I want to play paintball and have everything planned out. I have already asked my mom and she lets me play paintball. My dad is the problem. Even though they are paitnball markers, he thinks they are guns. He also have a couple of reasons he doesnt let me. Are there any reasons or ways I can use to convince him!
2006-06-19 18:56:58 · 12 answers · asked by crazy8tiger 4 in Sports ➔ Outdoor Recreation ➔ Other - Outdoor Recreation
First I would like to know how old you are , but besides that you can show my answer to your father it might help him understand a little about our sport .
I am a 35 year old father of 2 great kids my daughter is 12 and my son is 10 I myself have been playing paintball for over 15 years and am amazed on how the sport has grown both of my children play and as we play i teach them very important lessons on gun safety and personal safety as well .
I have a very good friend who thought even toy guns should be kept from his son and I watched him fall apart when his son was rushed to the emergency room because he shot himself in the foot playing with a real gun yes it could have been worse he was lucky.
My point is keeping your children safe in my opinion really is education not ignorance , my children not only respect the safety rules enforced by myself and other players be they the refs at a game or just a pick up game between friends the rules still apply and they know this I have taught them to always check to make sure the safty is on and the marker is unloaded before they hand it to anyone or put it away .
I also keep the markers locked up so they arent tempted to bring them out and get into trouble .
so to you sir I will answer some of your questions if I can .
ok the first question i can think of and have heard it many times myself is , don't I think I am teaching my children that shooting people is ok , and my answer is that no I dont worry about that because it really is an absurd question if you think about it if I didnt think my children were smart enough to realize the diference between a paintball marker and a real gun then I should have them in special classes huh .
and then i ask them if when they were kids if they didnt play cops and robbers they knew children that did and how many of those kids grew up to be mass murderers i cant think of one of my friends that i played with that have can you ?
feel free to e-mail me with any other questions you might have
2006-06-20 04:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by painttastesgreat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to show responsibility. By doing that you will make your dad realize that you wouldn't shoot anything that you shouldn't be shooting at. What do you have for protection? Do you have all that is needed like head and face gear as well as body gear to play this game?
If he's worried about you getting hurt, perhaps you could sit down with him and show him all that you know about paintball, the rules and what you would be wearing for protection. Tell him how often you would like to play the game (ie: once a week, once a month). Ask him if he would go with you to see where the game is played and if he would be willing to learn more about it. Maybe he would enjoy playing paintball with you.
If he's totally against it, ask him how long it will be before he will feel comfortable with you playing the game. Maybe in another three, six, or nine months? When he hears you talk about all these things I've mentioned, he may decide that you've matured enough and you're ready to play the game!
Good luck!!
2006-06-20 02:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Healthnut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your question it's evident your parents know you better than you know yourself at this point. Show some more responsibility around the house, do stuff you know you have to do without being told. Taking ownership for your responsibilities will go along way in their eyes rather than you badgering your parents with chatter about how your 1 said it was alright and the other says no. (No one likes complainers)
Paintball guns are still guns, they shoot things and if not careful can still seriously hurt someone. By doing the things I mentioned above for a good amount of time you'll be having plenty of opportunities to go play paintball because you're actions will show them you're ready for that type of responsibility.
2006-06-20 21:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by pico_pica81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to honor your dad's judgment and not play until you are no longer under his authority, if he insists on denying permission. But he still might be able to be convinced. You just have to present it to him in a logical way. First, you have to convince him that you are a responsible person, and you can go about that by doing responsible things that aren't paintball-related. Second, you need to show him pictures, web sites, etc. that point to the safety features and precautions that paintball enthusiasts take. Then, emphasize the time you spend outdoors, the exercise you'd get, the camaraderie of being involved in a "manly" activity.
2006-06-20 02:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by cassport 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try sitting down with him or doing something with him around the house and patiently listening to his concerns. Respectfully. Don't interrupt him or argue in an offensive or immature, whining way. Find out the real root of his concerns. If it's a conservativism about guns, think about it honestly. Maybe your interest in paintball is completely innocent, but is it really? Some parents are concerned about the glorification of war and fighting -- and rightfully so. Just hear him out and then try reassuring him that he has taught you better than that. Let him see that you are mature enough to consider his viewpoint and help him see that maybe he doesn't have quite so much to worry about in that area.
This kind of communication with him may pay off in a lot of ways in the longrun and could bring the two of you much closer together. It's one of the best ways to earn a parents' trust and to set his mind at ease. The secret is -- we parents are terrified of what could become of our kids every single day and that makes it hard for us not to over-protect. Be grateful that your dad loves you that much.
2006-06-20 02:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by bikerpjb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your father has a mind set against guns, then he is irrational and no amount of logic will make him change his mind. Anti-gun people are like religious fanatics and just can not and will not be convinced that they are wrong. I would ignore him and if you come home with paint on you tell him you have been to a queer paint class. He will be proud of you then.
2006-06-20 02:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by sonny_too_much 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I could go on with a series of names to call your dad, but I don't think that would help your situation *cough-pantywaist-cough* excuse me....
Anyway, how old are you?
Assure him that you'll be wearing safety gear (goggles, body armor) and that it's a popular sport that has practical learning in it. Someone in your hippie house is going to have to know how to aim when that war comes to our soil! Sure isn't your *cough-sissy-cough* Dad.
2006-06-20 02:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him this:
http://www.paint-ball.org/paintball/safety_report.htm
2006-06-20 13:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by jwalker343 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your mom allready said you could then taht shouldnt stop you but if your dad has a big say in it jsut simply say its not harmless adn your mom allready siad it was fine!
2006-06-20 01:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Marissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to play with you for the first time so he can see what it's all about... he'll probably have fun and that's that.
2006-06-20 02:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Matthew C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋