do you think i should get pregnant im only 17yrs.old and i love babies what do i do?

Answer 1

OMG no. Please - don't. Sure, babies are cute and fun, but they are a lot of responsibility and you are very young. You have a lot of life to live and you should live it. ... wow... it's the rest of your life, honey. THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. Don't you want to go to college and have a career so that you can support your children when the time is right? Don't you want a husband with an equally good career to enable you the luxury of being a stay-at-home mom?

Trust me - BIG MISTAKE having a kid at 17. HUGE. Some people do okay, but you should wait. Enjoy being young because it only happens once.

Answer 2

I do understand that feeling. I definitely felt it from the time that I was 14.

Personally I'd recommend the following in order of importance and chronology.

1. Get a highschool diploma. It is getting more and more essential for a good life of future teens. The lower educational jobs are decreasing in demand and a highschool diploma will help.

2. Look into college. Similarly with Bachelors degrees most jobs that will make it a decent wage to raise a family will require this level of education.

3. Find someone that is going to be a worthwhile partner and parent. This is incredibly difficult to do at 17. As much as you think you may have found it I would recommend waiting until #1 & #2 are satasfied before believeing that this person will satasfy #3 because people change a lot between 17 and 22.

In the meantime I would recommend living vicariously. Get a job working childcare. Borrow other people's kids all the time. volunteer at schools, boys and girls clubs and ymca's. Get a job as a camp counselor. If you love kids then you are called to work with them and there are a lot of ways to do that before you become a parent and it will make you a better parent when you are one.

I would recommend not becoming a parent until you are married and not get married until you are at least in your senior year of college.

Answer 3

It's great that you love babies, but you aren't even thinking about what consists of raising a child love alone is just not enough reason to have a baby. You are practically still a child yourself even though you are a teen you are not fully physically or mentally developed. Go to college, go to parties and have fun with your girlfriends - then find a great guy, get married, and then talk to him about when it is the right time for both of you to have a child. Parenting is a huge responsibilty and something very wonderful if shared with the right father and right circumstances and something that should not be decided on a flip of a coin. I had my 1st child at 20 and when I turned 21 guess where I was? Breastfeeding my child and renting movies at blockbuster instead of getting together with the girls so they can take me clubbing - not that I regret it but I would've waited until I had a chance to enjoy certain things that I'll never be able to go back and do.
I think you are lacking attention and affection in your life and you are thinking that a baby will give you that - well, what happens when you realize it's not all dreamy and perfect like you thought?

Answer 4

Get someone to slap you upside the head!!!!!! Be financially stable first. Grow up. Meet someone then talk about it again.
At 17 you are looking for someone to love and that will love you back. Look inwardly for that. Don't at this age think that a baby will provide that. It is a hard job being a mum. At 17 you are still to self absorbed, you won't believe that but in 10 years think back on it and see if you still believe that. I felt the same way as you so i am speaking from experience. All i ever wanted was to be a mum and I am glad I waited. You will have more in common with other mums if you are older. Being a young mum will also socially isolate you too. Do you really think your friends will want to sit at home with you and a crying baby or would they rather be clubbing. Grow up a bit more first and find the love you crave elsewhere for now (ie: your family)

Answer 5

Getting pregnant is fun; being pregnant (by most accounts) is not.

Examine your resources and do a little research. Do you have what it takes to cover the reasonable costs of pregnancy, childbirth and the first year-or-so of expenses?

How much of that depends on the resources of your partner? At what sort of risk are those resources -- meaning how vulnerable are your respective jobs and savings?

If you're depending on a partner, what happens if he splits? What happens if he dies? Those are crappy things to consider, but they are very real concerns.

Do you have reliable, trustworthy people that can help you take care of the baby or babies (what if you have twins, triplets, etc.?)

Having a baby is an extremely rewarding experience, and I hope that you're able to have -- and to care for -- many during your lifetime. But I hope you'll keep in mind that babies are more than the "cute little bundles of joy" represented by infants.

Babies need and babies want -- and as the parent, you get to decipher which is the case, and what is the object of the baby's need or desire.

My view towards parenting is that it is an opportunity for parents to invest themselves in the lives of their children. I can't imagine anything more personally rewarding.

Being a parent is the ultimate career choice, and it should be made while you are young enough to enjoy life with your children.

Every other career can wait, but your biological clock won't. And, being a parent prepares you for the challenges of professional life in ways that will give you a HUGE advantage over "non-moms," if you elect to go that route later-on.

All the best to you and yours! Feel free to let me know if you need help getting pregnant ;)

Answer 6

omg. i was pregnant at 17 and went to school and i tell you it was not fun after-wards. i do not regret my children only that i missed out on all the fun of being a young adult and the relationships i missed out. so no i had my last baby after 30 it is much better you have a better knowledge of the world and who you are and who your mate is. so please do yourself a favor and wait at least 5 to 7 years before making that life time commentment, because they do not stay babies long and if it's the baby you are wanting, go to a friend or neighbor and babysit for a few days without any help from anyone and see what a small dose of it would be like. don't get anything for the baby, that you must get for yourself, babies don't come with a supply of diapers and milk and they do not come with a hand book. good luck and please wait a few more years before bringing in another life into this world.

Answer 7

No, you should not get pregnant. You are too young. THe response that said you should babysit, volunteer or something may have a good idea.

Pregnancy at 17 usually results in two things: a lack of education for the [most likely] single mom, and b. a life of poverty or near poverty for the mother and child.

How would you support a child? Who would take care of a child while you work or go to school? Do you enjoy going out with friends, dating, going to the movies? If you have a baby, kiss all that goodbye and look forward to crying, screaming, and diapers. Oh yes, diapers, food and formula, rent, electricity all cost money, where will that money come from (assuming you are not independently wealthy)?

I am not saying you have to be rich to have kids, but, you should not have kids at your age because "babies are cute." Money doesn't buy happiness, but neither does poverty. Education is not a ticket to paradise, but a lack of education, a kid and no job skills are probably hell.

Answer 8

You should get a baby sitting job. Everyone loves babies but it is a little different at 3 am for the 85th night in a row when your baby is up again and you are living on 4 or 5 hours of sleep a day plus going to school or working.
If you love babies then love your potential children enough to wait until you are old enough , mature enough and financially ready to be the best mom you can be.

Answer 9

NO NO NO NO. Consider the baby first, because once you give are pregnant that will be who is first in your life. At 17 you can not give a baby what it needs mentally, socially, or financially. Do for yourself first. Finish school, make money, get health insurance then have the baby. I have three children 11, 5, and 1. My total child cost, daycare, school, parties that they get invited to, medicine, first aid, health insurance, clothes, and too many other things to list takes around 800 a month. This does not include food, housing and utilities. Anybody can make a baby, but a person that truly wants to be a good parent will put the baby first and make sure that they have the means to care for the baby before they have it. In the meantime get a puppy, they are good practice. (You could also babysit for money, parents love to have people that truly enjoy being around children watch theirs.)

Answer 10

I hope you wait to have a baby. Just loving them is not enough. A baby needs support financially. They need loving parents.2 preferably. Being a single parent is not easy at any age let alone at 17. and they dont stay babies for long. before you know it they are 7 and it school yelling " I hate you" because you didnt let them have that chocolate before bed or you didnt or couldn't buy them everything they want. wait till they throw the remote control through the window because you turned the tv off. How you going to deal with that. Or when they use a perminent marker all over your sofa or trash your dvd player. Heck. my sons first words were NO and MINE. Yes, Kids need love. But love can be hard when you are sitting at home while all your friends are out on Saturday night and you are sitting at home and your kid is crying and screaming and throwing up. Its not all sweet and nice stuff. Wait till you are up all night worried that their 105 temperature will come down. Plus, if you dont work to get a good education, I mean college or at least jr college or a trade school you will never be able to make enough money to support yourself and your child and will be dependent on others for the rest of your life. And forget about the idea of working and going to school if you have a baby. You probably cant. You will be exhausted all the time for the next 20 years at least. And College is hard enough by itself. Its much easier to be a parent when you are through with school and have a good job and some money put away and find the right man, its easier because you have someone to support you while you go through the hard times. But I have known few people who have met the right person at 17. And if you have a baby first. You may never find the right one. And if you are not married Its hard to get a kid who is your age to stick around and be a parent even if they could support you. Do it right. Go to school. Get a trade or a career, meet a great guy who had a carreer of his own, fall in love.,Get married. Then if you both are ready. Take time from your career to have that baby you want. And you can spend time loving it and not worrying how to feed it and yourself. I know that you might think your parents will help you. And they probably will. But is that really fair to them?I mean grandparents love to babysit sometimes but it gets old if you do it too often and grandma already did her part raising you. she is tired. she wants to do other things now. It will make it hard on everyone you love if you do this too soon. Do it right for her as well as you. your mom worked 17 years to raise you to be a successful person. Do this and you will be struggling forever. And you dont want to be a welfare mom. Its not as easy as it sounds. you live on next to nothing and your child deserves better than that. Please wait. You dont get a second chance when it comes to doing it right. And your Child deserves the best prepared Mom he or she can get.

Answer 11

Bad idea. You have all your life ahead of you to have babies, enjoy life at every age. Dont rush. Think about it like a meat dish that you are preparing. If you want it to taste good, you have to read the instructions and do exactly like it says. If the heat is high it will burn the meat, if it is low, it will take a long time to cook. So every thing should be done at the right time. Moreover, you are a kid yourself, i mean you have a lot to learn and do so give it time. It is easy to make a mistake, but very difficult to correct it. I dont mean having a kid is a bad idea, but just get more responsible. Complete your education, have a good job, and be financially stable. If things go wrong, you don't want to depend on others financially. as it is it is your baby and you want the best for her/him.