2006-06-19 19:21:20 · 14 answers · asked by Eizo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Juvenile Services for Therapy!!! They have programs and psychologists that can help.
Local Mental Health Clinic. Therapy there also.
Tough Love!!! My(YOUR) way, or the highway!!!
2006-06-19 19:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since we don't know what "going wild" entails in this situation we can only guess as to wht he is doing. I will say this, regardless of what people using drugs mught say, they lack self-respect. If that is the problem, i suggest talking to him about what it is that has him felling negative about himself. One thing that you cannot do is sit back and do nothing. Is the father in the home? If so, he needs to get some serious one on one time with his son. If father is not in home, then maybe an uncle or older cousin or close family friend. Trying to get him into a church organization right now will only further his rebellion. I suggest that you try to find a older man that is willing to interact with your son regularly in a way that he doesn't realize that is a type of "interventiom." maybe go to a ball game or to a water park or the movies or go cart racing. This relationship needs to be developed very carefully so that he doesn't rebel against it as well. If you can get him involved with something like that and he realizes how great life can be with out all the rebellion, it may nip this in the bud before it gets to be a chronic way of life. You also need to be sure not to nag. Express your concerns and voice your opinions and lay down the law, but don't nag. Also, the male figure needs to be the one to approach your son with the relationship, not you. You and the man can discuss it prior to the son being approached (like while you are at work or the son is out of the house). Otherwise it will just be you "running his life." Maybe you could get ball tickets and get then to the male figure and then he could indepentantly call your son to see if he would like to join him at the game since he has an extra ticket. Don't force it or he will know you arranged it. If it doesn't work the first time, or the second, keep trying, he'll come around. And listen to why he refuses. Maybe the man gets on his nerves or he just doesn't like ballgames, etc. And don't forget to pray. Good luck to you.
2006-06-19 19:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by Redneck-n-happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to instill positive values in him, be a good role model, and be there to pick him up when he falls. With that said, DO NOT pull his fat out of the fire if he continues to make the same mistakes knowing that daddy will bail him out.
2006-06-19 19:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Valag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it is natural for a teenage especially at that age.
they looking for personal identity, so they might rebell against their parents or do wild things.
you should just love him and let him be ..
trust me, don't try to stop him harshly, just let it be, don't think that this wild behaviour will last till he's adult, no it will stop by itself. let he find and explore the world. ... make mistakes and learn ...
2006-06-19 19:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I was 15 years old... my parents didn't have any restrictions on me or anything, I could do whatever I want. He is going to have to choose weither or not he wants to do something and it just makes him more independent if he can make choices on his own... just try to offer your help and let him do what he wants to... no teen wants to be pressured into being responsible... he will when he wants to be.
2006-06-19 19:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange for him to have a tour of your local juvenile detention home and let him know in no uncertain terms that have absolutely no qualms about putting him there if he doesn't straighten his a** out.
2006-06-19 19:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. FairyLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gonna sit down with him in the anytime and talk to him first you got let him know now and sit talk about whats going on
2006-06-19 19:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep an eye on his friends.Watch carefully his company out side the home.Never let him know that ur doing all this. never lose ur hope .good luck
2006-06-19 19:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by jFk@h$* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and talk sense into him. don't let him learn from his mistake cos at that time it will be too late. just cont. talking to him, stand on your heel and let him know you mean business.
2006-06-19 19:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by manny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF U COULD GIVE SOME DETAILS AS TO WHAT HE IS OR ISN'T DOING IT WOULD HELP A LOT MORE TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION .
2006-06-19 19:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by ms_ j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋