My sister has been madly-in love with this guy Jack since she was 16 and would always talk about how they were soulmates and nothing could keep them apart.When she finished high school they went to different school and broke-up as the long distance thing was too hard.Over the years they were on and off and she always said both of them knew they'd end up together.Now years they're both 26 and married to other people and everytime I see them together I can't figure out what happened.Why aren't they together when it's clear as day to everyone except their spouses that they belong together.She ended up pregnant with another guy who she ended up marrying but it seems so wrong to be apart from the one she calls her soulmate even if a child is involved when it's clear they belong together.It's a reputation thing that keeps her from walking away from her husband because he's a well known lawyer and she doesn't want people to gossip but she's not happy. I feel so bad for her.
2006-06-19 18:58:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
cause that is life
2006-06-19 19:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that how life is..
I had a boyfriend too for a long time, since I was in college..but we are not really meant for each other. He is my neighbor, and my husband is from different country. There are time some things happen that is unexpected.
Long distance relationship seldom works unless you two both make a hard work to make it better..
Everything that we do has always a reason. You can never tell that the boyfriend you have right now, is the guy you will be with for the rest of your life...Sometimes, people are getting married too, but still they are not meant for each other... Only God knows everything.. It is what we called FATE or DESTINY.
Everything happen to our lives has own reason, why things change, why things happen...Its not a matter of luck, it is a matter of choice sometimes..
I believe that there is some kind of intuition that dictates us all the time, but we dont listen sometimes, that's how we get mistakes..There is some people who we dearly loved at all but on the other side of our mind, there is a doubt. But there is some people you just met and the love just develops, but you dont have doubt at all.. sometimes thats what we called destiny...
2006-06-19 19:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pishtosh. If they were destined to be together, they'd have done something about it. Some people just like to keep that fantasy on the back burner as a way of keeping excitement in their otherwise lackluster lives. But honey, don't feel bad for her. She has made her own bed, and ought to be putting her energy into the family she chose. This made-for-each-other idea has sabotaged many a marriage. Their timing was bad, but now they should just move on and accept the lives they both agreed to. So she is unhappy...there is no happiness guarantee in life, and in fact, we are one of the few cultures which thinks that individual happiness is more important than personal responsibility. Don't feed this fantasy with her, it is not helping her mental or emotional health.
2006-06-19 19:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Cindi A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get him to a therapist. He is not acting his age. Yes, many women say that they are raising a child when they married, but in his case, it's really bad. He sounds like the girl with emotional needs and many insecurities. Prob has abandonment issues. Give him an ultimatum and tell him that he needs to goto therapy before you can marry him. You need to move out. A married couple shouldn't be together ALL the time. You are true to want your own time, your own free time. he is using guilt trips and being really passive aggressive on making you feel bad. this is not a healthy relationship!!! you need to tell him honestly how you feel or else you will definitely get a divorce! whether if he cries or not, he needs to know this is not normal mature man's behavior.
2016-05-20 04:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because life is ****. Tell your sister to follow her heart, and be with her soulmate. Life's too short. She needs to be happy and with the one she loves more than anything in the world. Her child will be much happier with two parents who are divorced and happy, then together and unhappy. Tell her to go for her soulmate. Who gives a stuff about what people around her think. Its her life. She shouldn't waste a second of it.
Now i'm sad for her too. :-(
2006-06-20 00:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should take these events as a blessing...one day it will be clear why things happen like that! EVerything happens for a reason....a good reason... Just make the most of everything, and look at the brighter side of things!!
2006-06-19 22:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are meant to be together, the cycle of life will make it so. It may take years, it may not be till the next lifetime - but eventually love always comes back around.
2006-06-20 01:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I'm in the same boat...sometimes nothing good can come from pursuing your soul mate...I wish it were different, but maybe that is one of those life lessons.
2006-06-19 19:04:13 · answer #8 · answered by James T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people don't always make right choices in life. But they have to live with the consequences of their actions and decisions
2006-06-19 19:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by ♥*´`*ღPink♥*´`*•.¸¸ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason. You'll see one day why everything played out the way it did.
2006-06-19 19:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by RYSN1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who connected with their "soulmate" after their marriages brokedown and it turned out they made better friends than lovers...
2006-06-19 19:22:01 · answer #11 · answered by gobld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋