I am in a relationship with a really nice guy.We have only been dating acouple of months and he tells me he loves me.The problem is that I dont feel the same way.Its my first relationship since my ex broke my heart and I am just not over him yet.Everybody told me to move on so I did.Now I feel badly because I dont want to hurt this new guy.Should I give this new relationship some time even though I am still in love with my ex?
2006-06-19 19:38:02 · 17 answers · asked by 12stepchic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Moving on" when you're still in love with an ex, is a bad move. You shouldn't move on until you're capable of loving someone the way they might love you. You're a good example of why. Because now you're probably gonna hurt this guy. I think in your situation, I would tell this guy the truth. You're still in love with someone else, you thought you were ready for a new relationship, but you're just not, and that you're really sorry. You never meant to hurt him. He'll be less hurt than by you just dumping him with no explanation. He'll understand.
2006-06-19 19:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it took me over a year to get over my ex bf, and in between that time, i had promise myself not to date other guys, until im totally over my ex...
but that didnt happen...what only happen is a waste of time..sure it was a beautiful kind of love..sure it could have work out...sure he is the best...but i deserve better and so do u...
dont hold on to the past and let go of ur present
dont push away a guy that loves u cause u cant seem to find the thoughts in loving him the same at this point
everybody deserve to be love and so does this new found bf
be honest to ur new bf and tell him that u have not gotten over ur ex even though u are trying to forget..if he really loves u he will understand
u are not still in love with ur ex...u're simply in love with the past u were once both in...
give ur life a better chance to be happy
2006-06-20 02:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest to yourself and to your current bf. If you really don't feel anything to him then better stop the relationship. Take time to fix yourself first before starting a new one. Tell him as early as possible. He will surely understands you if he really loves you.
2006-06-20 03:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by awin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then why did you entered into another relationship? O_o
entering into another relationship is not the answer you are looking for. know what, the important thing here is saving a relationship. again breaking up is not the answer you are looking for. know this guy better. find something in him you really like. remember to look in his eyes, see him deeply. learn to love him, accept who he is. you learned in the past that you'll appreciate the value of a thing if its lost. learn from past mistakes. now, the aswer is in your hands, it's you who will decide.
2006-06-20 03:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jay Aka. ngerkday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Even it hurts him you should gently let him know what is going on. If you continue it will just be unfair to him. Also, if you end it abruptly without an explanation that's also unfair - especially since you care about his feelings. Be honest but gentle.
2006-06-20 02:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Curious88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u still love ur ex, then just tell him we cant date for a while until u get over it, and tell him the problem. If he loves u he would wait.
2006-06-20 02:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look all u can do is be honest with him...let him know ur feelings about the ex and him.....tell him u may never b able to love him....but that u hope one day that u will....cause he is the kinda guy u would like to b with....then let him make his own dicision....but most important...BE HONEST....let him know where he stands.....then if he chooses to stay in relationship then it's all him...cause he knows the ups and downs....GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-06-20 02:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by pma_hc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might just need your own space to heal your wounds. Be honest with him and if the new guy is as great as he sounds then he'll give you the space you need. Everyones been where you are now, so understands it takes time to heal.
2006-06-20 02:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear, no two men are alike. Where one will break your heart another will mend it. Love can only replace love and as soon as you find yourself in love with someone else will your love be gone for the other.
2006-06-20 02:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you should be honest.. or should I say you should have been honest already. I know heartreak and I know it is eaiser with someone but until you are really ready to give yourself to someone you are just using them. You should either be with him 100 % or you should move on... your call.. good luck
2006-06-20 02:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by devashka15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋