My son did not buy me a mothers day gift but he bought my husband a fathers day gift..I'm hurt..what do I do?

Question

He is 30 and wealthy

Answer 1

Well I would not buy him a gift on Christmas and buy a gift for everyone else then tell him what comes around goes around and then ask him how it feels. LOL ...just kidding. I would talk to him and ask him and let him know he hurt your feelings. How old is he anyway? He should no better than that shame on him what a bad boy he should respect his Mother! OK I am done having a cow now. My mom is like my best friend and just reading your question upset me so I can not even imagine how hurt you are. I hope it works out for you..

Answer 2

Tell your son that you were disappointed that he didn't give you a Mother's Day gift. It's not necessary to mention that he bought your husband a Father's Day gift. Just focus on your feelings about Mother's Day. It's hard, but try to not place blame and use "I-language". Hopefully he will be sympathetic to how you feel, but at the very least, then he'll know that it hurt you and (hopefully) be more considerate in the future.

Answer 3

Well, first of it would depend on the age of your son, I am sure a son between the ages 10-15 maybe going through a phase of thinking about his father and his father's needs first. Second, is there a possibility he may have forgotten it was mother's day ? Is there a possibility he didn't have enough money to buy you something then?
I think that you should ask him what's going on? Just be honest, and say look son, I am glad you care about your father enough to buy him a present, but why didn't you get me one? Without a mother and father you wouldn't be here and so, just know that as our child you should love us equally, regardless of favorite parentism. (I made up that word obviously, but it makes a point).

Answer 4

Not being oversensitive about it will help a lot. Be objective about it. Is your son generally closer to his dad? Ask yourself why. Do they share the same hobby? Does his dad respect his need for space and privacy? Does his dad spend a lot of time with him? Does his dad treat him as an equal, meaning not patronising him like a child? What about you, do you?

My advise is for you to look at the bigger picture. It's not about the gift. It's about your relationship with your son. Perhaps he doesn't buy you gifts because you never show your appreciation towards anything he does for you, so he thinks, why bother? Daddy would always appreciate him, gifts or no.

Gifts can't be asked for or demanded for. They come to only those who deserve it. Work harder to earn your son's respect and the gift will come in due course.

Answer 5

Well you shouldn't get mad at him. It probley dosen't mean he dosen't like his father more than you or something like that.

Maybe he didn't have enough money saved when it was Mother's Day. Im sure he wished you a Happy Mother's Day. It also depends on how old your son is. Although materalism dosen't matter ... it shouldn't matter. I don't think it's a big deal. You should be a little more specific on the problem. How old is your son? Did he say Happy Mothers day to you? Do you and your son have relationship problems?

Answer 6

What is your sons age? Is he old enough to think of mothers/fathers day alone? Or did you help him with the fathersdaygift and his dad didn't remind him of mother day? Find out what happened, your son may not have had bad intentions at all. And if he did it on purpose, I think its time to sit down with him and ask for his reasons. Don't yell or get angry, just have a good talk, it may be a turn point for the better!

Answer 7

Maybe he felt that he had bought you gifts on other occasions already and you are not that gift-conscious. Did he take you out for dinner on Mother's Day? If he did, then that's the gift.
Alternatively don't be that quick to give him and his children gifts since he is wealthy.

Answer 8

As a Jehovah's Witness, I never buy gists to my parents on these days. What I try doing them is showing them that I appreciate them all-year long. Thats why I think holidays such as these and Christmas are risks that can hurt others. People expect you to buy them stuff, stuff that they sometimes cant afford.

Perhaps your son forgot, maybe you can tell him how it made you fee.

My friends step sister, the oldest of all 5 girls, never called her biological father to her graduation.

Ive noticed that this type of behavior is a sort of non-verval communication. He hurt me, so to let him know, I will hurt him in return. Really, its a snow ball effect.

Or maybe he forgot. Once, my dad forgot it was his anniversary and walked in the door empty handed, yeah, my mom got kind of upset.

But they still love each other, and thats what matters.

Hopefully you realize your son loves you. If he forgot, we all do. If he did so on purpose, its his way of telling you something. Either way mom, dont take it personal.

Tell him how you feel if it gets in the way, and perhaps maybe you can get him a greeting card that reads, "happy son's day baby, I miss you."

Answer 9

Well, you can't take him back to Sears. You are just gonna have to live with this. Such a terrible thing to happen. I bet he is a rotten kid too. Pulls wings off of flies the whole bit. Whatever you do, don't let on to him that you noticed this. Just wait until he gets married, and tell him you will disown him if he "marries that girl!", that will show him!

Get over it! Perhaps his father actually coahed him on Father's Day and told him what he wanted. Do the same with your son and try for next year and your birthday. Kids can't read mother's minds.

Answer 10

mothers should be compassionate and understanding, why are you hurt? because selfishness and self pity rest in your heart. if you're going to look at Jesus teachings, you will learn that pure love doesn't envy and not easily provoke nor hurt; for true love endureth all. when envy enters your heart, PRAY to GOD to bless you with pure love that you may overcome those hurt feelings you have. you should not think of yourself but instead think of other people who needs love, by showing your love with them, you will learn that what you have just experience is only a bit to what others have experience. You should ask yourself, does my son have a problem financially that he forgot to buy me a gift? there's a lot of factor to consider, of why you didn't receive a gift. so try not to think of yourself, but try to think of others concern, of how you can best help them. thru this, the pain inside you will disappear.