Homosexuality!!?

Question

I have been dealing with homosexuality basically most of my adult life, and the thing that gets me is when some people who are not that way say that homsexuals choose to be that way. My question is to those people, do you think that a person would just get up one day and say to himself, I'm going to be gay? Just as some straight people can not see being with the same sex, they just do not think that way.

Now if it were left up to me I would have said let me be a straight man.

I do not know why some people are and some are not, nor do I know if it is a illness or an curse.

what I do know is that is is sad sometimes and I wish that it was not that way, I believe that some of us are sad to
ourselves, as if no one understands what we are going through.

It is up to God to set those of us free who wants to be free from homosexuality. I could go on and on but it is making me a little sad just typing these few words.

To me it is a constant battle that I hope to win.

Answer 1

I agree, it isn't a choice.

Answer 2

It isn't a sickness or a curse. It is who you are. You didn't choose it anymore that straight people choose to be straight. Society doesn't embrace you but that is not your fault, it's society. You aren't hurting anyone. Why would God ever be against love? As long as you are kind and loving and a good person you shouldn't worry. There are many people in the world who love you and have no problem with your sexuality. There are Christians who love you and have not problem with your sexuality. The Bible was written by man, not God. It preaches many things about sexuaity that most everyone would simply disregard:
* DEUTERONOMY 22:13-21
If it is discovered that a bride is not a virgin, the Bible demands that she be executed by stoning immediately.
* DEUTERONOMY 22:22
If a married person has sex with someone else's husband or wife, the Bible commands that both adulterers be stoned to death.
* MARK 10:1-12
Divorce is strictly forbidden in both Testaments, as is remarriage of anyone who has been divorced.
* LEVITICUS 18:19
The Bible forbids a married couple from having sexual intercourse during a woman's period. If they disobey, both shall be executed.
* MARK 12:18-27
If a man dies childless, his widow is ordered by biblical law to have intercourse with each of his brothers in turn until she bears her deceased husband a male heir.
* DEUTERONOMY 25:11-12
If a man gets into a fight with another man and his wife seeks to rescue her husband by grabbing the enemy's genitals, her hand shall be cut off and no pity shall be shown her.

These things seem ridiculous now and in the future so will the statement that Homosexuality is a sin. How can love be a sin? Love yourself and know that others love you. And move to San Francisco :)

Answer 3

I wish you the best in your ongoing battle. I do believe some choose it. As a matter of fact, I know a few people in my life who made the choice to become gay. Sure, some of em cause they thought it would be cool, and of course it didnt stick, and others who were so hurt in previous relationships, the only way they could find happiness, even in such a difficult life, was to "go gay".

Listen, what you are, whether God made you that way or not is a sin. BUT, we are ALL guilty of sin, and I can think of worse sins, and worse sinners, than homosexuals, so dont let anyone get you down. I wish you the best of luck, and hope someday the world will open up and see its really not that big a deal.

Answer 4

I'm sorry I don't think that it is some type of flu or gripe,
you have more femenine hormones in a male genetic body, it is not mental problem, it is not a problem a lot.
You can't choose your sexuality, I'm not gay, I'm a 43 years old, mother of 4 teenegers boys, and an 11 year old girl, and I always thought that If any of my children came with a different sexuality other than that what their body mandated, I will accepted, they are my kids till death.
I'm not a religious woman, but I will say to the religious people that, if God made women, men, lesbians and guys, he did it for a reazon Don't you think so?
If it was nature, nature is wise, everything that surround us, it has a roll in the ecosystem, we just have to found out the roll of the
other 2 sexes not define yet in our social system.

BUY THE MOVIE "SAVE" IT IS A GREAT MOVIE,

You be yourself, don't let anybody tell you, that you are sick, you are a perfectly normal person. Be yourself, enjoy your sexuality
have fun with it.
And if you are believer, forgive your god, for all the bad moments you have had.

Answer 5

oh honey. I feel your pain! don't worry about what other people say, life is too darn short! The way I explain sexual preferences to people is this:
Ask- What is your favorite flavor of ice cream?
Answer_ Chocolate (or any other flavor)
Ask- okay so you like to eat this chocolate ice cream right?
Answer_ Of course I like to eat this flavor!
Ask- What if for some reason someone tells you that it is now
a sin to eat chocolate icecream, you have to eat radish
flavored ice cream to be a normal member of society.
Answer_ gross I would hate to have to eat radish flavored ice
cream!
Ask- But what if it were the only food on the planet you were
allowed to eat?
Answer_ well then I suppose I would have no choice. I would
have to eat this distasteful radish confection in order to live
Ask- One final question; would you ever stop liking or wanting the
chocolate ice cream. Would everyone be justified in expect-
ing you to all of a sudden LOVE you radish ice cream.
Answer_....

This is an analogy I use to make people see that a person cannot help what they love. This applies to people as it does to everything else. You may be able to stop yourself from doing homosexual acts, but you will never be able to help what kind of people you are attracted to. And no one should be forced to eat radish ice cream when they long for chocolate!
if you need support my address is [e-mail]

Answer 6

I answered this once and here is that answer:

I don't think a person could choose to stop being gay any more then they could choose to stop being straight.Imagine a heterosexual person being told that who they are is a choice and a bad choice and they need to change.Do you think they could or would?

It doesn't matter what sounds right and what sounds wrong.The fact is, we love who we love and are attracted to who we are attracted to because that is who we are, gay or straight.And as long as nobody is being hurt and no laws are being broken then there really isn't even a reason to force yourself to stop being who you are.So why would anyone want to stop being who they are just because it happens to not be popular among some rather hateful people?

Answer 7

It is not a choice and although as a gay man myself I acknowledge the act of sodomy is a sin. And it sounds like you have not come to terms with it yourself, it takes time. If you run across those that try to beat you with scripture, ask them to read the following.....

Do you wear clothing of two different materials say cotton and linen or other fibers? I would point you to Leviticus 19:19.

Do you enjoy steaks and burgers with pink juices oozing onto the plate? Please read Leviticus 19:26.

Do you or your children have pierced ears or tattoos? You might want to check out Leviticus 19:28.

If someone in your family committed adultery, would you refuse to stone them? Then you need to read Leviticus 20:10.

Answer 8

Take no notice of ANYBODY else, you are what you are. I am not gay as it happens, but I'm sick of hearing and reading stuff by people who claim that homosexuality is a sin, disgusting, degrading, and unholy. Who do these people think thay are. The only thing that the bible proves is that people were just as ignorant and narrowminded 2000 years ago as they are today. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

If it is not a conscious decision to be gay, then please stop worrying about it. You lose so much energy just by constantly doubting yourself and your God. If God is Infinite Love, then his being opposed to homosexuality is a human invention.
Also, try to stop worrying about other people's opinion on homosexuality. You can't decide for them what they should think, so don't waste your precious energy on a situation you can do nothing about.
Feel free to be yourself, the only permission you need to be yourself is your own.

Answer 10

It starts with you making a choice. Not only in your mind but in your everyday life. Changing where you go, who you hang out with, the things you do as a homosexual. It also takes having a personal relationship with Jesus. As you have already said it is not easy and once you start having this relationship with Jesus it will probable get worse. Why? Because satan does not want you to change from bad to good. Once Jesus is in your heart then He will start cleansing you from the inside out. I can't imagine the situation you are in but I do know that God will find you a way out and free you from this burden. It starts with you and ends with Him. You have already taken the first step in admitting you have a problem and you want to beat it. We as humans do not have the strength or the ability to do it on our own.

Answer 11

God loves you. He forgives you. It is sin. It is a sickness, You may have been abused as a child. You may have many reasons for it. I am sure it is not a curse, but I am sure by your desperate plea for help, that it feels like a curse. If you want to overcome it, you can. It is like any sickness, or any sin. Turn to God and he will show you the path for your own inner peace and happiness. Best of inner peace and happiness. Enjoy your journey with Christ, he can take you places that you never dreamed possible.