2006-06-19 20:23:39 · 17 answers · asked by abc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
couple of things:
- keep yourself occupied with other girls. this might not help permanently but in my experience, it gets you through the day.
- go to a therapist. don't expect a complete cure from this, but it can help a bit
- get rid of everything that reminds you of her, especially pictures, videos etc.
- if possible, move to another country (that's what i did). again, no single thing will make you get over her instantly, but trying to start a completely new life can make things easier.
- let the time pass! everyone says time heals everything and i never believed it, but it really kinda does. the most important thing here is to not expect changes too soon, for me it took 5 years til i could live a more or less normal life again. i still think about her every day but i'm so used to it that it doesn't get me so down anymore.
- again, get yourself new girlfriends. whenever you're in a new relationship, you won't think as much about the one girl. doesn't even have to be a relationship, just screw around alot and be with different girls. it'll keep you busy.
- when you have a new girlfriend, try really hard not to compare her to that one girl. she won't be exactly like her and it can ruin the relationship when you try to see someone in her that she isn't. this ruined it for me lots of times, i just couldn't accept the girls as being different from my ex.
- always try to be occupied with something (work, girls, partying, whatever). having too much time too think about your life can be dangerous.
in most cases it's not as extreme as it was for me, so you probably won't be miserable for 5 years. really depends on the kind of girl.
good luck :)
eta: just realised you're a girl (avatar didn't show up before). well, just see the answer as not directed at you personally then ;)
2006-06-19 21:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by flösen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two good things to do.
First, examine how she broke your heart. In the end, she must have misled you or deceived you OR you misread the situation. Did she mislead you? Keeping reviewing how she deceived you until you see that this is NOT an attractive trait and is actually something that repulses you. Keep reviewing it until you see that you're better off now AWAY from such a deceptive person. OR, Did you misread the situation? Keep reviewing in your mind two or three episodes where she was just being friendly and you were falling in love with her. Keep reviewing it until you see there wasn't really a match there, and the pain will eaze.
The second thing to do is to address the sexual side of things. Whenever a guy "can't get over a girl", he is hung up on her sexually. This is just a fact, I'm not condemning anyone. Spend some time thinking about what about her turned you on - her face, her eyes, her lips? Her petite build? Her curves? Her breasts, her hips? Once you've figured this out, spend time looking at women who have a different body type than this girl you're hung up on. This may sound a bit odd, but spend time "forcing" yourself to be attracted to girls who look different from your ex. Was she a blond? Look at models in magazines who are brunettes. Was she busty? Find extremely slender models. Was she slender? Go to WWE.com and look at lots of chick who have had implants and are really busty. Until you can see that lots of chicks are attractive who all have different body types, your work is not yet done. Formulate the "anti-ex" -- the body type that is the opposite of your ex-flame -- and work on finding that attractive.
Do this and the deathgrip she has on your heart will be released - I guarantee it.
2006-06-19 20:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a transitional girl to hang out with. Every guy needs a female friend who he is not romantically interested in.
2006-06-19 20:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hold on to the possibility of it starting again and muster up some strength to move on. No one is worth not being able to forward hearts mend.
2006-06-19 20:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by lildad7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deal with it and move on. You can get over the girl it just sucks bad and you think you think you can't but you can. Leave her be.
2006-06-19 20:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by jason83go 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don’t know there is this guy the i kept breaking up with but he always returned back and i always took him back until finally i couldn’t take him any more i just broke up with him and stickd to my actions. he tried to come back i refused him after 6 month he proposed to me but still i refused im and now rarely c him but i know that he still wants me.
The point is u can’t replace a gf but u can have another one.
2006-06-19 20:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Factor X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dwell on it for a short while, write a song about it, and move on. If she wants to move on, what can you do? Get over it as quick as possible.
2006-06-19 20:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u wanna ask me on what i did ...i try'd suicde and cut alot ...some of us cant take it cause we may not seem like it but some guys really hurt when our hearts are broken soo yah
2006-06-19 20:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either cut the crap and ask her out, or write myself off with mates at the pub :)
2006-06-19 20:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by spfxi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry and groan and feel sorry for ourselves until we find the next ex-girlfriend.
2006-06-19 20:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by sgissin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋