Depressed Girlfriend makes it hard to have fun when we hang out?

Question

My girlfriend is very depressed and tells me her parents treat her horribly however from her close family friend, a mutual friend or ours, her parents are nothing like that and her source for that is my gf older brother. I want to do things to help her be happy but when I ask her what she wants to do she tells me she doesnt care and when i ask her what she does for fun she tells me "nothing, I dont really know what I do for fun" She has no motivation to do anything and never makes any suggestions as to what we can do together. Any help or ideas of what to do that might make her happy would help thanx

Answer 1

Those are the signs for depression. What you can do is support her and take her to places where she can have fun. Try and make her happy. It's all you can do for someone who is depressed.

Answer 2

Those are all signs of clinical depression. Its nothing to be ashamed of, but to be honest there's not much you can do except be there for her until it starts affecting you adversely. She has to be the one to accept the fact that she is depressed and seek help to find the root cause, environmental or chemical; usually a combination of both. Speaking from personal experience, I've been treated for depression professionally after trauma from major incidents as a police officer and learning about dysfunctional families from counselors and self help books. Once she understands the reasons better, and understands its not her, its for reasons beyond her control she should be willing to seek help. Be patient;; its a hard, slow, sometimes trial and error method with health care professionals. Not all are as good as others. Without meaning to over dramatize the situation or scare you, I suggest that if you are really in love with and care about her condition, you to should read up on dysfunctional families, and more importantly--research and learn about precursor signs of suicide. I've worked many over the years and know relative yet has ever told me they saw it coming. Its admirable that you're concerned and want to help, a sure sign of maturity.

Answer 3

Honey, your not her life coach your her boyfriend. And your just incompatible it looks like. She's a long way down and its starting to get to where your with her out of pity. Be her friend for a while and just hang out, and don't let her bring you down too, depression is contagious. This won't be the one you marry. And if you insist on it then its a loooong hard uphill battle and there's nothing you can do to keep her in good spirits for long. If you were the one for her, she'd snap out of it already...sorry to say.

Answer 4

The only thing you can do is to take her to a professional (or tell her family to do so if you're afraid to her reaction)... depression is a desease that needs treatment... and to stand by her.

Answer 5

well try to find out the source of her depression..
if u are sure that her parents are not the spurce.. try to talk with them about it..
or her friends.. she might still be afraid to talk with u...
idk..
depends on how much she loves u.. or trusts u
just give her time and patience

Answer 6

Seek wisdom from above, in prayer.
I Corinthians 13;8a, Love never fails!!!!!

Answer 7

Take her to a place where you can have privacy console her and make her feel you need her........girls like the guys who are really caring.............