm admitting I have failed
and cannot ever pay the debt.

When I say..."I am a Christian"
I'm not claiming to be perfect,
my flaws are too visible
but God believes I'm worth it.

When I say..."I am a Christian"
I still feel the sting of pain
I have my share of heartaches
which is why I seek His name.

When I say..."I am a Christian"
I do not wish to judge.
I have no authority.
I only know I am loved.

Answer 9

He is mocking God in a way, and it is a sin. But the church was designed to help the sick, not the healthy. Thus I would say that he should still be allowed to attend

Answer 10

As what many said... when you go to church, your focus should be your own personal spiritual connection with God. Not who is there. The CHurch is not a place for value judgements nor is it a place to scoff at someone who is not of like mind to you.

God gave that man a gift of experience that not many have or understand. Perhaps it is God's message that people should be more loving of their fellow neighbor...