My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 2 yrs.Our wedding date is planned for the last weekend in Sep.Now, I have an 18 year old son and his children are grown.I'm 41 and he's 53,he's talking about us having a baby together.I love my fiance very much,he's my heart and my soul,but I don't want any more children.We've discussed it, and he said if that's what i want he doesn't have a problem with it.But I can tell he's hurt by my decision.I've explained to him about how medically risky it is for me to have another child right now because of my age.He said he understands.So,we're thinking of becoming foster parents once we're married.Is anyone else going through the same thing,or something similar.Talk to me.
2006-06-19 18:42:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's time to rest and enjoy your lives free from daiper changing and 3 am feedings. Why on earth does he want another child? Very uncharacteristic of a man. Anyway most of the job of taking care of the baby will be by you which will tie you down and stop you from doing what you want. Both of you should be getting ready to be grandparents in a few years time. Why not reserve your energies for your grandchildren then?
2006-06-19 20:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is 52 and she became a foster parent. She loves it. It is trying at times, but it is worth the rewards. She is thinking seriously of adopting the foster child she currently has.
Two loving people who can help a child is wonderful. You might not be biological parents, but you will love them. You can request an age, so if you like babies --you will get a baby.
It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship, and fostering a child is not easy. I wish the best of luck to the two of you. With your wedding and with fostering.
2006-06-20 01:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I PERSONALLY HAVEN'T BEEN IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS BUT I SAY IF YOU BOTH WANT A CHILD & YOU ARE CONCERNED ABOUT UR AGE & HEALTH RISK THERE ISN'T ANYTHING WRONG WITH ADOPTING A BABY OR SMALL CHILD , THRE R SO MANY CHILDREN WAITING TO B ADOPTED TO A LOVING FAMILY . EVEN THOUGH YOU & HE DIDN'T CONCIEVE THE CHILD TOGETHER IT WILL B YOURS TOGETHER , U BOTH HAVE THE OPTION OF THE SEX , AGE , ETC. OF THE CHILD & IT SOUNDS AS IF U BOTH HAVE THE HEART & LOVE TO GIVE TO A CHILD THAT WASN'T BORN TO THE 2 OF U . GOOD LUCK & PRAYERS FOR U BOTH .
2006-06-20 02:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by ms_ j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im getting married in dec....and busy preparing everything. I may not have the exact same problem....but im 23 and my man who is 30 wants to have a baby staright away....we been having along distance relatioonsip so he doesnt understand i wanna enjoy my life alone with him for atleast a few years....my man is understanding...but he wishes to give his mum a grand child just in case anything happens to her, he wants to fulfil her wish to have a baby ASAP! i feel stuck between the two!
2006-06-20 02:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can adopt an older child or be a foster parent. there are other options. besides you both have grandchildren to look forward to.
2006-06-20 01:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a foster parent
2006-06-20 12:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by suziQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....foster children are great...how about surrogate mothers?? your eggs are still viable at this age and his sperm is too....you will have your offspring and you dont have to go through pregnancy! the cost is another thing...
2006-06-20 02:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by mz.Tiza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋