A fellow parent was over when my son was doing his math homework when he brought it to me for me to look over, I told him he had wrong answers and needed to rework them. The other parent told me that was a form of cheating, because I am letting my son know that he got wrong answers. What?? I didn't tell him the answers, I simply pointed out that he had answered the problems incorrectly. He(the other parent)told me that it is the teacher's job & my involvementis helping my son cheat. I completely disagree. Teachers follow a standardized curriculum and don't have the extra time like they did when we were in school. Plus, this lets me know if he needs additional help in certain areas. He admitted hes never gone to school with his daughter, but was adamant that I was helping my son cheat. BTW, his daughter flunked Kindergarten & 1st grade and barely passed 2nd grade. My son is an A/B honor student(I am very proud). Am I helping my son cheat or aiding in his education and comprehension?
2006-06-19 20:19:33 · 7 answers · asked by Redneck-n-happy 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Just telling him he did the problems wrong? That's not cheating, that's helping - and kudos to you for taking time to assist your child's education. I can see the other guy's concern though, many of the more common forms of parental involvement in their children's homework really do comprise cheating - for instance (and I'm not implying that you do this), many parents will carefully help their child set up each problem and then leave the child to do the arithmetic on it themselves. That's cheating, since 90% of the work is setting up the problem - and of course when these children go on to college they only know how to plug formulas into a calculator and no idea how these formulas work or when and how to apply them. What you want to avoid is to actually do any substantial portion of your child's work for him. But to spend time helping him study, point out ways in which he can discover information for himself, or double-check his work before it gets submitted to the teacher (where any feedback will occur far too late to help him) - that is NOT cheating, and I wish that more parents actually took such an interest in their child's education.
BTW - I find it thoroughly unsurprising that his daughter flunked kindergarten and first grade - complete absence of parental involvement is usually highly detremental to a child's education, and while it can be overcome by a good teacher with the time and leeway to teach basic reasoning and research skills, the odds of actually finding such a teacher are somewhere between ε and zero.
2006-06-19 20:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by Pascal 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was having similar moral problems regarding this site. But parental involvement in children education in general is a positive thing. Showing interest in his homework will compensate for (sometimes) boring aspects of learning. And if you are a model for your son, it is important for him to share as many of his problems as possible.
Just do not make any pressure for being an A+ student if this will become a burden for him (I was an A+ student and I was still felling the pressure of “why only an A?”).
A lack of interest is the problem I have to fight now in my country, as parents usually show little or no interest in there offspring learning process. And in most cases this leads to the child's decreasing of interest in school and even to abandoning it completely.
2006-06-19 23:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by Cosmin C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating at all. In fact, teachers my entire life have always encouraged students to ask for help, look it up, gets parents to help, even work on it with other students. Now don't get me wrong, working on it with other students does not mean "one person does the worksheet and the other kid copies it." No, teachers really do like that the kid asks for help and that they help one another on homework.
By the way, in middle school and high school math, every year the teacher would tell us to look in the back of the book for answers. That way we'd know what we were supposed to get and our job was to figure out HOW to get it. Even this isn't cheating. Homework is meant for learning and it's not cheating to get help on it.
2006-06-19 20:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by poprocks24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; I think a parent should sit down and take an interest in what the child is trying to answer, because both of them gain the knowledge, different story if the answers to a test are being answered by the parent and not allowing the child to learn
2006-06-19 20:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by keleising 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other parent is an ignorant self absorbed fool. Or so I would say at first glance. I wonder if he just doesn't care enough to help her, or if he is so wrapped up in himself that he just doesn't want to try to be involved with his own daughter.
You are helping your child achieve more by working WITH him. The other parent is just dumb. He claims it's the teachers job, not his. That is a cop out. You should tell him he is only holding his child back, and is preventing her future success by not being a part of her education.
2006-06-19 20:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by 1235 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some parents know less than their children but do not want the child to know it
and need some reason not to let the child know.
If it were on an exam paper to assess a child's knowledge that would be considered cheating.
2006-06-19 20:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by namasta@rogers.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup...
2006-06-19 20:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋