my 2 yr old is driving me nuts!?

Question

my 2 yr old daughter will not go to bed without me. she doesnt nap so i figure by the time it is bedtime that she will be ready to go to bed. if she by chance will go to sleep she ends up in bed with me in the middle f the night. what do i do to change this?

Answer 1

set her up with a schedule now. i didn't a my four year old thought 2am was a great bed time.

We now, get her PJs on, brush her teeth, go pottty, and Daddy reads her a book. She goes to bed now at 9:00 every night. It's great and so much less stressful. Good Luck

Answer 2

By far, the only thing that will work is consistency. Do the same thing every night....my daughter takes a bath, gets her jammies on and gets a story read to her. As far as naps go, put her down at the same time every day. Most toddlers still need at least an hour nap every day. Even if she doesn't nap, tell her she needs to play quietly in her room, that way you get an hour to do what needs to be done around the house. The same goes for bedtime. You cannot make her go to sleep. So after the bedtime routine, tell her if she wants to she can read or play quietly and then leave the room. She may stay up for a few hours at first but she'll eventually start doing to sleep by herself soon after she gets into bed. It may take up to a month! Just don't make bedtime a struggle. Give her some control over when she sleeps, but not when she goes to her room and she'll stop fighting you.

Answer 3

I hope you are a patient person. I never knew a 2 year old that could do without a nap and not be a living nightmare by 5 pm, but maybe your kid is the exception. My suggestion is to let her have her afternoon nap. Put her to bed at an appropriate time. BELIEVE that she will get up and come looking for you. Gently and lovingly put her back to bed and explain that she is getting to be a big girl and needs to sleep in her own room. Leave the door open and a nightlight on, if she wants. The main thing is, EVERY time she comes to you, gently put her back in her own bed. There will be crying, and wailing and knashing of teeth! Ha! Neither one of you will get much sleep for a couple of weeks, but whenever you give in, you'll be starting from scratch again. Be brave, be loving. but BE FIRM!!! It might help if you buy her new bedding with her favorite cartoon character (SpongeBob, Cinderella, whatever), and be sure to praise her tremendously when she suceeds in spending even a couple of hours in her own bed. I don't think there's anything wrong with rewarding good behaviour. The first time she spends the whole night in her own bed, buy her a toy, or take her to McDonald's, or whatever. It's gonna take a while, but if you're consistent, it WILL happen! Good luck, Mom, and HANG IN THERE!!!

Answer 4

My 2 year old daughter used to be the same way. Now she is 3 and some nights still has a hard time sleeping in her own bed. When you put her in her bed just talk to her and tell her what yall are gonna do tomorrow. Then she will be like okay fine I know there is no way I can go sleep in your bed. But you have to be strong and have to want this really bad for her to be a big girl and sleep in her own bed. I also tell my daughter only babies sleep with momma , but big girls sleep in their own bed and for some reason she like oh big girls...i want to be a big girl.

Answer 5

Gotta agree with most of the advice already given: have a routine set in stone to lead up to bedtime. Start it 30 - 60 minutes before you want her in bed so she knows what to expect, ie: bath, maybe a little milk, cuddling with mommy while reading a set number of books. My son knows he gets 3 short stories or one long book, his choice, it helps make him feel in control of the routine. Brush teeth, in bed, with hugs and kisses, a brief chat about all things to do the next day,which is why he needs his sleep, then I give his lovey lots&lots of special mama kisses & hugs, that his lovey can give him if he wakes up during the night. It took a couple of months, but it works for me. Although occasionally with "night terrors" starting ,a couple times a month I still find him at the foot of my bed some mornings. Hope this helps. it really is a tough issue.

Answer 6

We never rejected our children at night. They need the security.
They stayed with us occasionally in their young teens, when sick or sad or in need of a bedtime story.

Her daytime activeness is possibly created by sleeping in too long, and/or refined carbohydrates, high fructose sugar, sugar, white bread, etc.
Eliminate the sugar products and refined foods. More natural fruit juice, fruits and vegetables.
Sugar for children is like putting them on steroids. It gives them an energy boost. The blood sugar level goes sky high then drops an hour or so later below normal and they get cranky. It's a roller coaster ride up and down sugar levels all day.
To nap, put a mat on the floor, stay with her in a dark room and tell her stories until she sleeps. Use a stage prop for her to hug, a pillow or stuffed animal.

Be patient, keep a calm state, don't yell, try the diet change, and take her for long walks in the park.

Good Luck

Answer 7

I also slept in my son's room for a couple of weeks to get him used to sleeping in his room. For a few days I slept in his bed w/him. Then I slept on a cot for about a week. Then I told him I needed to sleep in my bed and he needed to sleep in his. And it worked. We also have an established bedtime routine. According to the Positive Discipline book by Jane Nelsen, if they get out of bed you are supposed to lead them back in there without saying a word and put them back in their bed. We did that for a while too when he would get up. It helped. This is a stage and it too will pass. It seems overwhelming sometimes, but they are only little for a little while. Good luck.

Answer 8

She is having problem adjusting. First a clean infant, then grandma, then no grandma... etc. 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days olds function maximum proper with a set schedule and it variety of feels that her generic hassle-free is disrupted. the most proper suggestion i am going to provide you is to objective to entice close in there. start up to get decrease back right into a universal hassle-free with her. attempt to get her to maintain in mind that now she is a huge sister and must be a good roll variety. it will make her experience blanketed. attempt to get her that ought to help you out like getting the infant a sparkling diaper for you. Have her be mommy's little helper. this way her potential will be positioned into some thing effective and he or she will be in a position to no longer holiday your nerves as undesirable. Granted, she is two and would't help you lots, yet nonetheless attempt to locate little issues she will do.

Answer 9

Hi you need to put her in bed at the time set out by you (for a two year old about 730pm to 800pm would be my first choice) when she gets out of her bed you need to put her back into her bed and tell her it is bed time. Every time she gets up you need to put her back into her bed and close the door. She will cry for what seems to be hours and hours but she will cry her self to sleep(sooner or later). It's not easy now for you, because you have allowed her to make the rules, but you need to do this and I will tell you now in about a weeks time of being this strict with her you will be able to put her to bed with out trying.

Answer 10

Set a routine for her. Tell her you will hold her and Rock for 30 min. Stick to that. After 30 min put her in her bed and tuck her in. Tell her it's bed time and shut the door. She may scream and holler, let her. You need to break her of it now. If she comes to your room at night comfort her then put her back in her bed.