I know that my boyfriend loves me and wants to have kids with me. That is certain. But what happens when the guy you are with suddenly decides that he is not ready to have a girlfriend? I mean, like, he wants me but he has becomes so "boyish: recently, which is fine, but the problem was he wasn't that way before... I know that he wants to make it work, but he is also very emotional invensted in himself and his friends whereas before I felt like it was all about me. Given that we just moved in together, I know that it has it's normal stresse but since I have a good head on me, with should both know what's going on. If he doesn't start acting like he wants to be with me for the rest of his life then I am going to leave him because why would you waste your time on someone who thinks you are medoicre? (sp?)
2006-06-19 19:51:36 · 13 answers · asked by caroline 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
HAve you tried talking to him about it? I suggest that you tell him how it makes you feel without insulting him, or getting upset. Also try asking to him if yo ucan hang out with him, and his friend. If, however, he claims that he;s not intrested in having a GF anymore it would be a good idea to just leave him before he puts you through more emotional stress. Why should you wait if he's not intrested? This may actually make him realise he's losing someone he loves, and you;ll for sure if he tries to get you back.
2006-06-19 20:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Marcus O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is how he acts when you are just living together Think about what it will be like when you are married. I have known many couples that lived together first the marriage 7 out of ten are divorced now, they lived together for several years and divorced only after one or two years marriage.
2006-06-20 05:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lora D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so certain about things you think you know. I was in the same boat about 6 years ago and things ended 6 months after we moved in together.
2006-06-20 07:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's either freaking out about your new level of relationship (moved in together) and is compensating by spending less time with you; or else he now thinks he has you and doesn't have to try hard any more.
2006-06-21 20:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I man has found the girl right for him he will do all he can to impress her in order to capture her heart. Once that happens he then feels safe enough to be himself and to concintrate on other goals such as his work, play or his future with you by his side.
2006-06-20 03:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please use birth control until you are married and you know it's going to last. If he wants to have kids with you then he should love you enough to marry you. If it doesn't feel right to you, then move on. You can't be truly happy if you're having doubts, and you deserve all the happiness in the world.
2006-06-20 02:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by RYSN1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, so take your time! let things settle down and see what happens. Two ways can pop out, the good or the bad so in time follow your heart!
2006-06-20 02:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jason Kid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He possibly realised the importance of the intending relationship, which may have a perverse affect on him (Stand by your man), his feet may thaw out in time...
2006-06-20 04:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK HE MAY BE ACTING THIS WAY BECAUSE THE TWO OF YOU ARE NOW LIVING TOGETHER. THE TWO OF YOU ARE TOGETHER EVERYDAY NOW AND THIS IS HIS WAY OF ACTING OUT. YOU SHOULD JUST TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL AND IF HE STILLS ACTS THIS WAY TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE GOING TO MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE BECAUSE YOU WANT TO RAISE KIDS WITH HIM NOT RAISE HIM.
2006-06-20 02:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shacking up with someone reveals alot about them that you don't notice before. You are lucky you see it so soon. Act on this good information. DUMP him.
2006-06-20 03:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋